Caring about what others think is not a mental illness, it is a very normal psychological attitude. A person's concern for the evaluation of others shows that we care about ourselves, which is necessary for us to know ourselvesSecond, it shows that we care about the person who makes the evaluation, which is also the basis for us to build healthy interpersonal relationships.
Everyone wants to be perfect, so they will develop their strengths and avoid weaknesses in life and constantly improve themselves. We all love good things, and everyone is no exception. However, paying too much attention to other people's evaluations will bring great distress and inconvenience to one's own life, which needs to be detected and adjusted early.
Because for such a person, he values his impression in the hearts of others very important, and hopes that he will always be perfect. For them, if others don't see themselves as that good, that's a reminder to themselves.
Such a person will always care about what others think, and will consider other people's eyes no matter what they are doing. If things don't get the expected evaluation, he will choose to run away and use this to save his face.
But this can't be said to be a mental illness, why?Because this can only show that this person has high requirements for himself and hopes that he will succeed too much. Therefore, when he is very demanding of himself, he naturally has high requirements for the evaluation given by others, and he always wants to show a better version of himself in front of others.
People who may only know how to do good for others are such a mentality. Because no matter what he does, he wants others to feel good about him, so other people's bad evaluations can be regarded as a kind of review of him.
Such a character does have a lot of troubles in life, but I have to admit that it makes it easier for people to become excellent. Because a person doesn't care about other people's opinions at all, it means that you lack the motivation to move forward.
Although many people now say that they don't care about other people's opinions, or don't care about what others say about us, they can make this person go further on their own. But in fact, everyone must care about the evaluation of the people around us or more people, we are easy to deviate from the course, and we can't do "if there is a change, there is no encouragement".
Therefore, being more concerned about other people's opinions can often make us go further and better, because if you don't care about other people's opinions at all, you will find that you don't actually know what your goals are.
If you care about other people's opinions, you can do some things better, because you will work hard enough to leave a better and deeper impression in front of others.
Of course, sometimes you care too much about other people's evaluations, not because you are not working hard enough or not good enough, it is likely that you are not setting unreasonable goals.
Because when your goal is reasonable, you will give yourself a reasonable evaluation and will not waver in the evaluation of those around you. You will calmly analyze and make reasonable attributions in other people's evaluations and self-evaluations.
Learn to know yourself correctly. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and we must know how to build on our strengths and avoid weaknesses. Set reasonable goals for yourself and don't be ambitious. We should look at ourselves from the perspective of development, and don't be arrogant because of an unrealistic evaluation.
Second, learn to love yourself. It's good to care about a person, because it makes you understand what responsibility and responsibility are. But the feelings for a person, no matter what kind of person they are, should not be too full. If you are too full, it is easy to lose yourself, and by that time you will find that you have lost a lot of abilities, and you are no longer brave.