A girl asked me this question: "What is the difference between a warm man and a good man?"How to distinguish whether a person is a warm man or a good person?”
If you want to distinguish between the two kinds of people, you have to first talk about the definitions of "warm man" and "good man":
"Warm man", as the name suggests, the so-called warm man, refers to a boy who gives people warmth, care, and consideration. They generally have a strong sense of empathy and responsibility, and are able to give people a strong sense of security and trust while caring for and caring for others.
In love, they tend to treat their other half wholeheartedly and can give everything for each other to love each other.
"Good old people" refers to this type of person who will always show kindness and kindness to others. They are usually people who don't know how to say no to others, and they don't show irritability or tantrums when they are dissatisfied or criticized by others.
They usually try to accommodate other people's needs, basically you go to them and they will definitely do it for you.
On the surface, both are kind, honest people, but in reality, these two types of people behave differently and have different psychological motivations.
1. Active and passive.
"Warm men" tend to be more proactive in their behavior, and they usually happen to give support and help when others need it.
The "good old man" is more passive in behavior, and they usually ask for help before they passively help others.
2. Positive and negative.
"Warm men" generally behave more positively, and their behavior is often spontaneous and genuinely to help others. Just like those who are in the positive energy.
The "good old people" tend to behave more negatively, they are able to help others in a timely manner, and although they will passively accept the requests of others, they are often not sincere.
3. Image and interests.
"Warm men" help others, generally for the sake of helping, they don't care about their image or what benefits they get.
"Good people" help others, usually for their own image, reputation, and interests. Even if they are able, they will only help others if they can gain favor.
In short, although "warm men" and "good old people" both give people a warm and caring image, their behavior patterns, psychological motivations are different, and their gains and losses are also different.
To distinguish them, we generally look at them from the following three aspects:
1. Through language.
"Warm men" usually follow their hearts, and what they say to others is also sincere and encouraging, usually more direct.
Although the "good old people" are not bad-hearted, they often say insincere things to help others, and they are usually more tactful.
2. Through action.
"Warm men" will basically always care about whether others have difficulties, and if they encounter them, they will help others as soon as possible.
"Good old people" will not take the initiative to care, even if others ask, they will hesitate before deciding to help.
3. Through the image.
"Warm Man" usually gives people a sunny, cheerful, and generous image, and he doesn't care too much about the praise given by others.
The "good old man" usually gives the image of being reluctant and unhappy, and he is happy to give praise to others.
4. Through emotion.
With "warm men", your level of care and love is basically in a state of explosion every day, and they will make you feel absolutely comfortable and safe.
With the "good old guys", you are basically in confusion about how much you care and are loved. They don't actively care about you, and you usually feel like you're being taken advantage of or doubted about how true they are for you.
All in all, it is not difficult to distinguish between "warm men" and "good old people", and it is easy to determine what kind of person they really are through their behavior, motivations, words, and emotions.
So the question is, in the recently popular "Xiaoman Life", Chen Li belongs to the "warm man"?Or the "good old man"?Leave a message in the comments section.
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