Two days ago, I was talking to my friends and family about "exes".
I asked them, "Are you still in touch with your ex?""They are in different situations, but they all think that how a relationship ends depends on how they got along in the first place. I then asked, "Do you have any thoughts of continuing to be friends after the breakup?"”
Most of their answers were quite unexpected ......Could it be that lovers eventually become friends ????Are people who have done and loved really willing to return to friendship?01 "You can be friends, the kind that you don't get along with each other when you die old".@盯裆猫 3 years in love and 3 years of breakup.
He was my senior, and we met in club activities together. This 3-year relationship lasted through my university. I was going to study abroad in my junior year, and I was worried and asked him, "What are we going to do?".”
He smiled and touched his head: "Good, it's okay, I have confidence in the two of us, I'll wait for you to come back." ”After going abroad for 1 year, by the time we reached the 3rd anniversary of our relationship, he had been missing for a week. I send dozens of messages a day, and he just doesn't reply a word, and I have a strong premonition that he deliberately can't read back. 
*: Little Red Book.
It turns out that a woman's sixth sense is very accurate. One day in the middle of the night, I received a message from him coldly: "I don't know how to reply to you, I'm sorry for you, everything happened to me and Linzi......Hope you're doing. "I was kicked in the head by a donkey, and I humbled myself to the dust to please him:"It's okay, if you break off with her, I'll treat it as if it ......didn't happen"It's really not good, you usually go out with her and don't tell me or something, I don't know it's just that it hasn't happened!"He thought I was crazy, and I couldn't believe I could say that, but the only thing I thought at the time was: don't disconnect, be friends, be friends with me!After all, I really don't have anyone to talk to abroad!
I tried my best to keep in touch, and fantasized about going back to China to make them both yellow, and went to the Internet to search for "how to be a green tea" and learn it with relish. This thought lasted for more than a year, until time slowly let me go, and thankfully I didn't really do those ridiculous things. He's still on my friends list, and he occasionally gives me a thumbs up, so we should be friends......The kind that doesn't get along with each other in old age. 02 "We are **, but we are not lovers".@目标183 80's Tie Cui Friend 2 years We have known each other for two years, and she and I can talk better. I'll admit that I have a crush on her because she's good-looking, but I think she should be kind of interesting to me. 
The situation was a bit special that day, I fell out of love, I was very sad, and I asked her to come out for a drink. She was very righteous and said impassionedly: "What's so good about her, I thought you had bad taste when you were together, but now it's good to be separated, I wish you a happy single!."”She was so happy that she was a fool, and I suddenly felt the urge to kiss her, and I did, and she didn't refuse me. Later, I did what I had to do, I remember it was quite intense, and I couldn't see that she was quite adept. 
*: The movie "Bouquet of Love".
The next day, I was actually a little at a loss, so I tried to talk to her as usual as if nothing had happened, but I didn't expect her to be the same as usual. Even in the subsequent relationship, she was able to catch some large-scale jokes naturally without any embarrassment. It seems that as long as both of them can let go, it won't be so difficult to continue to be friends after doing it......But I always feel that there is a little imperceptible but real gap between the two, so it's good to turn a blind eye. 03 "Although often**, they don't love each other".@adele I have known the dating app for 3 months, he is my mark on the software, he is very handsome, and he is 4 years younger than me, and he is now the most popular "little milk dog". We didn't see each other a few times before we had a relationship, we were all adults, dry firewood, and we solved each other's physiological needs. After that, I made it clear that I didn't want to be in a relationship, and he seemed to be briefly disappointed, but accepted it. We didn't cut off contact, but would often **, go out to play, eat, and even travel together, because there is no romantic relationship, so we won't quarrel over trivial things. I feel like we're pretty compatible. But I always feel that there is less intimacy in love, we are not possessive of each other, and I still want to eat melons when others flirt with him. Occasionally, he would say something jealous like "my sister is not allowed to ask other boys" and "my sister can only ask me", which I just thought was funny and didn't take it to heart. 
I was also in a window period, and coupled with the instinctive attraction of my body, I did not resist maintaining a physical relationship with him. He has a young and powerful body, he can lift me easily with his hands, and he does a good job, and he always calls me "sister, sister". It's somewhat inaccurate to call him a "long-term friend", and in my case, I can call him a "friend". Probably you can't be friends without love, and I allow him to appear in my life, isn't the happiness that this relationship brings real?04 "I always thought there was still a lot of time, but she turned around and put on someone else's wedding dress."@南到我了 I have been in love for 4 years, and I am 25 years old this year after breaking up for half a year, and she proposed marriage to me a few years after graduation, which is definitely enough for me to eat a pot!She is not stressed, she is 30 years old this year, she has been working for 8 years, she has more savings than me, and she is also sitting in the position of director, what do I use to benchmark her?
In addition, her parents also urged, and I can always hear her parents say in **: "It's been so many years, and if you don't show us yet, you can't do it?"”I heard the anger, isn't that humiliating me?Her family took my breath away. 
*: Weibo @ Chasing Wind in the Void.
I know that she wanted to mention marriage several times, but I cleverly avoided it: "I'm still young, I'm just getting up, I have to work hard for a few years, save more money, fight for our future, I can't let your parents look down on me, what do you say?"."She is a very good-tempered girl, she is very considerate to me, she has never yelled at me, she has a full sense of ritual during the New Year's holidays, she trusts me very much, and she never turns over my phone. She's all good, but there's no compromise on this matter. You say, it's been 4 years, is it so hard to wait?She was calm even when she broke up with me: "I can't wait for you that long." A man's journey from naivety to maturity is really much slower than I imagined, so let others grow up with you. ”Joke, she actually said that I was naïve, I obviously wanted to work hard for a few more years to give her a better life, but she hated to marry and blamed me!I didn't delete her, I saw that she was going to get married at the end of this month, and the other party looked like a very elegant person, alas, it was really different from me.
What are we in the past 4 years?got married after half a year of breaking up, she was so ruthless ......Well, I admit that I "broke the defense", and I actually hate myself more than blame her for blaming her. If I had met her at the right age, would it have ended differently?If you had chosen to be friends only, would you still be able to chat occasionally?I remembered the lyrics: "What I miss is what I miss, what I miss, is dreaming together".
05 My heart's wordsIn the final analysis, no matter how these stories end, everyone hides a little selfishness: how can people who have loved well watch each other and others run towards happiness?When you are in love, you will do your best to be a lover and enjoy it seriouslyThe "later" bread is left for later, and what we can do is only now.
There are no two people who are born to be suitable, and the back road of love is never "big deal to be friends", but to overcome all difficulties and stay together no matter how far they go.