A couple of my sisters dropped my dad off at a nursing home the night before.
On the first night he felt uncomfortable and kept calling us and asking us to pick him up.
In the end, all four of us chose not to pick up his ** so that he quieted down a little.
At eight o'clock the next morning, out of worry, I planned to go to the nursing home to spend the morning with him and observe the real life of the elderly in the nursing home.
The nursing home where my dad lives is very close to my house, only a five or six minute walk away.
Some netizens asked me: Since the nursing home is so close to your home, why don't you take your father home to live?That's how you can save thousands of dollars.
Actually, I had my own reasons, so I chose not to take him home.
Because I had major surgery on my heart, an artificial blood vessel was replaced, and a stent was placed, I didn't bring my father into my home.
These surgeries required me to maintain a quiet living environment, and my father liked to stay up all night and make noise during the day.
He lives with me and is unbearable for my body.
When I arrived at the nursing home at half past eight in the morning, the old people had already had breakfast.
Those who can't take care of themselves are lying in bed and sleeping, and some of the elderly who can take care of themselves are exercising in the activity room, and some are sitting in the corridor playing with their mobile phones.
Semi-self-care elderly people sit in wheelchairs, some bask in the sun at the end of the corridor, some sit and chat near the bar, and some watch TV in the restaurant.
My first impression was that it was quiet and peaceful.
Before he reached my father's room, the nurse had already pushed him out.
I called my father, and the nurse smiled and said, "You're here?."I'm going to push your dad to the corridor to bask in the sun and chat with Uncle Yang.
He didn't get used to it when he first arrived, but he would get better when he got acquainted with strangers. ”
I took the wheelchair and said to the nurse: "He really didn't feel comfortable when he first came, and he kept calling ** for us to pick him up last night."
You go get busy, I'll push him out to exercise. ”
The nurse went to help other elderly people, I asked my father to hold on to the railing next to him and slowly get down from the wheelchair, and then let him walk slowly with the wheelchair, and I protected him from behind.
My father walked 80 meters in a wheelchair from the door of the room, which was much better than when he first arrived.
When he first arrived, he didn't want to walk after pushing his wheelchair for a few steps, and he couldn't grasp his balance and direction, so he always pushed against the wall.
When my father used to be at home, he stayed at home alone most of the time, except for lunch delivery.
Except for going to the toilet, he basically didn't get out of bed, and he had no strength to lie on the bed on both legs.
Before the epidemic, my father could still go up and down the fourth floor by himself holding on to the railing, but after the house was closed for several months, he lay in bed every day without moving, and gradually he could not even get out of bed and walk.
This time, I sent my father to a nursing home very close to my home, and I often went to help him exercise for a period of time to see if he could walk again.
It was too far away before, and it was really inconvenient.
My father walked around the wheelchair for a while, and he felt a little tired, so I helped him to sit in the wheelchair.
It just so happened that there were two elderly people at the bar who were chatting in wheelchairs, and I asked my father to push the wheels of his wheelchair to talk to them.
Sitting at the bar was an 87-year-old man with limited mobility, but a clear mind, probably a former cadre, and a man of the word.
I asked him how he felt at the nursing home, and he said, "It's good to be in a nursing home, with regular meals three times a day, some people doing laundry, changing sheets, and some people exercising in the sun.
My three sons come to see me from time to time, and I feel good. ”
The old man was from a nearby village, he and his father still knew each other, and the two quickly got along, from the people's commune to the big collective, and then to the production team and agricultural machinery station, the topic they talked about seemed to be very far away, but I saw that my father was in a much better mood.
While my dad was chatting, I sat in the next room and watched.
Many of the elderly who are unable to take care of themselves and paralyzed in bed are sleeping.
Some old people have their eyes open, but they don't know what they're thinking.
I talk to them and they look at me but can't respond.
There were also two mentally abnormal old men talking to themselves, and no one could understand what they were saying.
I looked around, whether it was the room of the elderly who could take care of themselves, the room of the elderly who were semi-self-care, or the room of the elderly who could not take care of themselves, there was no smell, and the cleaning was quite tidy.
Towards 10 o'clock, when the weather warmed a little warmer, the caregivers pushed out the semi-self-caring elderly and let them walk slowly or push their wheelchairs for exercise, while the caregivers protected them from behind.
Lunch time in the nursing home is 11 o'clock, and the nurses will push the semi-self-caring elderly to the restaurant in a wheelchair to eat, while the elderly who cannot take care of themselves will be fed by the caregivers themselves.
My dad was in the next bed, and there lived an elderly man who couldn't take care of himself, and I watched the nurse feed him.
She fed the broken rice paste into the old man's mouth one by one, and the old man shook his head and said that he would not eat it, and the nurse tidied it up a little, and then went to another room to feed the next one.
My dad was pushed to the restaurant by the caregiver, and I glanced at his plate, which had a few pieces of braised pork, fried zucchini, a bowl of egg drop soup, and a steamed bun, all of which were dishes that the elderly could bite into.
After my dad finished eating, the nurse pushed him back into his room to let him rest, and I left there.
I spent a few hours in a nursing home and it felt like it wasn't as scary as it was rumored.
For the elderly who are semi-self-care, it is still okay to stay in a nursing home, at least someone can talk to them, which is better than staying at home alone.
As for the elderly who can't take care of themselves, no matter in **, the situation is the same, they can only lie in bed to eat, sleep and sleep.
It is also a blessing for the elderly to be able to go to a nursing home, many of whom have financial difficulties and cannot even afford to go to a nursing home, and their children do not have time to take care of them.