At first, when I saw the plot of Lao Ding being forced to break up with his "ideal partner" An Jie and Mr. Ge, who had a similar personality to him, in "Parents Love", I deeply felt that Lao Ding seemed to be influenced by this era and couldn't let go of his worries about his parents and children.
I once thought with deep regret that if Lao Ding could swap roles with Jiang Defu and meet An Jie, whom he had always dreamed of, at the artillery school, and then marry him.
When two well-educated people get together, their relationship is sure to be very harmonious and they live very happily.
However, in the process of this re-examination, I suddenly realized that the fate of people is very different. Even if Lao Ding married An Jie, he couldn't enjoy the sweet and warm love between Jiang Defu and An Jie.
He cares deeply about the voices of others.
Lao Ding has always been envious of the deep relationship between Jiang Defu and An Jie. When he and Jiang Defu became neighbors, he noticed the tacit understanding between the two, and then looked at Wang Xiu'e beside him, and couldn't help but sigh.
Frankly speaking, if he is asked to switch roles with Jiang Defu, he will not be able to really play Jiang Defu.
Lao Ding is a person who cares a lot about other people's voices, and he also likes to listen to those voices that don't sound pleasant.
Just like on an island, Wang Haiyang's father firmly opposed his relationship with Teacher Ge, but when Jiang Defu was willing to lend a hand, Lao Ding finally chose to give in.
Compromise means avoiding disputes.
However, the real question is whether many things can be successfully completed and done well in the journey of life, and the most important thing is not others, but whether we are willing to work hard for ourselves.
With the passage of time, if Lao Ding and An Jie come together, then when mentioning An Jie, his voice will continue.
Jiang Defu didn't take this to heart, because he felt that it was his personal decision, so he chose to accept it.
Therefore, in the face of all kinds of rumors and doubts from the outside world, he will also choose to behave like a person who has nothing to do in front of An Jie and not make any mention.
But Lao Ding is different, and his personality is quite complex. If you make a choice today, it is likely to fluctuate tomorrow.
It's not that he will choose to divorce, but that he may be affected in some way.
You see, when there is a problem in the relationship between Lao Ding and Teacher Ge in the play, Lao Ding always likes to complain.
Mr. Jiang said his complaints had had an impact on his work. Anjie also said that the whole island understands his displeasure.
When Lao Ding began to complain, the first people to hear him complain about were often his family.
If you meet someone like Wang Xiu'e or Dehua who is not informal, it's not bad, but if you meet someone like An Jie, who is naturally very sensitive, the problem may become even more serious.
Lao Ding's negativity is contagious, causing both of them to feel unpleasant. After a long period of unhappiness, the couple may complain and disagree.
If this continues, those two people will feel very sad and happy.
After marrying Lao Ding, An Jie's fate in the play became untenable.
In the play, there was an in-depth conversation between Jiang Defu and Lao Ding.
Jiang Defu: I didn't reveal the truth about the divorce, I always felt depressed in my heart, and I always felt like a **.
Lao Ding: What are your plans?
Jiang Defu said: I want to tell her the truth.
Lao Ding: This is absolutely not allowed, comrade **, this matter cannot be discussed publicly, once it is said, it may cause problems. She was divorced. Please follow my advice, you should never tell her about your divorce, wait until you get married, wait until the raw rice is cooked before making a decision!
You see, this sentence shows the different views between Lao Ding and Jiang Defu very well.
Jiang Defu has a respectful attitude towards the other party, he is willing to be honest, confess his true situation, and hand over the decision-making power to the other party, and he is also willing to bear all possible consequences.
However, Lao Ding is different, he always starts from his own perspective and thinks about how to protect himself from losses to the greatest extent. Unbeknownst to him, such behavior, while potentially bringing short-term benefits, could also lay hidden dangers for his and his wife's future relationship.
Not to mention, if Lao Ding chooses a woman like An Jie as his wife. Once the matter is revealed, An Jie will definitely fall into chaos, and from now on, his trust in Lao Ding will also be greatly reduced.
It is impossible for her to live an unrestrained and happy life like An Jie in the play.
Moreover, in addition to Lao Ding's previous concealment of marriage, his way of thinking based on personal interests may also lead to his inability to bravely shield An Jie from the wind and rain like Jiang Defu at some specific moments.
For example, he could not be like Jiang Defu, although he had encountered difficulties in his promotion because of An Jie and was criticized by the outside world, but he chose to remain silent.
However, for An Jie, this issue of background is particularly sensitive. Because, he has always had a good relationship with his wife. It is worth mentioning that if there is a ** incident in Anjie, the couple is likely to have a conflict again.
For example, when Jiang Defu traveled to Xiaoshan Island and met Ouyang Yi, he would return and ask An Jie about it, hoping that An Jie would continue to support An Xin and Ouyang Yi.
But what if it's Lao Ding?
He was afraid that he would be in trouble, and he was also afraid that he would be forced to give up ** and return to the farmland, coupled with his resourcefulness, he would soon be able to understand the reason for Ouyang Yi's accident, therefore, considering his character, he would most likely choose to remain silent.
In fact, in the social environment at that time, Mingzhe usually chose to protect himself, and even An Xin's brother-in-law An Tai did the same.
Therefore, if Lao Ding chooses the same plan, it is also forgivable.
However, if he continues to act like this, then Anjie's complete trust and reliance on him will not be worth it.
From this point of view, Lao Ding actually did not have the opportunity to marry An Jie, the "ideal partner" in his mind, nor did he have the opportunity to marry Teacher Ge, who had a similar personality to An Jie, which was also a kind of luck.
After all, a person's character shapes his destiny. In these turbulent times, he could not provide a stable life for another person. Therefore, it may be a better choice to be with women like Wang Xiu'e and Dehua who are willing to pay for him, but will not let him worry too much.
A little confused, and the same is true for the rest of his life.
04 In the work "Parents' Love", Lao Ding's final fate is indeed regrettable.
He left abruptly due to constipation problems and pushing too the toilet.
Initially, when I ** this setting, it felt like it forcibly led to a question about whether Lao Ding should rest forever with Dehua or Wang Xiu'e.
However, after this revisit, I think there may be another layer of meaning hidden in this setting.
Throughout his life, Lao Ding always felt lost and frustrated because of his character, and was unable to realize his wishes.
Therefore, his heart is full of repression, and this repression is also reflected in his body.
For people, if they do not show themselves in repression, then they may perish in repression.
Lao Ding's fate coincided with his life choice, he had the idea of resisting, but after all, he failed to succeed, and could only perish in depression.
As sorry as I regret, it was all my personal decision.