This year, I don't want to spend the New Year with my in-laws anymore. Although my son-in-law's newly bought house was already ready, and my father-in-law invited us to celebrate the New Year together, I decided to spend it myself. On the one hand, my father-in-law promised to go to Hubei to visit his elderly grandparents, butChinese New YearThen he changed his words and said that they were discharged from the hospital and could live together. This kind of change of hexagram makes me feel a little awkward. On the other hand, every year when I go back to my hometown, I have to visit a lot of relatives, and I also have to give out red envelopes, which costs a lot of money. Seeing the effort and money my daughter put in to accompany her in-laws, I feel distressed about this. In addition, I have a job, so I can't take a vacation at will, and I can't be as relaxed as my in-laws. With all these factors in mind, I decided to celebrate the New Year on my own and not cause trouble to myself and my in-laws.
AnnualChinese New Year, Spending with our in-laws, we have gained a false excitement, but we have also lost a real and unique New Year's experience. Celebrating the New Year with our in-laws, although our in-laws warmly welcomed us throughout the whole process, we always felt a little awkward. From the morningBreakfastAt first, each person was only given a small bowl of porridge, a few buns, and a small number of side dishes, which seemed too stingy compared to the amount of food and Xi of our northerners. Although my father-in-law explained that it was for health, I could still see a little embarrassment on the faces of my wife and me. What makes us even more incomprehensible is that there are only two eggs and one salted fish per person after the meal, which is unthinkable in our family. From these trivial details, we feel the differences and estrangement between our in-laws and us.
In the process of Chinese New Year, the way my in-laws treat their own family members and relatives has given me some inspiration. They like to refer to their children as "princesses" and "princes", highly value blood ties, and have their own unique set of family rules and etiquette. Although this method is a traditional family expression for them, for me, this over-emphasis on kinship and formalism makes me feel a little inconsistent. The relationship between families is not only about blood relations, but more importantly, about the exchange of emotions and the expression of care. This different way of thinking and behaving has left me confused and conflicted.
After thinking and feeling emotional, I decided not to participate in my in-laws' family anymoreChinese New YearThe party does not ignore the mutual companionship and care between our husband and wife because of the momentary excitement. Chinese New YearFor everyone, the Chinese New Year is a time of reunion, and families come together to celebrate this important holiday. However, in my family, the way I celebrate the New Year feels awkward to me. I thought that celebrating the New Year with my in-laws would add to the lively atmosphere, but in fact, it caused a series of problems.
First of all, the in-laws promised to go to Hubei to visit their elderly grandparents, butChinese New YearBut they changed their words and said that they were discharged from the hospital and could live with us. This kind of hexagram makes me feel confused and uncomfortable.
Secondly, returning to the hometown of the in-laws requires visiting many relatives and giving them red envelopes, which costs a lot of money. I feel distressed to see the effort and money my daughter has put in to accompany her in-laws.
Again, I have a job that I can't take as many vacations as I want, and I can't spend it as easily as my in-lawsChinese New Year。As a result, I couldn't go every year, which made me feel a little out of place with my in-laws.
To sum up, I decided not to celebrate the New Year with my in-laws from this year onwards, but to choose to spend it by myself. Although you can enjoy a false excitement with your in-laws, you also lose the authentic and unique experience of the New Year. You can be more free to celebrate the New Year by yourself, you will not be restricted and bound by others, and you can better accompany each other with your old wife.
In the process of Chinese New Year, I really felt the hardships of the children who are tired from running around and working outside, and they also have their own lives and responsibilities. I don't want to trouble them, I want them to live the life they want.
Most importantly, I hope to spend the New Year with my old wife and enjoy our own happiness. Although we are getting older, we still have a lot of time to spend with each other, care and care for. Chinese New Year is not only a time of reunion, but also an important time of return and reflection. I hope that through my own New Year, I can return to the warmth and peace of the world of the two of us, and have a new year that truly belongs to us.
Although the Chinese New Year is a time of reunion, it does not mean that you have to spend it with your in-laws. Everyone has the right to choose how they want to live and how they want to spend the holidays. Chinese New Year is an important moment, we should respect everyone's choices, maintain mutual understanding and tolerance, and let ourselves live a truly our own New Year.