Hello everyone, I'm Qingyao.
I read this book for almost ten days, which is a long time.
First, because the content of this book is relatively fragmented, and secondly, the content is dry goods and needs to be digested slowly.
In fact, the process of reading is like making cloth, many people may not know that the clothes they wear (polyester) are originally just some plastic particles, and after a series of processing such as spinning, weaving, and dyeing, they finally become all kinds of beautiful clothes.
Reading books is the same, the books in the library are those plastic particles, we need to process them into our own knowledge, and then become the light in ourselves.
The main points of the second half are shared with you.
01 You don't need to prove yourself
Only face-loving fools need to prove that they have the courage. What they don't understand is that although their face has been saved for a while, they have already become the object of being crushed by time. ”
Last time I ordered two takeouts at the same time at the park, one was delivered on time and the other was late, and it scolded me.
He didn't think I should order takeout at the park.
I think it's funny, you can not take orders, and then he hurriedly said what kind of system dispatch or something, and his face turned red. I said, "Let's go."
If I try to prove to him that I'm right, I'm afraid I'm going to end up in a fight.
Many people often want to reason with others for the sake of face, and they are quick to talk for a while, and many people lose their lives.
Reasonable people don't need you to waste your saliva, and the more you talk about unreasonable people, the more you lower your level.
"It's not important to prove yourself at all, it's important to grow, because if growth comes true, proof is automatically done. ”
The New Year is coming soon, and there must be many people facing all kinds of marriage urging troubles from seven aunts and eight aunts, although many of them are mired in marriage, but they just can't get used to you not getting married.
What's the use of making so much money, it's not a person, and no one cares when you're old?
Do you need to prove to them that you pursue spiritual independence, a good life, and love with fate, no.
As long as you think it's the right thing, stick to it, and you don't need to prove it to others, and the face is not worth anything, and you can't eat it.
Time will tell.
02 Find the focus of growth
People are a product, what is the key point of a product's hot selling, it works.
People are the same, multi-dimensional expansion, one dimension is prominent, useful, and valuable.
Imagine what you can do and how you can be more usefulFind this focus, dig deeper, and then expand.
For example, if you are just a merchandiser and you want to be a foreign trade salesman, the core competition point of a foreign trade salesman is foreign language and professional knowledge plus negotiation skills, etc.
The focus is on foreign languages, first to break through this, followed by professional knowledge and others.
What kind of person you want to become, what kind of things you want to do, list the necessary conditions for this thing, and then focus on breakthroughs.
03 Give meaning to what you do
To teach at New Oriental, you have to memorize 20,000 words, and the author feels that it is too hard.
He thought of a motivation, it is said that New Oriental has an annual salary of one million, so one word is equivalent to 50 yuan, so I am so excited to think about it.
Carrying 50 a day, I felt that it was not enough, I had to earn 5,000 a day, and then I tried to earn 10,000 a day without addiction, and I was strongly motivated to finally complete the task.
Although the average of 7 years is equivalent to 175 yuan, not 50 yuan a year, the significance of this incident to his life is far greater than this money.
We slept in the Chase Bunk in junior high and high school, and listened to the rats dancing on us every night.
Eat your own steamed buns that will mold in summer and freeze in winter, is it bitter, bitter.
The motivation for me to insist on studying hard and Xi is to get out of the mountains and leave the life facing the loess with my back to the sky.
Relying on this belief, I was admitted to the university with very average grades.
If you want to do something and can't stick to it, give it a very powerful meaning, which will mobilize your enthusiasm and push you forward.
04 The attitude towards time is the lever of your success
The author hates the Spring Festival, feels very bored, calculates that the time of a year's holidays is 115 days, 20 years is 2300 days, then he is not the Spring Festival, there are 365 complete days in a year, which is equivalent to 20 years more than others 92 years.
The author's message here is not that we should be busy every day, but that we should learn to use our time wisely.
When I went for a follow-up dental check-up last week, I heard the doctor talk to ** about playing numb all night. My first reaction was what a waste of time.
Everyone has their own preferred lifestyle, but if you want to be the better version of yourself, leisure without nutrition is not for you.
The author has never watched the Spring Festival Gala since he was 16 years old, and his time is spent reading books and sleeping, so he has today's Li Xiaolai.
When I learned Xi Python programming language, the time I spent reading Uncle First was basically 15 minutes a day on the toilet, and it took a whole month to get it done. ”
Successful people always have a reason for success, and they learn to make the most of every minute.
05 Long-term and short-term
Investing can also not require a lot of money, but investing must require a variety of ways to make money other than investment to ensure that the invested money achieves long-term operations.
The author gave a suggestion, buy a ** with $1, and then build one**, update it at the end of each month*** to calculate the rise and fall relative to the initial investment of $1, so that you can stick to it for at least 12 months, even if you have the entry qualification for investment.
The key to investing is to stick to the long term.
Remember to put it all in.
Investing is not risk-taking, it's risk-averse.
Core Value" to achieve greater returns with less risk. ”
I don't have any practical experience about investing, so I don't understand much.
But the long-term and short-term are really worth thinking about and Xi.
Yesterday in the writing ***, I saw a person who said, I have been updated for ten days, how can the number of readings still be in double digits.
No one answered his question. The reason is very simple, you take a pill and want to **, how is it possible, and it is not Hedinghong.
Whether you are making an investment, doing a career, or honing a skill, you must look at the problem in the long term and don't give up because there is no effect in the short term.
Nothing in this world can be done overnight.
06 Improve the quality of your choices
Observe others, reflect on yourself, ask for advice, read a lot, and study repeatedly. ”
Grasp the necessary conditions of selection and eliminate unnecessary conditions.
A high-quality selection is not about "thinking of everything", but of "thinking of the necessary conditions" as much as possible. ”
How to train the ability to choose, no matter how big the matter, take out a pen and write down all the screening criteria.
Give each condition a score (1-5 points can be awarded).
Sort by score.
Take the time to reconsider and score the next day.
If this is very important, such as buying a house, changing jobs, etc., repeat the above many times.
07Choose a friend
The author mentions that a friend of his told him about his dating strategy:
If it's too "black", you can't hand it in.
If it's not good for your wife, you can't pay it.
Those who have a black heart will be black on you one day.
It's not good for the non-blood wife who gets along day and night, how can I really be good to you.
Criteria for the author to choose friends:A skill;Pursuit of progress;Genuine and enthusiastic.
"People who apologize with their mouths are not worth associating, and people who apologize with actions should cherish one when they meet one. ”
Choosing friends varies from person to person, but there is one important point that must be clear, your friends indirectly reflect your character and abilities.
Write at the end:
I want to streamline, but I'm afraid that everyone won't understand it, and the number of words will be exceeded.
The overall reading value of this book is still very high, and it is recommended for people who want to become excellent.