Is it wrong for her to oppose premarital sex but be retaliated against by the man?

Mondo Social Updated on 2024-01-31

A convicted ** criminal, the whole network speaks for him?

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Who is he?The party to the "engagement case" in Yanggao County, Shanxi Province - Xi.

He has been in prison for more than 200 days since May**.

On December 25, the first trial ended, and he was sentenced to three years

Screenshot from an article posted by Xi's mother, Zhen).

The next day, Xi's mother posted a post to restore the details with the account of "meticulous sky 9a7".

In February this year, 27-year-old Xi met 24-year-old Li through a matchmaking agency, and the two got along well.

After 3 months of love, Xi planned to add his girlfriend Li's name to the house book, but his mother Zhen did not agree

An agreement was signed during the engagement ceremony

Send 7A 2-gram gold ring, a bride price of 1880,000 yuan, 100,000 yuan will be given for the engagement ceremony on May 1, and the rest of the marriage will be made up

On May 1st, an engagement banquet was held.

On May 2nd, according to local customs, a homecoming banquet was held, and after lunch, the two went back to the room together.

At around 3 p.m., the elevator monitor showed the two hugging each other

After the two returned to the room, they had a relationship, and the controversy over the "* case" began.

In the initial report, Zhen's statement was:

It's your love for two people to have a relationship

Afterwards, the woman took a bath first, and asked Xi to make up the bride price immediately, and add her name to the room book.

After being rejected, the woman was very angry

After that, the woman's mother talked to Xi and secretly recorded it.

During the conversation, she asked, "You're ** my daughter, right?."”

Xi replied: "Yes." ”

Zhen felt that this might be a trick, blaming his son for being too honest, and echoed the other party's statement out of respect for his elders

In Zhen's pen, her son has an excellent personality.

After the defendant, more than 100 people in the village signed a joint letter for him.

There was a conflict, and neighbors who had not dealt with each other for more than ten years also reached out

mentioned the woman Li, Zhen was talking about her material both inside and outside the words:

She lives with her mother and has three older brothers at home, and her conditions are average

After three months of love, I want to add my name to the house book

Before getting engaged, he received two gold rings, plus buying clothes and daily expenses, and spent at least 120,000 yuan

Zhen said that Li's eldest brother also came to the door to ask for a name to be added to the house.

Because it was not done in time, Li called the police two days after the incident

After calling the police, the woman's parents still wanted to make a big deal small, hoping to promote the marriage

But there is also a condition, that is, the man's house book must be immediately added to the woman's name.

At first, the negotiations were settled, but later because they did not add their names in time, the woman was unhappy and insisted on filing the case

Seeing this, you will probably think that Li was premeditated and deceived the bride price by falsely accusing **.

Therefore, there are also many people who sympathize with Xi and cry out for him

felt that he was deceived by the woman into marriage and was "jumped by the immortals".

After being arrested for more than 200 days, he was sentenced to 3 years in prison, which is really wronged.

Encourage him to take revenge on the woman after he is released from prison

They said that this ** case will be of epoch-making significance

But is all this true?

The above-mentioned report basically only adopted Zhen's statement, and in order to exonerate her son, she avoided the important and trivial, and the information she conveyed was one-sided and single, and there were also false errors and omissions

The victim girl has not appeared in public since the incident, and there are many theories circulating on the Internet:

She once gave the marriage agency a referral fee of 30,000 yuan, and the two have lived together since they met Xi.

She had a history of marriage before and had transferred the man's property

The official later came forward to clarify:

Rumors such as "fraudulent marriage", "blackmail by suing **", "the two parties are in a cohabitation relationship", "the victim has a marriage history", "the victim gave 30,000 yuan to the marriage agency" and other rumors are all false information

What is the truth?

A few days before the incident, Xi said to Li: "There are just 3 days left to get engaged, and your aunt is about to leave." ”

In other words, the woman may be in the menstrual period at the time of the assault

In this way, the girl's confession that she refused to have a relationship is more credible

Surveillance shows that on the day of the incident, she ran out of the room on the 14th floor and went down to the 13th floor through the stairs to shout "help".

It's just that he was forcibly dragged back to the room on the 14th floor by Xi to implement **

After the injury evaluation, Li's armpits, left and right arms, and right wrist all had bruises left by the struggle

Afterwards, because of his emotion, Li also lit a fire to the bedroom cabinet and the living room curtains to defend himself

Moreover, the girl did not call the police for several days after the incident, as Zhen said.

When she was assaulted, her mobile phone was taken away and she immediately called the police that night after getting it

After calling the police, ** saw that the relationship between the two parties involved was special, and I didn't plan to file a case in the early stage, and I wanted to mediate as much as possible.

After all, the ** case is a public prosecution case, and once the case is filed, it cannot be withdrawn at will.

As a result of the mediation, the man's parents agreed to add the woman's name to the title deed, and the woman obeyed her parents and continued to marry.

But the man's family reversed course, and Li no longer had patience and insisted on suering.

The whole process is actually very normal, but under Zhen's description with added fuel and vinegar, it has become a woman's "extortion".

In the end, the court sentenced him to three years in prison.

However, he was not satisfied with the verdict and said in court that he would appeal

The next day, Zhen posted a document expressing his dissatisfaction with the verdict.

also complained that the victim girl is still holding her own 100,000 dowry and not returning

A lawyer said that in fact, it is completely understandable that the woman's family does not return the bride price at this stage.

*The case is a criminal case, and there may be civil compensation attached to it, and the bride price can be "refunded more and made up for less" after holding it in his hand, and the man can also recover the bride price from the woman through legal channels in the future.

So it is untenable to use this as an article to attack the woman

What's more, Li's real situation makes people can't bear to think about it.

When she was violated by Xi, the bruises all over her body and the burned curtains were all proof of her strong resistance.

After escaping, he did not hesitate to call the police, crying about the fact that he was **

And her family, when the police mediated, only wanted the two to get married quickly and calm the turmoil.

It's hard to say how much of their mentality they worry about pressure, and how much they worry about their daughter's depreciation and inability to re-"**".

So much so that they can think of the way to maximize profits, they actually stand on the side of the perpetrator, persuade her to learn to obey, and persuade her to accept.

Perhaps in their eyes, their face and reputation are far more important than the happiness of the girl in the second half of her life.

Or, whoever a daughter marries is married

Xi's parents prepared the wedding room and bride price in advance for him to get married, which became his capital for "bartering".

So the ** thing is ironclad, but he refuses to admit it.

Perhaps, in his view, the wedding is nothing more than a process of "labor delivery".

A woman can be objectified, and when she pays the bride price, she becomes a commodity for which a deposit has been paid, and since it is a commodity, she naturally enjoys the right to dominate

The victims were surrounded and suppressed, alone and alone

uses the concept of chastity to push the victim back to the perpetrator, and there is a similar scene in the TV series "Nine Righteous People".

The embroidered girl Rulan was embroidered by Wu Lian, the owner of the embroidery building** She couldn't get angry and ran to beat the drum to complain

But because Wu Lian relied on his connections and was not punished, it was Rulan who was victimized and pushed to the forefront.

People who don't know the truth insist that she took the initiative to seduce her, accusing her of taking the opportunity to climb high and marrying into a wealthy family before she was framed

After gaining her trust, the lawyer Zhao Yucheng took the opportunity to change the evidence and bite back in court, leaving her speechless

No one dared to come forward to testify against the other embroidery girls in the Yanyu Embroidery Building, and they even consciously sang praises for the criminals

is just because, once Wu Lian is convicted, these show girls will also face the question of "innocence".

Unmarried boudoir women, their reputation is more important than their lives

Her parents also did not support her prosecution, and her father blamed her for acting ignorant and hurting her parents

She spoke up for herself, but she was left behind.

All because Wu Lian is a celebrity with a head and face in Huaizhou City, and she is just the daughter of a small merchant in the city, she is weak, so she has no way to appeal.

In the end, she had to give up her escape plan and was forced to marry Wu Lian as a concubine

The strength of the perpetrator, the indifference of the bystanders, the incomprehension of the parents, and the closure of the social environment all came together and became the straw that crushed her.

And the last resistance she can do is to kill herself with a hairpin at the wedding ceremony, jump from a tall building, commit suicide with hatred, and make her will die

In fact, looking at the choices of female characters in film and television dramas over the years, we can see a change, that is, the disenchantment of "chastity".

In the past, the protagonist of the story encountered a ** case, the perpetrator was at large, and the victim girls basically could not escape the fate of "suicide".

For example, in "The Summer That Can't Be Said" released in 2014, after Bai Bai (played by Guo Caijie) was taught**, his first reaction was to hide in the bathroom and rinse his body repeatedly.

Later, she began to unconsciously self-harm, and at the same time, there was no one around her to give her warmth

People denounced her shamelessness and asked her, "Did you seduce the teacher?"”

In the end, she committed suicide in despair

In 2014, "Princess Han", based on a true story, was released, and the heroine Princess Han and another girl suffered a brutal multi-person **

After she survived, she wanted to escape all this, live a new life on a new campus, and make new friends.

However, the parents of the perpetrator came to her door and asked her to issue a letter of understanding, and finally even her relatives asked her to sign it for the sake of profit

Once again, the scars of the past are revealed, and the girl who has been violated becomes an abandoned "broken doll", knowing that she is destined to be unable to be reborn.

So she kept wondering: "They were the ones who did the wrong thing, why did I have to run away when I accepted the apology?"”

It's a pity that no one can answer.

She was obsessed with learning to swim, but she was afraid that one day she would commit suicide by jumping into the river like her violated companion.

But when she finally learned to swim, she lost the will to live.

In the end, she resolutely jumped into the cold river, sank little by little, and died of suffocation

Thankfully, more than a decade later, the situation of the victims is now slowly improving.

More and more subjects have begun to focus on the issue of "**", and the image of women has become more courageous and resolute from weakness.

They call the police, speak out, and even take revenge, and getting rid of the idea of "self-loathing" is an important step taken by the victims, and it is also a valuable change brought about by the budding self-consciousness of women.

"Imperfect Victim" in the workplace presents a complex victim.

Zhao Xun (played by Lin Yun), a white man in the workplace, was violated by her boss and called the police, but she did not meet the setting of "perfect victim".

The screenwriter wrote this character without telling it in black and white, and made us think about the real situation of women who were "voluntary" under the premise of unequal power structures

In "I Passed Through the Storm" *in marriage**, his wife Xu Min (played by Tong Liya) has outstanding abilities and often has to deal with drinking parties in order to work.

Because she is beautiful and often goes out early and returns late, her husband is full of suspicion of her, and she is violent in front of her children and forcibly has sex.

In the end, she couldn't bear it anymore and killed her husband in a domestic violence, and finally ended her painful marriage

In "Forbidden Girl", which tells the story of the campus, Teacher Wen took the opportunity to have intimate physical contact with female students through filming classes.

After the desire swelled, he also took the transfer student Nanno to a dark office and violated her again.

As everyone knows, all this is in Nanno's plan.

In order to expose the true face of the teacher, she did not hesitate to take the initiative to dedicate herself, and finally succeeded in sending Teacher Wen to prison

Bound by the concept of "raw rice cooked with mature rice", the essence is still acquiescing to the concept of female chastity from a male perspective.

The full value of a woman will be wiped out because of a loss of virginity, and the greatest praise for a woman is the arch of chastity.

But this is the past, it should not be now, and it will not be now.

Compared with talking about the victim girl being "dirty", the voice of denouncing the ** offender who should be punished according to law and the social death is getting louder and louder.

Conceptually clear about the poison of feudal thinking, create a more friendly environment, and make it easier for victims to open the next chapter of their lives.

Not to mention cooking mature rice, or boiling it into popcorn, they still have the right to start over.

The last sentence

To get rid of the oppression of women by the feudal concept of chastity, perhaps the first lesson that the domestic entertainment director has to make up is to shoot ** scenes in the future, learn to move the camera away from the frightened and frightened faces of women, and instead focus on those hideous criminals.

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