There are positive and negative emotions in children. Positive emotions, such as happiness, excitement, self-confidence, contentment, etc., can enhance a child's self-esteem, self-confidence, and positivity, and promote a child's growth. Negative emotions, such as sadness, anger, fear, anxiety, etc., can help children recognize their own needs and difficulties, stimulate children's adaptability and problem-solving skills, and are also a necessary stage of children's development. Whether it is positive or negative emotions, it is a normal manifestation of a child and deserves to be respected and accepted.
However, in real life, we often see that some parents and educators adopt inappropriate attitudes and methods towards their children's emotions, resulting in children's emotional problems not being effectively solved, and even aggravating children's emotional distress. For example:
Some parents and educators ignore or deny their children's emotions, believing that their children's emotions are vexatious, making a fuss, and not being sensible, or they are deliberately resisting, provoking, or sabotaging, so as to turn a blind eye to their children's emotions, or use criticism, reprimand, punishment, etc. to suppress their children's emotions, so that children feel misunderstood, neglected, and hurt, resulting in more nervous, depressed, and negative emotions.
Some parents and educators overly accommodate or indulge their children's emotions, believing that their children's emotions are uncontrollable and unchangeable, or out of love and pity for their children, so as to unconditionally obey their children's emotions, or use doting, coaxing, bribery and other ways to appease their children's emotions, so that children feel indulged, pampered, and used, resulting in children's emotions becoming more willful, dependent, and greedy.
So, how can you treat your child's emotions correctly?Here are some suggestions:
First of all, we should respect children's emotions, do not easily judge, belittle or deny children's emotions, but try to understand, accept and tolerate children's emotions, so that children can feel our care and support, so as to enhance children's sense of security and trust.
Secondly, we should listen to the child's emotions, do not ignore or interrupt the child's emotional expression, but patiently listen, observe and ask the child's emotions, so that the child can feel our attention and attention, so as to enhance the child's self-awareness and self-expression.
Thirdly, we should guide children's emotions, not to overly accommodate or indulge children's emotions, but to properly regulate, educate and channel children's emotions, so that children can feel our expectations and encouragement, so as to enhance children's self-control and self-regulation.
Finally, we should accompany our children's emotions, not isolate or exclude them, but actively participate, share and assist them in their emotions, so that they can feel our empathy and cooperation, so as to enhance their social skills and social adaptation.
In short, children's emotions need to be treated well, so as to promote the healthy growth of children, cultivate children's good character, and lay a solid foundation for children's future.