The status quo of introverted people: they don't want to talk, they think they are cold;Willing to listen, thinking it's an emotional trash can;I like to be quiet, and I misunderstand it for being unsociable;I like to communicate in words, but I have social difficulties.
I believe that many introverted people have experienced the above troubles, and some people even force themselves to do something that makes them very internal in order to make themselves more extroverted.
Wu Mian wrote in the book "I'm Sorry, I May Be Allergic to People": "What introverts really need to do is not to change their nature and force themselves into an extrovert, but to find a rhythm of life that really suits them." ”
How do you find your rhythm in life?
First of all, it is necessary to understand that extroverted personalities have their advantages, and introverted personalities also have the unique value of introverts. Personalities are just different, there is no good or bad, and there is no need to blindly envy people with extroverted personalities.
Hidden strengths that introverts have: conscientiousness, self-awareness, etc.
People with a strong sense of responsibility are able to bring security to others in interpersonal relationships and are more likely to gain the trust of others.
In everyone's eyes, introverts are cold, wooden, and not good at words on the outside, but introverts are very sensitive on the inside and have strong self-awareness.
People who are good at self-awareness have a clearer understanding of their true self, will be calmer, and will not lose themselves easily.
Secondly, introverts need to change their irrational perceptions, such as being social like extroverts, afraid of making mistakes, worried that others will not like them, etc.
Extroverts are socially active because extroverts like to show their self-worth and be seen by others.
Introverts, on the other hand, are not Xi to staying in social situations for too long, and are Xi to solving most problems in life alone.
So why be like an extrovert?Introverts don't need to be someone else, what introverts need to do is to return to their own lives and socialize with people as they wish.
In other words, introverts are cold and don't need useless socializing.
People make mistakes, and the consequences of making mistakes are not as serious as introverts think. Focus less on the problem and more on the gain, and treat mistakes with an encouraging mindset.
I'm Sorry, I May Be Allergic to People" shares a good way to change your mind, such as: when the thought of "I messed up again this time, I'm so stupid" comes up, convert it to "It's inappropriate to talk like this, another way of expressing it is better, and I've accumulated a little more social experience." ”
Isn't it easy to trap yourself in a vicious circle where you are not allowed to make mistakes and you can't accept them?
Introverts have a fatal point in that they care about other people's opinions and can easily become a people-pleaser.
You must know that there are two sides to everything, there are likes and dislikes, and we are not RMB, why should we do it for everyone to like it?
When introverts accept and allow some people to dislike and dislike them, they will not cause much harm and influence to themselves.
Finally, silence is a unique charm of the opposite sex.
Quiet introverts give the impression that emotional stability is a very important emotional value in today's society.
With someone who is too emotional, you will always test the other person's nerves, because you don't know when the other person will blow up.
Quiet people look a little cold from afar, but after close contact, you will find that I people are very sincere. Show what it is, don't brag, don't create a false character, don't steal and play tricks, but the same on the outside.
Quiet people are quiet on the surface, but in fact they often brainstorm and have all kinds of wild imagination and creative thinking, and this kind of jumping thinking and logic will make people feel that the soul is interesting.
When introverts recognize their own personality, appreciate their own personality and don't care too much about other people's opinions, they can find their own rhythm in life.
Finally, I would like to give you a quote from the book: Introverts are like a gold mine, they contain huge energy, but you won't see it at a glance.