Hello, I'm Xiaoqian
On the road of life, it is just a blink of an eye, and people seem to be old.
As a parent, I devote my time and energy to my children all my life. I hope that in my old age, I can be treated well by my children and be filial to them.
However, how many people do not get along well with their children in their old age. There are many run-ins and contradictions between each other.
If the parent-child relationship is not good, how can they be liked by their children and be filial to their children. If you want to be filial to your children, you must learn to manage the parent-child relationship.
When you are old and don't want to be disliked by your children, don't do the following five things.
Everyone has their own way of life. Even their own children have their own paths.
A cousin of mine, who is 60 years old this year, lives with his children. After his son gets married, he still has to be the master of the house, and everything must be approved by him.
As a result, the son's life is very passive, and the daughter-in-law feels that she can't integrate into the family. The relationship at home is very bad.
My cousin was angry all the year round and had a very unhappy life, saying that his son was not filial and ignorant. The son and daughter-in-law often quarrel with him, and the relationship is getting worse day by day.
In a family, if you want to manage family relationships well, you must learn to let go and not manage too much.
Learn to respect your children's lives, no matter what their way of life is, and not to interfere or care.
In the face of tribulation, they can grow. Retain a sense of space with each other in order to get along amicably.
Children like to rely on their parents to solve problems on the way to growth. In later years, parents begin to prefer to live dependent on their children.
If you want to manage your life well in your later years, you must maintain relative independence.
Relying too much on your children will make it impossible for them to live a good life. They have their own careers to be busy with, their own pace of life, and the pressures they have to bear.
If parents ask their children to solve problems in everything, they will not be able to work with peace of mind. Moreover, it will also make children feel that their parents cannot handle any small things, and they will worry too much about their parents.
When parents get old, finding ways to solve some problems on their own will make their children love their parents more.
Parents are still parents with ideas and abilities in their hearts. Of course, when you encounter a problem that cannot be solved, it is necessary to ask your children for advice.
As people get older, their ability to make money decreases.
In his later years, he began to gradually realize that his ability to make money was gone. You must learn to manage your money well, and you must also learn to spend it reasonably.
Don't spend money indiscriminately, and don't transfer the financial pressure of spending money to your children.
When parents get older, most of their children have just started a family, and they are also under great financial pressure. Your career may still be in its infancy, but you have a family to support.
Your children's lives are not easy, so don't let them take on too much financial pressure on you too soon.
Get rid of your Xi of spending money indiscriminately, plan your money reasonably, and don't let your children live under financial pressure.
In many families, the poor relationship between parents and children comes from poor Xi habits.
Some parents feel that they are elders, and their children should respect their life Xi. Therefore, for their own bad life routine, bad life Xi never wants to improve.
His children kindly reminded him to adjust his life Xi, but he felt from the bottom of his heart that he was ostracized, disrespected, and disliked.
In fact, when a family is together, it is necessary to take care of each other and respect each other.
In particular, when children get married and a new member of the family enters the door, they must learn to run in.
For some bad life Xi timely adjustment, get along with each other comfortably, the relationship will be better.
What's more, restraining your life Xi can also make your body healthier, so why not?
When you get along with your children, if you want to not be disliked, you must learn not to worry too much.
On the road of life, you must learn to control your mouth. Sometimes, talking too much will only cause more misunderstandings.
Whatever choice your child has, don't overdo itNo matter what your children buy, how they spend their money, and what kind of consumption they have, don't say too much ......
Learn to respect, learn to accept, learn to understand. As a parent, don't interfere too much in the lives of your children, who are already adults.
Whether it's good or bad, that's their life.
Talking too much and managing too much will only make children lose themselves, feel disrespected, and want to stay away from their parents from the bottom of their hearts.
Talk less, talk less, give more understanding, and the relationship will become more harmonious.
When people get along with their children in their old age, they must learn to manage their feelings.
Instead of feeling that when you are old, you should be respected and accepted by them. Being stubborn and focusing only on one's own feelings and thoughts will inevitably cause discomfort in children.
If you manage your relationship with your children well, you will have more happiness in your home.
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Xiao Qian: A writer who loves words, loves words, and codes words for ten years. In his spare time, he will meet friends with words. For the rest of my life, with you by my side, life will be steaming.