Weddings are an important moment in life, and even more so for my sister. However, there are customs in some places that prevent older sisters from attending their sister's wedding. This situation is puzzling, and even feels that these customs are impersonal and put the feelings of relatives to the test. This article will discuss the custom of a sister in Guangdong who attends her sister's wedding but cannot give it off, as well as some discussions and reflections on this custom.
On December 16, a woman in Guangdong shared her experience of attending her sister's wedding, but encountered the custom of the man's family, and her sister could not give the marriage. This left her confused and dissatisfied. After returning to her hometown, her family was told that her sister could not be married. Just before they went out, they learned that this was the custom of the man's family. The woman was puzzled that the family had driven 700 kilometers home, but had not been able to eat a single meal, while the rest of the relatives were able to enjoy a delicious feast at the hotel. She even suspected that the custom was designed to embarrass her sister.
In fact, there is a local custom that the elder sister does not send her relatives so as not to have a bad influence on the younger sister's marriage. It is understood that this custom believes that there is a saying among sisters that there are three generations of poor, that is, the elder sister sends the younger sister, the poor three generations, and the mother sends the daughter, and the poor to the end. Although this is just a custom, the man's family believes that the warning words left by the ancestors are the summary of long-term life practice, and there is some truth to it. Therefore, they prefer to believe in this custom to ensure the happiness of the newlyweds.
After the banquet, the brother-in-law can still invite his sister and her family to the restaurant to have a meal to make up for the meal. However, some netizens expressed confusion about this custom, thinking that it is normal to share moments of happiness with their dearest people, so why not allow them to participate?Others believe that marriage is a major event and that local customs should be respected.
It is really puzzling that such a custom appears at weddings. The happiness of marriage should not rely on superstition, but requires two people to work together. As a relative, I can't even be present at this critical moment to bless in person, so what is the meaning of my relatives?Although customs exist, their essence is feudal superstition. It exists only because people believe in it, not because it works. If the custom is harmless, it can be observed. However, if the custom is only to divide the feelings between loved ones, then it has little meaning.
It is really unacceptable that this sister drove 700 kilometers home to attend her sister's wedding and failed to eat even a meal. Can the man's family inform his sister not to attend the wedding in advance to prevent them from running away in vain?This can have a negative impact on the feelings between sisters.
A wedding is an important moment in life, and it symbolizes the love and happiness of two people. As a loved one, attending a wedding is not only a blessing, but also an expression of family affection. However, it is incomprehensible that the customs of some places prevent the sister from participating in the wedding. Customs themselves are an ethereal existence that can be respected and observed if it promotes people's well-being and happiness. However, if customs are merely to satisfy some specific interests and ideas, or even to the detriment of kinship, then it is necessary to be suspicious of them and reflect on them.
As older sisters, they should have the right to attend their sister's wedding, because it is not only a relationship between sisters, but also a blessing and testimony of happiness. Therefore, we should encourage changes in those customs that limit the expression of blessings between loved ones in order to promote the development of kinship and the establishment of intimacy.
The mood of the older sister is understandable, because it is a pity and disappointment for them that they are unable to attend their sister's wedding. What is gratifying is that the brother-in-law finally invited his sister's family to the restaurant to make up for the meal. This shows that marital happiness requires the joint efforts of two people, as well as the blessings and support of loved ones, which is the true source of happiness.
While discussing customs, we also need to consider the cultural and historical context behind them. Each place has its own unique customs and traditions, which we should respect and understand. But we also need to consider whether these customs are reasonable, whether they have a positive effect, and whether they should be appropriately adjusted and changed with the development of the times.
For this Cantonese custom, we should keep an open mind and at the same time respect our sister's feelings. Customs should not be a bondage, it should serve people's happiness and well-being. Only in this way can customs truly play a positive role and not become a burden.
Changing customs requires the joint efforts of everyone. We should dare to question those unreasonable customs and adhere to the principles of authenticity and progress to achieve a better and inclusive wedding culture. So that the sisters can also share happiness and joy at the wedding of their sister.