What do you mean by that?Do you have enough money to go and see the property?
In the movie "I Forgot to Understand You", Cai Weihang, a husband in a difficult situation, had an argument with his wife Chen Xuesong due to inner depression and dissatisfaction, and then drove her to a construction site on a motorcycle.
Chen Xuesong was confused by her husband's motive for pulling her here, so she asked about that sentence.
When Cai Weihang heard his wife mention the word "money", he immediately became very angry:
Money?You also underestimated Lao Tzu. You and Yang Jiucheng, the two most famous people in Baisha Town, let Lao Tzu a carpenter come home in disappointment."
Due to unemployment and layoffs, Cai Weihang has been busy working and finding a way out of life, and he is both short of funds and desperate for them.
Unemployment and lack of funds have become a constant psychological burden for him.
He brought his wife to the construction site, and the project was developed by his first love, Yang Jiucheng.
Although Yang Jiucheng has encountered a low point in his career, and he has made no achievements and has been laid off and unemployed, he has become a leading figure in the real estate industry. In his life, there have been glories, ups and downs, and more often, a kind of helplessness and pain. The people around Cai Weihang were talking and talking coldly, and there was a huge gap between him and his wife's ex-boyfriend, which made him feel deeply ashamed and embarrassed.
Faced with the unfairness and cruelty of fate, he felt breathless. In order to express his dissatisfaction and show his sovereignty, he dragged his wife to Yang Jiucheng's "Jijiang Real Estate" huge billboard, and in an inaccessible place, "Overlord Hard Bow" had an intimate relationship with her.
When Cai Weihang arrives with his wife and achieves his goal, he mistakenly thinks that he has regained his male dignity. Many people don't know that when he released his emotions and announced his sovereignty leaving, the marriage relationship between him and Chen Xuesong was already in jeopardy, and the two seemed to be about to enter another path of marriage.
Life between couples has become more difficult due to a lack of funds.
Cai Weihang, a carpenter, worked in a furniture factory that eventually went bankrupt due to outdated furniture designs, forcing him to become an unemployed worker.
He used to be a handsome and dashing man, but due to unemployment and layoff, he lost the breadwinner of his life and became decadent and dusty. At this time, he suddenly remembered his college days. By middle age, the dust and oiliness on the body have reached a level that can barely be tolerated.
In order to alleviate the psychological pressure in his heart, he often posted posts seeking entertainment such as "laid-off brother begging for support" in Internet cafes. Once, after he saw an article "My ex-girlfriend is a woman" written by a female netizen on a certain **, he wanted to see the life of this female netizen. As he browsed through this, he noticed that the internet was full of various "scandals" and "**" about his wife and ex-boyfriend
Chen Xuesong runs a small supermarket by herself, which is not busy, and she spends most of her time lying on the counter, looking lethargic and languishing.
Xiao Wu, a taxi driver, goes to her place every day to exchange change. Whenever Xiao Wu appeared, she would ask, "Is there any latest news?"
Chen Xuesong was indifferent to the gossip about him and Yang Jiucheng from the outside world because of the tiredness and indifference of life, and what she really cared about was what kind of novelty Xiao Wu could bring to him.
The "scandals" and "****" that Cai Weihang saw on the Internet about her and Yang Jiucheng's past have become a thing of the past for her, and she neither wants to explain nor explain.
However, for Cai Weihang, those past events are always memories of the present that he can't get rid of.
Due to unemployment and lack of funds, Cai Weihang's self-esteem has been severely damaged, and his nerves have become extremely sensitive and fragile. Although he never mentioned Yang Jiucheng in front of his wife, it didn't mean that he could be indifferent to those so-called "scandals" or that any small changes would make him feel frightened.
Once, out of kindness, Cai Weihang rode a motorcycle to send a little girl who was eager to take a boat to the river, but was mistaken by the motorcycle master for him to steal business. So, he reprimanded and ridiculed the girl. Someone made a sarcastic comment about him:
Carpenter Cai, if you can't find a job, go to the Jijiang real estate over there, your wife's lover has a chance to make money waiting for you."
The insulting remarks made by Mo's master angered Cai Weihang, "A soldier can be killed, but not humiliated." Cai Weihang engaged in a fierce physical altercation with Mo's master, and finally walked into the supermarket run by his wife with full of anger.
Coincidentally, Xiao Wu, the taxi driver, was once again exchanging change at the supermarket, and when he saw the angry Cai Weihang, he said hello and quickly left the scene.
Cai Weihang was even more angry when he saw Xiao Wu's ambiguous and sticky attitude towards his wife, and he shouted at Xiao Wu's back
Isn't it possible to exchange change in the bank?If you don't go to the bank, why do you always come to me?It's so shameless"!
When Chen Xuesong heard his evil words, he asked him loudly
Who are you scolding?The supermarket is always a crowded place, how can you not let it in"!
Cai Weihang was extremely angry because his wife was not only indifferent to him, but also cheered for others. He slammed down the supermarket shutter and shouted, "I can close the door"!"What are you going to do?I'll open it for you!Then, he pulled Chen Xuesong's motorcycle and took her to the construction site where Yang Jiucheng was developing.
After arriving at the construction site, Cai Weihang said to Chen Xuesong in a sarcastic tone: "I want to take you to meet someone you know."
Therefore, the initial scene happened like this, Cai Weihang adopted the strategy of "overlord hard bow" against Chen Xuesong in bright daylight.
After releasing the resentment and pressure in his heart, he still shouted loudly: "I want you to find out who is your real man".
As an ordinary man, Cai Weihang not only has all the good qualities in human nature, but also has some imperfections in human nature.
He was originally a man of good and upright qualities, and despite occasional extreme emotional swings, he always adhered to his goals and respect. After being laid off, he did not choose to leave the city to farm in the countryside, as many people do, but continued to stay in the city as a farmer, and began a difficult and long entrepreneurial process. After losing his job, he was always looking for a solution, hoping to get out of the dilemma of unemployment.
He has a good reputation among the workers who have been laid off and is actively looking for opportunities to help them get out of the current stresses of life. He is an ordinary laid-off worker, but he has his own unique business philosophy and management style, and his enterprise is not only profitable, but also saves a lot of money for the country. Despite the loss of his job and the loss of his job, he remained resilient inside.
He has always had a lot of trust in his wife, and over the years, he knows her character inside out and knows that she will not act to hurt himself.
The core reason that caused Cai Weihang to lose his mind and commit these outrageous behaviors was not his wife's ex-boyfriend, but a huge wealth gap.
What Cai Weihang can't let go of in the depths of his heart is the embarrassment of life caused by unemployment and lack of funds. After being laid off, he could only eat two meals a day, and he had to go to work, so he was very tired every day. Due to the dilemma of lack of funds, his dignity was gradually weakened.
Therefore, whenever he thinks of his wife, who was the ex-boyfriend of a real estate tycoon, he feels ashamed. All kinds of "gossip" and "** about his wife on the Internet make him feel that rivals in love and people wearing cuckolds can be seen everywhere."
Due to a lack of funds, Cai Weihang felt a lack of self-confidence, so he began to look for ways to prove his existence and value in front of others. In his opinion, he is just an ordinary wage earner, an unemployed vagrant. He made his identity and rights clear in front of his wife by releasing his desires.
Although Mr. Cai's actions appear to have calmed his inner grievances and asserted his sovereignty on the surface, in reality, they have further exacerbated the difficulties of his married life.
When Chen Xuesong and his spouse "overlord forced the bow" to release their dissatisfaction and desires on his wife, and then left proudly, the relationship between them began to show signs of instability.
Sexless marriages make the relationship between husband and wife very unstable.
Cai Weihang and Chen Xuesong, one of them was an ordinary worker before he lost his job, while the other ran a small supermarket that was not busy. Not only do they have to take care of their primary school daughter, but they also have to support Cai Weihang's 70-year-old mother, who lives alone.
This family environment made the couple's limited finance** relatively strained, and the family of three lived for a long time in a cramped home known as "Old and Dilapidated".
Chen Xuesong and her husband are in this cramped and cramped space, resting in bed back to back every night with their daughter apart.
There are three people lying on one bed, which not only hinders physical communication between the couple, but also affects the feelings between them. Although Cai Weihang and Chen Xuesong sleep together every day, in fact, the enthusiasm and deep affection between them have disappeared.
They are a couple outside, but when the door closes, they become silent roommates. At home, they are a family, eating together, sleeping together, and studying together every day. They were college classmates. The only bond between them is their daughter Yuanyuan.
In a marriage without verbal and physical communication, it is so simplistic that it feels unnecessary to take a second look at the other person. In marriage, communication between husband and wife becomes more and more difficult, even impossible. Both couples crave emotional comfort in an atmosphere of oppression and oppression.
Cai Weihang has developed a strong interest in Internet cafes, hoping to find solace in this virtual world, while Chen Xuesong hopes to stir up some ripples in this dead water.
In married life, women always want to be respected and listened to by others, but in real life, Chen Xuesong and her husband often argue because they don't say much, and every time they quarrel unpleasantly.
Chen Xuesong's marriage has been neglected and undercommunicated for a long time, which makes him choose to keep in touch with Xiao Wu despite knowing his ambiguous relationship with her. Although the two did not cross the line, their actions hurt Cai Weihang's heart, which has become very fragile due to unemployment and lack of funds.
Cai Weihang noticed that Xiao Wu was staring at his wife, so he invited him to the riverside and asked, "Were you with my wife last night?".
Although Xiao Wu was not with Chen Xuesong, he responded "yes" in a provocative way. Cai Weihang also understood that his wife would not be with Xiao Wu, he just wanted to hear Xiao Wu give an explanation or apologize. This provocative behavior of Xiao Wu posed a challenge to his dignity and made him say these words to Xiao Wu very angrily:
Can you guess if I'm going to kill you?How many heads do you have?
Xiao Wu saw Cai Weihang's teeth clenched, and commented contemptuously: "Can you not behave so immaturely"?
The word "naïve" completely angered Cai Weihang, and he grabbed Xiao Wu's collar and yelled loudly:
I'm so old, don't you think I'm not mature enough"!
The words "naïve" completely defeated Cai Weihang, he let go of Xiao Wu, and then fell to the ground and slapped his face fiercely. "Are you self-harming?After self-harm, he said to Xiao Wu with a sad voice:
Do you really need to find a girl?Do you think it's funny considering your old daughter is so old?
In this contest between Cai Weihang and Xiao Wu, Xiao Wu defeated Cai Weihang in just a few words, what is the reason behind this?Is it a different personality?Cai Weihang lost his self-confidence and confidence as a man because of a sexless marriage.
He lost his dignity as a man because of a sexless marriage. Initially, he tries to show his power and force them to back down by attacking them, but ends up losing in jealousy and jealousy, ending with self-harm.
Sexless marriage not only made him timid and ridiculous, but it also put the marriage in jeopardy at the cost of losing face.
Because of the complaints and verbal aggression, the couple gradually became strangers.
The couple occasionally gets into arguments, but in reality it's not directly related to the matter, they just want to attack each other with words, and the ultimate goal is to hurt each other with words.
In the married life of Cai Weihang and Chen Xuesong, in their daily life, in addition to verbal conflicts, most of the time they complain to each other.
Faced with the dilemma of a shortage of funds, Cai Weihang's mind is full of money-making strategies, while Cedar is wholeheartedly thinking about how to save money.
In our family's supermarket, those expired breads and milk were no longer sellable and became a breakfast option for the two of us. When they bought some bread and milk back at the supermarket, they found that both bread and milk had expired. Cai Weihang was quite unhappy with this:
Don't go home every day with expired items that don't sell in the supermarket. If you ask for milk bread every day, then you can't get up early to cook some porridge for me to drink, because we Chinese are not used to foreign foods like milk bread."
In her husband's complaining voice, Chen Xuesong calmly said: "Expired bread is not fatal, and it is really not a good thing to save some money".
When two people complain to each other, their feelings are like those milk breads that have expired, and it is really wasteful and unpleasant to discard.
When complaints increase, both partners become reluctant and refuse to communicate, which can eventually turn into verbal aggression.
Once, in order to accompany a customer to an entertainment venue, Cai Weihang was stopped by Chen Xuesong, who came to look for him. "How can you, a man, talk about business with us?When Chen Xuesong saw his husband being pulled by a group of seductive women, he said sarcastically: "If it weren't for a little relaxation in a place like this, we wouldn't have been able to successfully talk about business"?
Cai Weihang was supposed to give his wife a reasonable explanation, but not only did he not give any explanation, but instead attacked his wife with rude words:
How dare you say to me, why don't you think about your feelings?You can go online and browse those *** of your association with Yang Jiucheng
Chen Xuesong's ex-boyfriend when he was young was maliciously uploaded to the Internet, which was a kind of harm and insult to him. When her husband said these ** again, the hurt of this verbal attack further exacerbated the conflict between them.
Chen Xuesong was so angry that he did not return home that night, but stayed in a hotel alone.
When the tax department discovered that Yang Jiucheng had evaded and evaded taxes, all those associated with him were investigated, and Chen Xuesong was no exception.
When she walked out of the police station, Cai Weihang followed closely and asked expressionlessly
Didn't you say before that you didn't have any contact with Yang Jiucheng anymore?Neither of you is important, why did ** come to you"?
Chen Xuesong angrily and directly stimulated him when faced with her husband's doubts:
Now that we've connected, yesterday we spent a day together and it was so enjoyable that you can go and think about it."
Chen Xuesong didn't expect Cai Weihang to be a ruthless person at all. In order to help Cai Weihang run a furniture store that was about to go bankrupt, she put down her face and borrowed 150,000 yuan from Yang Jiucheng to help him tide over this predicament.
On the night he received the money, Cai Weihang suddenly moved away from his sleeping daughter, and for the first time hugged her tightly in his arms, getting close to her with gentle words, but now he bit back again and began to question his innocence. He knew he was taking advantage of his daughter. Chen Xuesong used both poison to fight the toxin and verbal violence in the face of her capricious husband.
Although Cai Weihang understood that his wife's words were full of anger, he still could not shake off the habit of verbal aggression. In the face of such an angry wife, he constantly expresses his dissatisfaction with ridicule and sarcasm:
You really have a soft spot for new things, a soft spot for old things, new things are entangled with old things, what is your relationship with that person surnamed Wu"?
Cai Weihang's verbal attack made Chen Xuesong completely lose hope, and she only used one sentence: "It's just the relationship you think"!Let his anger and resentment reach their peak. The mutual attacks between the two have ended.
Chen Xuesong learned from his daughter's ** that her husband actually conducted a paternity test without her knowledge, which made all his previous insistences collapse instantly.
In this marriage, the daughter is always the final bottom line, and the husband's doubts about his daughter's origin are obviously questioning the true meaning of this marriage.
In this regard, Chen Xuesong angrily proposed a divorce.
Although she later realized her mistake, Cai Weihang was still unwilling to let go and tried her best to keep her, but in the end she packed her luggage and left, leaving only a distant back for her husband.
The once intimate couple gradually became strangers amid verbal clashes and resentment towards each other.
Please write it at the end of the article:
In the work "Forgot to Understand You", the ending is open-ended, and the final fate of Cai Weihang and Chen Xuesong is not clearly described. This is reminiscent of the film "The Girl in the Bath". The director made his intentions clear and expected the audience to take some inspiration from the film.
In this world, among the countless couples, which one is not living a chaotic life in the daily firewood, rice, oil and salt?However, in today's material abundance, their marriage is becoming more and more unhappy - the essence of marriage is love, but it is often swayed by money. There are very few people who are really rich, and most of us live ordinary lives.
Those passionate, picturesque dreams, only in movies and TV series, noisy and chaotic, only the chicken feathers in one place are the real daily life.
When the couple enters middle age, they encounter not only the passage of time and the degradation of their relationship, but also the teasing and blows of fate, as well as doubts and doubts caused by gossip.
Most people's daily lives are like this: today, yesterday, tomorrow and the day after tomorrow.
In the fatigue of day after day, we all only care about the small part of our hearts, and we do not want to compromise with each other, nor do we want to go deep into each other's hearts, which makes love simple and difficult to last.
Complaining, blaming, sarcasm and verbal aggression are common behaviors in most couples' interactions. If this style of communication is coupled with the effects of financial hardship and sexless marriage, then the relationship between the couple may gradually deteriorate.
When unsatisfactory life situations transcend the good old days, couples who once loved each other dearly will also go on each other's life paths.