What do you want a man to do without you spiritually?You have to be able to get out of him, at least make him look like that. The love between men and women is a game, if you want a man to be spiritually inseparable from you, there must be a lot of games in between, in fact, to put it bluntly, you are playing with your weaknesses in your own human nature.
The first is greed: I want him to love me wholeheartedly, meet all my needs, not only be ambitious, but also be with me all the time, spoil me, and give me a romantic love experience.
The second is sensitive and suspicious: if he didn't reply to my message, is he dating a beautiful woman, does he not love me so much, and looks for evidence of not loving me in the details all day long.
The third is selfishness: I hope that the other party will listen to me and pay for me, but I don't need to pay too much, and the fourth is quick success: we crave the other person's recognition and attention immediately when pursuing love, hoping to quickly occupy the other person's heart.
What you need to grasp a man is a rank, in fact, it is a cultivation, that is, you have to have enough reason to fight against the weaknesses in human nature, simply put, it is to learn to restrain yourself in the face of those emotional needs in love, distinguish priorities, if you want a career-minded man, then he will inevitably have a certain lack of companionship, and even neglect the family to some extent, at this time you need to find other alternatives to self-satisfaction, such as traveling, participating in social activities or yoga meditation and so on. When two people are together, you can stick as much as you want, find something to do when the other person is busy, don't put all your attention on him, otherwise your emotions are easily affected by him.
You have to have the courage and ability to leave this man at any time for him to be afraid of losing you. Some particularly good men, the study has found that they don't need the woman to bring any practical value to themselves, and they will care more about whether the relationship can provide them with energy than consume their emotions, for them home is a place to recharge. On the contrary, those boys who are slightly better are not good enough, and he pays special attention to the girls' work, educational background, family environment, etc., because they need to rely on marriage to resist risks together.
If you have passed the level of mental cultivation, you will basically succeed in choosing the right man. Let's take a look at how to do it.
The first pointThere is an important knowledge point in marketing is that good products are equal to indirect scarcity, if you want to build yourself into a good product that a man can't live without, you must learn to increase some anxiety that may lose you to the other party, really smart women are both a sense of crisis and security, that is, to let a man believe that you will not betray him, but also to make him realize that you are competitive, not that there is no other better choice to leave him. But if he treats you badly, he may lose you.
The second pointIt's about treating your kindness to him as a reward, not as a norm. If you want to grasp him spiritually, you have to understand the man, you have to understand what his top needs are, whether he expects to be understood and recognized, or he wants to achieve certain dreams, or he has enough trust and support. Then satisfy him as much as you can.
The third pointBecome an indispensable Xi in his life, try to participate in his life as much as possible, if the other party and your life circle overlap too high, then the cost of separation will be particularly large.
Fourth pointIt is their innate sense of responsibility and mission to convince boys that they are the masters of solid relationships, and that men have a natural desire to be the pillars of their families and relationships. Therefore, we can make men feel important and valued by giving them decision-making power and dominance in relationships. As George Eliot said, "The secret of love is to give the other person full respect and understanding." "When women respect men's decisions, care about their opinions, and give them enough support and encouragement, men feel that they play an important role in the relationship, and at the same time, they will cherish and rely on women's moral support more.
Fifth, and most importantly, you have to remember that when you invest in value, you must invest in yourself first!Sometimes a man's attitude towards you depends entirely on your attitude towards yourself
Finally, let's work together to become a better version of ourselves, manage our love with wisdom and love, let men feel your value and charm, and make them spiritually inseparable from you. May everyone find a happy love and harvest a beautiful life.
Men and women are emotionally sexual