However, this sentence touched a deep place in my heart.
I suddenly realized that those childhood memories we used to have had been submerged by the years, and maybe in his heart, I was no longer his relative.
It's a strange feeling, it's hard to describe.
I suddenly felt that this visit to relatives was actually more of a process of searching and reminiscing, rather than real contact and communication.
The second category: relatives who have been arguing.
Every family has something to hide, and some relatives may be in quarrels and contradictions due to some historical reasons or personality differences.
In this case, going to relatives will only make the atmosphere more awkward and stiff.
Even if you are a mediator, it is difficult to reach a settlement and compromise in a short period of time.
So, for this type of relative, it is better to keep your distance and not put yourself in it when you go to your relatives.
Category 3: Relatives who lack basic courtesy.
Such relatives may be people who are unforgiving and do not pay attention to etiquette, or they may be arrogant and disrespectful to others.
Either way, it will leave a bad impression and make people feel very uncomfortable.
When visiting relatives, we should not only pay attention to our words and deeds, but also see the performance of the other party, so as to avoid making the whole trip unpleasant because of a relative who does not know how to respect.
It is a good thing to go to relatives, it allows us to get to know our family better, to know ourselves better.
However, we need to take our relatives seriously and choose the right time, the right way, and the right relatives, in order to truly achieve the purpose of contacting feelings and maintaining relationships.
Therefore, I hope that when you go to relatives, you must pay attention to these three types of relatives to avoid making the process of visiting relatives unpleasant.
Let's work together to go to relatives and protect our family with our hearts.
This is the second time I have visited my relatives and I still feel extremely embarrassed and uncomfortable.
The first was to visit Ah Liang, and his cold attitude towards me made me sad.
I didn't say I came to see him, and he didn't offer an invitation to sit me down for tea.
In the end, he just casually said that he would talk when he was free, without the slightest sincerity.
This was the first relative I visited.
Next, I chose to visit my sister, who lived in an upscale neighborhood with her brother-in-law, who was a wealthy family and a good earner.
Although I had some expectations for my sister, she made me wait at the gate of the community for half an hour before coming out to pick me up.
I got into the elevator and arrived at my sister's door, and I was just about to go in, but she suddenly turned around and said she wanted to get me slippers.
She searched for a long time, but she didn't think it was suitable.
Eventually, she reluctantly took out a shoe cover for me and let me wear it into the house.
When I entered my sister's house, I felt very uncomfortable.
As soon as I put down my things, my sister told me to take the milk I bought, because their family only drank imported milk.
I looked around the corner and saw that there was a pile of delicate food.
As soon as I sat down, I felt a little tired from my waist, so I leaned back on the sofa, but I was stared at by my sister's sharp eyes.
I got up at once and sat down in a proper manner, daring to sit only halfway.
After a while, my brother-in-law came out and poured me a cup of tea.
He took a random disposable cup, filled it with some tea, and handed it to me.
We chatted for a while, and my brother-in-law suddenly said that he had something to go back to the room.
This is the second time I have visited my relatives, but I feel even more embarrassed and uncomfortable than before.
Whether it's Ah Liang or his sister, their attitudes and behaviors make me feel left out and not taken seriously.
Even though I am a relative of theirs, it doesn't seem to be anything in their hearts.
The coldness and disregard they showed to me made me feel sad and extremely embarrassed.
The first was to visit Ah Liang, whose coldness to me made me wonder and disappointed.
I didn't explicitly tell him I was coming to see him, but during the five-minute conversation, he didn't even say a word about inviting me to sit down for tea.
I had to joke that I went to the wrong place, expressing my embarrassment and helplessness.
In the end, he said that I should go to visit my relatives first, and he would take his two grandchildren to play and talk when he had time.
This kind of "talk when you have time" is just a casual remark, and there is no sincerity at all.
This was the first relative I visited.
Next, I chose to visit my sister, who lives in an upscale neighborhood with her brother-in-law, who is relatively wealthy and who is also an expert earner.
I expected more from my sister, but her attitude made me feel more embarrassed and uncomfortable.
When I was waiting for her at the gate of the community, she made me wait for half an hour before coming out to pick me up.
I entered the elevator and arrived at my sister's door, and I was just about to enter the house when she suddenly turned around and said she wanted to get me a pair of slippers.
She searched for a long time, but felt that there was no suitable pair.
Eventually, she reluctantly took out her shoe covers for me and let me wear them into the house.
As soon as I entered my sister's house, I felt very uncomfortable.
As soon as I put down my food, my sister asked me to take the milk I bought, because their family only drank imported milk.
I looked at the corner of my sister's house full of delicate foods, and I felt a kind of disappointment in my heart that I had been left out.
I felt a little tired from my waist, and as soon as I leaned back on the sofa, my sister stared at me with sharp eyes.
I immediately got up and sat in a proper manner, daring to sit only halfway.
After a while, my brother-in-law came out and poured me a cup of tea.
He took a random disposable cup, filled it with some tea, and handed it to me.
After we chatted a few words, my brother-in-law suddenly said that he had something to go back to the room.
This is the second time I have visited my relatives, but it has made me even more embarrassed and uncomfortable.
Whether it was Ah Liang or my sister, their cold attitude towards me made me feel left out and not valued.
As a relative of theirs, I inevitably felt confused and disappointed.
Ah Liang didn't even say a word about inviting me to sit down for tea during the five-minute conversation, and finally just casually said that we would talk when I was free.
This was the first relative I visited.
Then, I decided to visit my sister.
The family lives in a high-end community, has relatively good economic conditions, and the brother-in-law is also an expert in making money.
I had higher expectations for my sister, but her attitude made me feel even more embarrassed and uncomfortable.
When I was waiting for my sister at the gate of the complex, she asked me to wait for half an hour before coming out to pick me up.
I entered the elevator and arrived at my sister's door, and I was just about to enter the house when she suddenly turned around and said that she was looking for me a pair of slippers.
After some searching, she felt that there was no pair that would fit.
Eventually, she reluctantly took out my shoe covers and let me wear them into the house.
As soon as I entered my sister's house, I felt very uncomfortable.
As soon as I put my things down, my sister asked me to take the milk I bought, because their family only drank imported milk.
When I saw the nooks and cons of my sister's house full of delicate food, I couldn't help but feel a kind of disappointment in my heart that I had been left out.
I felt a little tired at the waist, and as soon as I leaned back on the sofa, my sister stared at me with sharp eyes.
I immediately got up and sat down in a proper manner, daring to sit only halfway.
After a while, my brother-in-law came out and poured me a cup of tea.
He took a random disposable cup, filled it with some tea, and handed it to me.
After we chatted a few words, my brother-in-law suddenly said that he had something to go back to the room.
This visit made me realize that I am not getting the attention and care I deserve among my relatives.
Whether it's Ah Liang or my sister, they all have cold and unwelcome eyes for me.
I wondered why, in their minds, wasn't I a relative of theirs?I was confused and overwhelmed.
This visit gave me a lot to think about.
As relatives, we are supposed to be close and caring, but feel left out and not valued.
It made me think about our relationship, and I wasn't considered a relative in their eyesPerhaps, this visit made me more aware of the complex relationship between relatives, as well as the differences and indifference between people.
Perhaps, I need to put more effort into maintaining and building relationships with my relatives.
True kinship should be intimate and warm, not cold and strange.
The story takes place on an ordinary day.
I went to visit my sister first, but I found that she and her brother-in-law were not at home.
I waited awkwardly for a while to say goodbye.
My sister politely invited me to dinner, but I politely declined and left on the grounds that someone else was treating.
When I left, my sister left me with a carton of milk.
I ate a bowl of noodles by myself and sat for three hours before deciding to visit my cousin.
My cousin is a relative who doesn't like to go to appointments, and when I came to his rented apartment, he and his brother-in-law seemed uncomfortable.
My cousin was always worried about debt, and I suspect he mistakenly thought I was here to borrow money.
We sat on the couch and the conversation was of little substance.
When I was leaving, my cousin kept telling me to take the carton of milk with me, but he didn't give me anything.
This visit seems to have made me more aware of the true meaning of family affection, even between relatives, there may be many estrangements and misunderstandings.
As I faced the indifferent gazes of my relatives with a carton of milk in my hand, I couldn't help but wonder if I was on the wrong path in life.
This carton of milk was a gift from my relatives when I left, but after watching it ** stream of rejection, I began to despair a little.
The three relatives I visited were my aunt whom I hadn't seen in years, my cousin who was the same age as me, and my cousin who used to play with me when I was a child.
I brought a carton of milk to their house, only to find that my aunt's family had already prepared a hearty meal, my cousin said that he didn't drink milk, and my cousin laughed and said that his family already had enough milk.
I felt ashamed, and more importantly, I began to reflect on the meaning of bringing gifts to my relatives.
Should I get to know my relatives better and find something they really like?To avoid the embarrassment of visiting relatives, it is perhaps more important to grasp the real relationship with relatives.