"Teacher, can you get your girlfriend back after a breakup?How to get an ex-girlfriend back
I can't control my impulses, what if I'm already disgusted to get my girlfriend back?“
Teacher, I have a deep affection for her, why did she choose to leave me?”
Teacher, I miss her so much, why aren't her friends willing to help me now?”
Teacher Madoka, she just blocked me and said that she shouldn't bother her anymore, can she get it back?”
Have you thought carefully about the reasons for your breakup?
Many of the people who come here to seek redemption are silent when they first arrive. Because they faced the breakup, they didn't think deeply, they just blindly vented their hormones and emotions that they couldn't release. In order to successfully recover, we must start from ourselves and take effective measures to solve the problem.
When you see these conversations, do you feel a sense of déjà vu?It's like a swallow returning home.
These conversations are the ones I have heard the most in the year, I didn't understand the reasons, I didn't think about how to solve the conflict, I was swayed by emotions, I indirectly put pressure on the other party, I just blindly wanted to go back to the past, which is absolutely unacceptable.
There is always a reason for a breakup, and if you want to redeem the other person but don't find the problem, and don't realize the problems you have with the girl, then any effort to redeem will be in vain.
Today we are going to talk about the four major crimes of stalking and how to resolve them. Some tips for quickly changing the other person's mind will also be shared.
One of the four deadly sins that can't help but stalk after a breakup:
Not being aware of your real mistakes is the main reason for the breakup.
Breakups don't happen by accident.
Most breakups, even if they are caused by unexpected events, are essentially caused by conflicts that have accumulated over a long period of time.
When two people are together, it is often because there is an element of mutual attraction to each other, and the reason for separation is because the attraction to each other is no longer enough to overcome the contradiction and reach the critical point of reconciliation. At the moment, the attraction and charisma between you are no longer sufficient for each other.
Redemption letters that have been repeatedly overturned by you are just empty talk.
Many people will repeatedly use a few lines when trying to win back their lover, such as "I love you so much, I have reflected, can we be as good as before?".These words are really just repetitions, just conveying to the other person their own anxiety and decreasing value in the other person's mind. On the contrary, words that go straight to the essence are more effective in retrieving feelings.
It is very important to be self-aware and find the problem, otherwise the remaining patience and affection of the other party who just broke up will be consumed by you.
The most critical and important first step in trying to make amends is to realize your mistakes. Because only in this way can a good start be ensured, and a good start is often half the battle.
In some cases, the party after the breakup may still be willing to maintain communication with you. However, many people mistakenly see this as an opportunity for redemption from the other party, only to find that the problem becomes more serious during the communication.
Why is this happening?
To give a very common example, many people are usually agreed to re-add friends as friends after begging after failing to recover and are blocked by the other party, but after re-adding, they say some ambiguous and ambiguous words on WeChat, resulting in being blocked by the other party again.
Whether it is to unblock or unblock, it is becoming more and more difficult. This kind of redemption behavior actually occupies a considerable proportion, and the typical example is to waste opportunities in vain and increase one's own difficulties.
The survival of love requires you to provide value.
The essence of social activities is actually the exchange of values between each other, and love is no exception. Whether you want to save or build a stable long-term relationship, you must let the other person constantly see the sparkle and value in you.
Love is not just romantic, it also contains other factors. Life is more than just the basic necessities of life, but there are other aspects as well.
Two of the four deadly sins that can't help but be stalked after a breakup:
You don't know anything about a girl's heart.
Many people who want to save their relationship think that stalking is the best and most direct way to establish a sense of connection with a girl, and they are always worried that after the girl's interest has passed, the relationship will really pass. However, they ignore the nature of the sense of connection and what the girl really thinks inside.
Building a sense of connection is a gradual process that requires attention to her emotions and reactions to adjust.
There can be no rush and no change. It can be seen as a code door one by one, and we need to constantly decipher these doors and gradually get closer to the true thoughts and feelings of the girls.
Many salvage people often don't think about what the other person really thinks, and they don't notice the way the other person thinks and the attitude they have when communicating with you. What I want to convey is that whether it is a tracer or a girl or an ex-girlfriend who has just broken up, you should take into account the feelings of others.
When you reminisce at length about the good moments of the past, your purpose is to resonate and move the emotions of the girl. However, have you ever wondered if the other person's mood at the moment is really willing to listen to you talk about these things?
It's normal for her to be cold and keep her emotions in check.
In the process of trying to redeem, there is also a situation where they encounter a situation where when they express a sense of need to the other person, the other person's response seems cold. At this time, many people can easily feel angry and even question why the girl does not reply or has a cold attitude.
When it comes to feelings, remember not to spread the issue out for discussion, which is one of the taboos mentioned earlier. It is necessary to carefully understand the psychological changes of girls and respond appropriately. Even if the girl's response is average, don't be easily discouraged. It's common to have setbacks in such situations. If you lose your mind just because of a few words, then the boy's self-control may not be enough to make the girl look at him again.
Your emotional self-control in the process of recovery is one of the signs of maturity.
A man's maturity can be reflected in two aspects, namely self-control and execution. If a man has a problem with self-control, then the girl will not like him. Such a man usually can't give a woman a sense of security, and on the basis of no sense of security, how can a girl feel at ease to choose to be with him?
Love itself is a mystery, and you need to solve its puzzles step by step. This is the same problem that many revenators experienceThe degree of successful recovery depends on the foreshadowing of the situation and the reaction of the other party. If you make enough foreshadowing for the other person, she will naturally get close to you.
The third of the four deadly sins that can't help but stalk after a breakup:
You can't tell the difference between a real and a fake breakup.
The reason why many people are stalking is that many friends around them instigated: "The girl broke up with you just because she was angry, go and coax her, otherwise it will be too late when she really understands it." This statement is actually misunderstood, because they often can't tell whether it's a real or fake breakup, and they tend to miss the opportunity to attack.
Fake breakups can be confessional, entangled, and show love
Is there a case of quick entanglement after a breakup to save success?Yes, and not uncommonly.
How so?Because their breakup is nothing more than a small quarrel between lovers, this is a fake breakup.
When two people break up, it is usually because of a sudden conflict, and at least one of them is in a very emotionally unstable state to break up, a situation called a fake breakup. The main reason for a fake breakup is being influenced by the negative emotions of being overexcited, leading to irrational decisions.
A real breakup is useless
When a girl really decides to break up, she has completely given up on you and hopes to get out of the relationship as soon as possible and start a new life. If you continue to dwell on it at this point, it will only worsen an already bad relationship.
Therefore, for those who want to recover, they must first carefully judge the overall situation they are in.
The fourth of the four deadly sins that can't help but stalk after a breakup:
Didn't figure out the difference between pampering a girl and pampering a girl,
leads to inner irritability, and only knows how to keep giving in.
Deep down, girls always want to find a man they can rely on. If you just give in and admit your mistakes, you may be able to solve the immediate problem on the surface, but what about the future?
The core of whether the relationship can be repaired is the value of the man, not whether he is good enough for her.
A person's worth can be evaluated from two perspectives: intrinsic value and extrinsic value. When they were students, girls judged a man more by extrinsic value, and after entering society, they measured a man's ability more by intrinsic value.
For girls, blindly compromising and pandering will not move them, and for you will not gain respect, it will only make your self-worth further reduced.
You can care for girls, but you must not indulge. There is a very crucial mindset change involved here, and you love a girl because you love her, not because you are worried about her leaving and accommodating her.
The key to recovery lies in secondary attraction. A man's worth always lies in the center of gravity of his own life and career. When a man focuses on his career, he will show his most attractive and ** side. They need support, not a babysitter or housekeeper.
Apologizing is useless for redemption because low-profile men have no value.
Many men used to think that when a girl gets angry and says she wants to break up, all she needs to do is apologize or compromise to solve the problem. As long as you are sincere and buy a gift to coax, you can solve it smoothly. Maybe for those girls with little experience, this method can still be effective once or twice. But as the routines are used more and more, the girls gradually develop immunity to these methods, and they will eventually find out that you are not sincere. Therefore, if you really like girls, then simple apologies and compromises are futile. You need to engage in deep self-reflection rather than blind compromise, which will only accelerate your failure and devalue yourself.
Don't get caught up in "I think she likes it", the reality is that she likes men who are worth **
In short, most of those who use stalking to get their girlfriends back are self-conscious. They only care about what they give, and never think about what the other person really needs. It's like I want an apple, but you give me a pear. To make matters worse, some people are still obsessed with their own world, only seeing the negative emotional signs transmitted by the other person, and misunderstanding the other person's real needs.
In a relationship between the sexes, it is not a big deal if one partner is clumsy. It's like Guo Jing and Huang Rong can still get along. But,Self-righteous, not knowing how to interact, and unwilling to compromise and adapt to each other is an absolutely unacceptable weakness.
When faced with a true breakup, the best way to redeem love is by no means to obsessively entangle, but to know how to grasp your own position and get along with girls in the process of redemption. Constant stalking will not only test the limit of a girl's patience, but also challenge her own bottom-line value.
No more pressure on the other party in the following process. If you can still communicate, you can deal with it calmly for a few days.
Girls are not only looking for touching, but also like to be conquered. There may sometimes be difficulties in retrieving or pursuing them.
Many of them will break down and give up immediately, or they will have an emotional outburst of arguments, or they will lick their wounds with self-sufficiency. However, it is important to know that girls are more inclined to calm and judgmental men, and this is what really has a fatal attraction. A man's emotions should not be swayed by the emotions of a girl, but should firmly grasp the initiative when getting along with a girl!