The Ming Dynasty writer Chen Jiru wrote in "The Story of the Small Window":
It's not so much a pleasure to meet someone as it is a pleasure to meet a long-term friend.
In life, the first moments of happiness are intoxicating, but long-term relationships that don't get boring are even more desirable.
After half a life, ups and downs, intermittently, communication between people is valued in the heart, and the emphasis is on communication.
If you interact with each other, I always take the initiative to communicate and contact, and you always passively accept, which will only make people cold in the long run, and no longer take the initiative to communicate, and the relationship will come to an abrupt end.
If we can keep going back and forth with each other, this time I take the initiative to find you, and once again you take the initiative to find me, because of a small problem, one thing and reconnect, it will make the relationship stronger and longer.
I once saw the same point in the book Gifts, Relationships, and Nations:
The most important thing in a relationship is constant communication. ”
At a deep level, only when each other is troubled can we exchange each other's true feelings in the interaction, and two people cherish each other, then the relationship will get better and better.
In short, the longest relationship between people can be summed up in eight words: each other's troubles, each other's gratitude.
Zhuangzi Mountains and Forests says:
The friendship of the wise is as plain as water, but it is not vain"
The best relationships in the world are often not too much hustle and bustle, but the details of each other's troubled lives, and enhance feelings through interaction and communication.
Even if you encounter a small problem, you can take the initiative to ask the other party, and also in exchange for his serious treatment. Wait until the other party doesn't understand something, and then find a way to solve it yourself.
The other party is the first person who thinks of it when encountering difficulties, and dares to trouble the other party and ask for help, which will make the other party more trusting, and because in trouble, the sincerity of the exchange makes the relationship more and more stable.
Trouble to know people, mud to know horses.
When things are impetuous, there are not many people who can lend a helping hand in difficult times, and only at this time will they see a person clearly and understand a relationship.
Each other's troubles are a manifestation of the heart that values each other more, and it is also a symbol that the two care more about the relationship, and only by experiencing the low tide of silence together can they withstand the changes of the world.
This kind of trust is worth cherishing for a lifetime, and it is a rare good fortune in a lifetime.
There is a saying in the Tao Te Ching:
Teachers who do not respect it, do not love its resources, although it is a great example of wisdom.
That is to say, if a person does not respect his teacher and does not know how to appreciate the support of others, even if he is talented, he will be lost and lack wisdom in life.
Walking in the present, in fact, the most important thing is to have a grateful heart, because it is warm, full of wisdom, and it is also a manifestation of a person's sobriety.
Only by knowing how to be grateful to each other can we always remember each other's kindness to us, can we see the highlights of communication, and can we make the relationship last.
On the road of life, there will be all kinds of people passing by, and those who are really willing to stop and help us are the noblest people in our lives.
When you are grateful and can reciprocate in time, the other party will also feel the trickle of warmth, recognize you more as a person, and will let this kindness pass on for a long time, so that your life path will be wider and wider.
Knowing how to be grateful is the greatest sobriety in life, because knowing how to be grateful will make the other party feel good, will make the relationship rise to a new height, let two people cherish each other's encounters, and will also reduce some estrangement and friction.
It is not easy to meet the best friend in life, if two people can have a kind heart and appreciate each other's efforts, the relationship will continue.
Zhuangzi Yufu wrote:
True, sincerely;If you're not honest, you're not attractive. ”
When you see all the warmth and coldness, you will understand more that too many routines and tricks are often to the point, and only sincere people can be exchanged for sincerity.
Because sincerity is the best way to test the relationship with each other, some people will fail you, that is to prove that they have no chance, some people know how to reciprocate, and each other can make the relationship closer and closer in interaction.
Life is a process of removing the false and keeping the true, simplifying the complex, and the same is true for the relationship between people.
When both can cause trouble for each other, it will allow two people to see each other's true colors, and will also exchange real feelings in the interaction, so that the relationship will become stronger over time.
When each other knows how to be grateful, it is not only a kind of life wisdom, but also a kind of self-sobriety, so that each other can find the person they cherish the most in each other's warmth.
I give you the spring of March, and you give me the peach blossoms of April.
For the rest of my life, I hope we can all meet people in our lives, have the most comfortable relationships in the world, be at ease, and make life better!