The 58-year-old eldest brother gnawed at the old 92-year-old father, and the blind date confessed that he had a pension of 25,000 and gave me 5,000 a month
Prior to 2008, society often scoffed at young people who relied on their parents for support.
If someone is called"Gnawing on the old people", then the neighborhood within a radius of ten miles will talk about this group as synonymous with unproductiveness, laziness, and lack of self-motivation.
Definition of "gnawing old".
However, with the passage of time, the winds of society changed dramatically after 2008.
People are less concerned about the moral implications of "gnawing at the elderly" and more concerned about the future of young people who cannot rely on family support.
Why is there such a huge change?
Social morality is interrelated with the social background, and the reality of the current society is that if you want to create a good life, it is not enough to rely on your hands alone.
Mortgages are tight, the cost of education has risen sharply, buying a home has become an almost unattainable dream, and marriage is often based on an exchange of interests.
Young people are no longer caught in the dilemma of "self-independence" and "enjoying life", but are struggling to find a balance between "survival" and "life".
A 58-year-old Jilin elder brother sees this very well - he takes gnawing old for granted, and does not feel any moral distress at all.
If you want to ask my eldest brother why he is so determined, the answer is simple and clear: my father himself is willing to support me!
"Late Fate" is a variety show focusing on blind dates for the elderly, and today's matchmaker is about to meet a blind date man named Lu Yan.
Before the matchmaker met Lu Yan, it was difficult to associate the words "quite tasteful" and "half a hundred old man". After all, when people reach old age, few people have the heart to take care of their image.
When a big brother in a black shirt, a striped vest, and a beret appeared, the matchmaker was almost stunned and almost speechless.
Lu Yan, the big brother dressed in fashion trends, makes people sigh at his taste and fashion sense. Compared to young people, his outfits are not inferior in any way.
The matchmaker asked curiously: "Big brother, it seems that you have quite a requirement for the quality of life?"”
Lu Yan replied with a smile: "Of course, life is short, decades pass in a flash, you should enjoy it!."Spending money is all about making life happier!”
That's right, the rich and willful big brother in front of him is today's actor Lu Yan.
At the beginning, Lu Yan briefly introduced his situation: he is 58 years old this year, lives in Changchun City, Jilin Province, and owns a 90-square-meter property under his name.
Lu Yan introduced her to the matchmaker and led her into his home. During the conversation, he showed a resolute attitude.
It wasn't until the matchmaker saw Lu Yan's residence with her own eyes that she really understood what the arrogance of the big brother was.
There is only one reason - and that is "more gold".
It's hard to believe it's a place for elderly people who live alone
Large floor-to-ceiling windows, luxurious European-style sofas, and oil paintings hanging on the walls, although the floor area is only 90 square meters, each one shows the owner's elegant taste.
A corner of Lu Yan's house.
It turned out that after Lu Yan retired, he devoted all his energy to improving the quality of life.
The interior of the house is immaculately clean, with no build-up of debris and no unbearable odors.
The location of the balcony was originally transformed by Lu Yan into a space with both a kitchen and a bathroom.
As casual as it may seem, a closer look reveals that everything from the dishes and chopsticks to the faucet, from the cabinet to the bathtub, is the ultimate in finesse.
Do you usually cook your own food?The matchmaker sighed.
Lu Yan's answer was surprising, "I usually go out to eat, and it's too cumbersome to do at home!."”
With that, Lu Yan led the matchmaker to the bedroom.
As soon as the matchmaker entered the house, she smelled the fragrance of money again.
The bedroom is simple and bright, with a huge bed taking up most of the space.
A corner of Lu Yan's house.
This bed has a lot of character and is really big!”
Of course, choose the best, this is a solid wood bed. ”
Lu Yan opened the wardrobe again.
Suits, shirts, down jackets, and clothes of various colors are neatly arranged, as if they are showcases in a shopping mall.
This is Valentino's, and the price is not high, just a few hundred dollars. ”
This is fur in one, more than four thousand. ”
This is **mink, inline, more than three thousand. ”
After speaking, Lu Yan raised his hand and motioned to the matchmaker to look at his watch.
This is Omega, more than 50,000. ”
The matchmaker also noticed the garment steamer in the corner - not only all of them are high-quality, but also very carefully arranged.
In every aspect, whether it's home decoration style or daily living, the quality of life of this enviable big brother is superb.
This made the matchmaker can't help but think: Is this brother a rich second generation or a rich man?
Perhaps sensing the matchmaker's speculation, Lu Yan took the initiative to explain his financial situation, however, his answer surprised everyone present:
I receive 5,000 yuan a month from my dad. ”
He is neither a rich second generation, nor a rich man.
Lu Yan's income mainly comes from his retirement salary and 5,000 yuan per month provided by his old father!
A group photo album of Lu Yan's family.
The rich second generation and the strong and self-reliant woman Lu Yan introduced indifferently.
My dad gave me 5,000 yuan a month, and his pension was 25,000, and he is still alive and 92 years old. ”
Twenty-five thousand pensions?The matchmaker was stunned again.
What does your dad do?”
He was a retired cadre of the army, the first batch of soldiers during the period to resist US aggression and aid Korea, and went to North Korea in 1950 to ......”
As the conversation deepened, Lu Yan's family history gradually unfolded in front of the matchmaker.
The protagonist of the story: Lu Yan.
It turned out that Lu Yan's father was a veteran of the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea, and he was the only son in the family.
The other siblings are doing better than him, so his father chose to "partially" fund Lu Yan.
Now thinking back to the conversation just now, the matchmaker finally understands the truth behind the taste of this big brother.
I don't really like to save money, I spend it when I have it. ”
When I go out to dinner with my friends, it's me 90% of the time I pay. ”
However, although Lu Yan lives so freely, there are some whispers hidden in his heart.
This amount of money is not enough at all, so I can only endure it. "Lu Yan sighed.
The matchmaker comforted him a little helplessly:"At your age, why haven't you thought about saving some money?"
Speaking of this, Lu Yan showed a helpless smile.
Living alone is really expensive, and if I have a wife who can help me manage my finances, I can at least save some money. "
By the way, Lu Yan began to talk about his first marriage again.
My original partner and I quarreled every day and left in 2005. "
Big Brother reveals his expectations for his future partner in this bland conversation:
You have to know how to save money, and you have to be gentle and considerate to help me arrange my life. "
The main media matchmaker understood and immediately set out to find a suitable object, and finally locked on Jiang Yuge in Changchun.
Jiang Yuge and Lu Yan can be described as two extremes: at the age of 55, she has a monthly pension of only more than 2,000 yuan, but her monthly income through her own head therapy shop reaches 12,000.
Although she is the right person, Jiang Yuge's wealth is earned by her own hard work.
After the divorce, she raised her son with one hand and supported the family with the other. Not only is he successful in his career, but he also has a very kind personality, and his son is currently working at Huawei.
Although she has experienced a lifetime of hardship, now that material life is no longer a problem, she only hopes to find a partner to spend her old age with.
When I saw Jiang Yuge for the first time, the matchmaker couldn't feel the sharpness of a strong woman, but saw her pale yellow cardigan and neat braids, which looked very dignified and elegant.
The matchmaker's mood was full of joy, and she felt that Jiang Yuge and Lu Yan's appearance was really a match made in heaven.
Jiang Yuge personally led the matchmaker to visit his store, and coincidentally, there was an old customer in the store that day, Sister Liu.
Jiang Yuge, you're all good. Sister Liu praised Jiang Yuge again and again.
Not only that, but she also sent her best wishes, hoping that her old friend can find her favorite lover as soon as possible.
Talking about the topic, Jiang Yuge also took the opportunity to share his emotional experience.
I got divorced in 1996 and I lived alone with my children after the divorce. ”
The divorce was not due to a matter of principle, nor was it a discord in character, but it was just a weak emotional foundation, and it was natural to separate ......”
Jiang Yuge, the protagonist, seems to have nothing to do with the word "happiness".
Her ex-husband was a soldier in Chifeng, Inner Mongolia, and the two had only met a few times before getting married, and then got married in a hurry under the arrangement of their family.
It can be said that Jiang Yuge's last marriage was the legendary "arranged marriage".
Regarding his future partner, Jiang Yuge only has two simple requirements:
First of all, be in good health and have no serious illnesses.
Secondly, the economic situation should be good and the personal quality should be high.
It's best to be kind-hearted, and the two of them can live a simple and happy life. ”
Frankly speaking, Jiang Yuge's mate selection standards are not high, and it can even be said to be quite ordinary.
Before the two met, the matchmaker also briefly introduced Lu Yan's basic situation, especially his special habit of "gnawing the old".
Regarding Lu Yan's dependence on his family, Jiang Yuge didn't mind too much.
She pays more attention to whether the living habits and personalities of the two match.
As long as he is willing to put his heart into it, I believe that we can create a better life together. Jiang Yuge said with a smile.
The petals are falling, the water is melodious, and the matchmaker skillfully facilitates a first date and settles it in Jiang Yuge's shop.
This is the first time Lu Yan and Jiang Yuge have met, and the matchmaker has already put a big question mark on this marriage in her heart.
Jiang Yuge is generous and decent, while Lu Yan's original majestic image looks a little restrained at this moment, like a tight string.
In order to relieve Lu Yan's tension, Jiang Yuge offered to give him a head treatment.
However, this proposal seemed to make Lu Yan even more nervous, and he waved his hand to refuse, and even shirked it from the staff present.
If you don't do it today, you just don't do it!He said flatly.
This little episode made Jiang Yuge feel some of Lu Yan's personality traits - decisive and strong.
Although a little machismo, this straightforward personality coincides with her requirement of "no heart", which makes her quite satisfied.
Jiang Yuge then briefly communicated with Lu Yan about his family background.
My dad was one of the first soldiers to resist US aggression and aid Korea, and he had all kinds of commemorative medals. ”
The salaries of the troops are the highest in the country, and now they are retired cadres. ”
Lu Yan introduced his family situation without concealment, and was even quite proud of the act of gnawing at the elderly.
Jiang Yuge was full of respect for the identity of a "retired soldier" and said that he wanted to meet Lu Yan's old father in person when he had the opportunity.
In addition to the literati, the Chinese also have the same respect for the soldiers who defend their homeland.
The family background has passed the test, and the next step is the matching of the personality.
Jiang Yuge asked curiously, "Why are you looking for a wife?"”
Live your life wholeheartedly, and in the second half of your life, you will grow old together, and it will be simple. ”
Lu Yan's emotional outlook is the same as Jiang Yuge's.
Jiang Yuge asked again: "If my wife gets sick in the future and suffers from cerebral thrombosis, do you consider abandoning it?"”
What to throw away, to treat it, is to spend more money. ”
Machismo may be a bit arbitrary, but Lu Yan's straightforwardness and insistence on responsibility make Jiang Yuge very satisfied.
So, Lu Yan directly invited Jiang Yuge to be a guest at his house next time.
It's better to choose a day than to hit the day. The next day, Jiang Yuge, under the guidance of the matchmaker, walked into Lu Yan's house, ready to have a deeper understanding.
Like the matchmaker, Jiang Yuge was very amazed by Lu Yan's quality of life.
It was better than I expected, the old house was cleaned like a new one. ”
Lu Yan immediately said that he was willing to vacate his residence for Jiang Yuge to use as a workplace.
Lu Yan's sincere attitude caused Jiang Yuge to laugh constantly.
Seeing that the two of them were very satisfied with each other, the matchmaker was also happy in her heart.
The falling petals are full of heart, and the flowing water is also tender, which is really enviable.
Towards the end of the conversation, Jiang Yuge raised the most critical and most worrying issue
I have requirements for my significant other half to be in good health. ”
Of course, I can accept small problems, after all, we are no longer young, how is your physical condition?”
I have a bit of high blood sugar but have been on medication** and have been able to keep it under control. ”
The protagonist is Lu Yan.
As a massage therapist in a head therapy shop, Jiang Yuge naturally has a certain understanding of some underlying diseases.
Hyperglycemia may be related to diet, and may also be affected by diabetes, chronic pancreatitis, liver cirrhosis and other diseases.
Jiang Yuge couldn't help but feel a little worried in his heart, if it was the former, he would be able to get by through conditioning, but if it was the latter, he would ......
At this moment, the doorbell suddenly rang, and it turned out to be Lu Yan's old friend visiting.
The old friend was Lu Yan's neighbor at the beginning, and although he later moved away, the two still often invite each other to spend their leisure time together.
As soon as he learned that his old friend was on a blind date, the neighbor and old friend hurriedly came to "help watch the scene".
This is the show I told you, we all have to be honest with each other, just say anything!Lu Yan introduced.
With the addition of an old friend, Jiang Yuge naturally asked him about Lu Yan's daily life.
What are his hobbies?”
Thinking of Lu Yan's words, the old friend also replied without concealment: "I like to drink." ”
An old friend of Lu Yan.
Do you drink it regularly?This may also be the "culprit" that caused Lu Yan's high blood sugar, Jiang Yuge guessed in his heart.
Before the old friend could answer, Lu Yan hurriedly said, "Not often!."”
How could Jiang Yuge be bypassed by Lu Yan, she glared at Lu Yan coquettishly, "I'll ask others!."”
Lu Yan had no choice but to shut up and quietly glanced at his old friend.
The old buddy has always been honest with each other and responds without concealment:
I'm not a big drinker, I can control myself, and I drink pretty well!"
In addition to that, I have some common hobbies, such as playing cards and mahjong. "
Jiang Yuge nodded understandingly, feeling that as long as he could control it, a small hobby would not be a big deal.
After confirming his physical condition, Jiang Yuge turned to financial issues.
Do you have any thoughts on money?Actually, I don't really care about that. "
I'm looking for a partner, even if I can't make much money, as long as the two of us have the same heart and live happily. "
Don't hide anything. "
These words expressed Jiang Yuge's true thoughts, she is looking for a partner at this age, she does not want to be rich, she is only willing to live happily.
I don't care, it's up to you to decide the money, you are in charge!"Lu Yan quickly responded.
Lu Yan eagerly expressed his heart, for fear that Jiang Yuge would have any dissatisfaction.
Hearing this, Jiang Yuge's heart was full of sweetness and felt Lu Yan's sincerity.
So, they exchanged ** numbers and decided to go on for the long haul.
The matchmaker was also sincerely happy for the two who successfully held hands.
However, this sincere relationship only lasted for a short week.
It turned out that Lu Yan still mixed a little "water" in his hobbies:
Although his wine is really good, he has no habit of getting drunk and hurting people, and he does not show signs of drunken gaffes.
However, Jiang Yuge's worries finally became a reality.
If it's just a diet habit, Jiang Yuge is confident that he can help Lu Yan adjust well.
However, when it comes to the ...... of the diseaseThen it is no longer a small problem, but a big problem of the state of life.
Of course, Jiang Yuge did not give up easily, she put forward a suggestion to quit drinking.
However, Lu Yan, who has always been obedient to Jiang Yuge, resolutely disagreed.
He bluntly said that this is his only hobby, and if he forcibly quits drinking, he will only cause trouble for himself.
Faced with this situation, Lu Yan's machismo began to appear:
Once he has made a decision, he has to do what he thinks, and there is no room for manoeuvre.
Life is not just a moment, Jiang Yuge can imagine how many disputes the two will have in the future because of this.
After persuasion to no avail, Jiang Yuge could only propose to suspend development and not continue dating.
Lu Yan takes a fancy to his partner's personality, and he doesn't care too much about the right person, as long as the two really love each other.
And Jiang Yuge cares about his partner's living habits, and can even accept the other party's habit of "gnawing the old", as long as it is sincere.
The expectations of the two for their future partners are almost identical.
However, there are no two people who are completely suitable in the world, and only through running-in can they become real partners.
Run-in means sacrifice, and one party must give up certain personal interests to achieve the goal of compromise and change.
Jiang Yuge can't compromise on health issues, and Lu Yan is unwilling to choose "compromise" on quality of life.
Once stubbornness prevails, irreconcilable contradictions arise, and even if there are feelings, it is difficult to last.
However, this is not a pity for lovers, because after all, life is one's own, and it is better to let go wisely than to cling to blindly.
This blind date story attracted countless netizens to watch, and Lu Yan's living conditions are not unrelated to the phenomenon of "gnawing the old".
Regarding Lu Yan's chic, some people think that he lacks precautions, and he will inevitably suffer from the backlash of "getting something for nothing" in the future.
And some people are envious and regard Lu Yan's lifestyle as "the true meaning of struggle".
In front of the screen, as a child or a parent, what do you think about the phenomenon of "gnawing the old"?