The father married a wife who was 15 years younger, supported his stepmother to have children, and did not let his stepmother be wronged
In 2001, 31-year-old Ren Amano, who was running daily on Hamburg's promenade, had no idea that his father had another chance to get married in China.
Born in Heilongjiang in 1970, this gentleman spent his childhood in a family run by a single mother.
My mother was a lumber mill worker and worked hard to support the small family. In those days, he met and fell in love with a Kazakh woman.
Young people are not afraid of each other's professional conditions, and they are not worried about cultural and personality differences. The crystallization of their love was first the birth of their son Ren Amano, and then welcomed a lovely little daughter in the following four years.
With the arrival of the child, the originally gentle husband began to have frequent arguments with his admonishing wife due to his daily habit of smoking and drinking. The differences that were once masked are gradually coming to the surface in the process of escalating contradictions.
The young Ren Amano has often been shrouded in quarrels since he was sensible. This family seems to be drifting apart under the shadow of contradictions.
As a child, when he was only 8 years old, his mother left with his sister, and on the day he left, he heard the word "divorce" for the first time, understanding that it meant that the closest people would say goodbye forever.
From that moment on, he lived with his father. The middle-aged divorced father was freed from the shackles of marriage and lived a freer life. As a result, Ren Amano didn't particularly care about his father's life since he was a child.
As time went on, the son grew up day by day, and the handsome face of the mixed race gradually appeared. After graduating from high school, he was already over 1.8 meters tall.
At the same time, my father was wandering all over the Northeast to work. Ren Amano loves football and had the idea of development. However, an injury in a game shattered his football dreams prematurely.
Far from the Northeast, Ren Amano traveled to Guangzhou, a southern country, where he worked as a waiter, a barber, and even tried his hand at becoming a race car driver. In this long journey of life, he tasted the ups and downs of life.
It is said that while working in a security company, he served as Liu Huan and Ekin Cheng's personal bodyguards.
It wasn't until he was 29 years old that his life took a huge turn.
With his handsome appearance and strong figure, he attracted the attention of a modeling agency.
Under the company's systematic training and image building, Ren Amano won the Best Newcomer Award in the Mentholatum National Model Contest that year.
After the competition, he signed on to become an exclusive model for a German clothing company.
The young man from the Northeast stepped onto the international stage for the first time.
In Hamburg, Germany, his daily life and modeling training seemed monotonous and regular.
Exotic and unique architecture, rare wooden steamers, his daily scenery while running on the waterfront every day.
The gentleman from China was completely immersed in the unique experience of a new life.
He never imagined that at the same time, his father's life in China had changed dramatically.
At that time, Ren Mingjiu had traveled to Changchun and south to Dalian, a coastal place. Two years after his son went abroad, he went to Tianjin alone.
In a logistics company, he lived a leisurely warehouse storage life, with almost no waves in his daily life, but he still maintained the habit of drinking.
Soon after, the middle-aged divorced man met a woman from rural Cangzhou. The other party has never been married, and what is even more surprising is that he is 15 years younger than him in age.
Ren Mingjiu originally had no expectations for remarriage, and even after divorcing his ex-wife many years ago, he had given up his plans to remarry. However, the young Cangzhou woman broke into his life and broke his inner peace.
Despite the age gap, as common migrant workers, they don't get along much differently.
As time passed, love gradually emerged between the two.
At the beginning, Ren Mingjiu still had some mustard in his heart, after all, he was divorced and had a son who was in his thirties.
However, the other party did not dislike him because of this. And just like that, they slowly came together.
However, at this time, Ren Amano still knew nothing.
In the fall of 2001, his modeling contract expired and he returned to China.
He went directly to Tianjin to see his father. As soon as they met, Ren Mingjiu arranged a "surprise" for his son.
I'm getting married again. He pulled out the marriage certificate from the drawer.
Ren Amano was a little incredulous for a while, his father remarried?Why have you never mentioned it to yourself?
Faced with the stunned face on his son's face, Ren Mingjiu patiently explained to him.
Finally, he added that he was "on his own" considering that his son was in Germany and could not be contacted.
Ren Amano felt a little unacceptable after hearing this, and he anxiously asked about the other party's situation.
When he learned that the new "stepmother" was never married and was only 11 years younger than him in age, Ren Amano almost jumped up from his chair.
Dad, you're...This is too hasty, isn't it, people are so much younger than you, how can they fall in love with you?”
Ren Amano couldn't accept it, at least in the world's perceptions, he felt that this relationship was a little too unrealistic.
's father is not a wealthy businessman, just an ordinary middle-aged worker, how can the other party ......
Ren Mingjiu, who was next to him, watched his son be in a hurry, and he tried to continue to explain to his son:
Your aunt and I are not trying to get anything from each other, she is very virtuous, we just want to live a plain and stable life. ”
In order to increase the persuasiveness, Ren Mingjiu continued to mention that the more than 40,000 yuan that his son gave him in the past two years is still on the passbook.
If she was really in it for the money, the deposit would have been gone a long time ago.
Although Ren Mingjiu said a lot of good things about the other party, Ren Tianye's heart still felt a little uneasy.
He couldn't wait for the other party to get off work, and wanted to see with his own eyes what kind of person this "stepmother" was.
Through her father's mouth, Ren Amano learned that she was working as a tally clerk in a supermarket.
Soon, evening came, and she returned home from work.
Ren Amano felt a little embarrassed, and during the dinner together, he wanted to say something, but it was difficult to express a thousand words for a while.
At this time, Ren Tianye secretly saw that his father on the side was already showing his old state.
In comparison, the aunt sitting next to her father looked quite young.
Is this a couple?If outsiders don't understand the situation, they will definitely mistake them for a father and daughter!
You're so young, and my dad doesn't have a regular job, what do you like about him?”
In the face of Ren Tianye's question, the stepmother behaved very frankly.
She admitted that she had a relationship experience before, but as the love deepened, she was also more vulnerable.
In those decadent years, it was Ren Amano's father who appeared in time to help him gradually get out of the haze.
Since then, she has felt that Ren Amano's father is a trustworthy person, and the two have similar personalities.
Although these words sounded very sincere, Ren Amano was still entangled in his heart.
Once, no matter where his father was, visiting him had always been the most important thing in Ren Amano's heart.
Ever since he had that woman, his father's place had become a forbidden area that Amano dared not touch.
After dinner that day, he almost ran away from the rental house where his father lived with the woman, as if he were running away from something.
In the months that followed, Ren Amano never visited his father again.
When he thought of the "stepmother" who was only more than ten years older than him, his heart began to ripple.
Soon at the end of the year, his father told Ren Amano in ** that he and the woman had only received a marriage certificate before, and now they were taking advantage of the opportunity of the New Year to prepare for a wedding.
Ren Mingjiu's expectations are obvious, he hopes that his son can also attend the wedding.
At that time, Ren Amano was filming a TV series in his hometown of Tohoku, and he just lightly told his father that he would go back when he had time.
At the end of that year, Ren Mingjiu and his second wife spent 20,000 yuan on a simple wedding in a rented house of less than 30 square meters.
The doubts in Ren Tianye's heart have not completely dissipated, and he has not returned to his hometown in the end.
The father and his new wife have started a new life, and he can't stay away all the time without visits.
Since then, every time he goes back to Tianjin to visit relatives, Ren Tianye quietly observes the situation at home, worrying that his stepmother will treat his father badly.
Because of prejudices in his heart, he often looks at his stepmother with colored eyes.
Sometimes when he saw his father busy in the kitchen, he would insinuate that she was not virtuous enough.
If he sees his stepmother dressing up a little, Ren Tianye will immediately remind his father:
There is a big age gap between you, so you have to be careful about everything. ”
Once, during a chance encounter in Beijing, Ren Amano met a relative from his hometown.
The other party inadvertently mentioned that when he went to visit his father, his stepmother had a fairly strict management of the family economy.
Once, Ren Amano and Ren Mingjiu went out to eat together, but Ren Amano's father couldn't even pay a hundred yuan.
These words came out of the mouth of an outsider, which made Ren Tianye feel quite harsh.
So, he hurriedly returned to Tianjin and euphemistically mentioned this matter to his stepmother.
Who knew that the stepmother insisted on her own philosophy.
Your father didn't have any plan to spend money, and I kept the money for the good of the family. ”
But you are too harsh, you don't have the money to meet relatives or even have a meal, others will gossip. ”
Ren Tianye's tone was a little heavy, and as soon as these words came out, the stepmother felt a little aggrieved.
She married Ren Mingjiu and didn't plan anything, but now she has repeatedly encountered the incomprehension of her children.
Seeing that the two were at an impasse, Ren Mingjiu could only stand up and persuade him.
Although this incident has passed, for Ren Amano, the shadow in his heart is even deeper.
In the winter of 2003, he used all his savings to buy a property in Beijing without consulting his father.
Ren Tianzhi was wary, thinking that if the relationship between his father and stepmother broke down in the future, this house would become his final destination.
With a deep sense of vigilance, Ren Amano seems to be waiting for the moment when his father and stepmother break up every day.
He also often secretly asks his father in **, how his stepmother treats him, don't hide all the thoughts in his heart.
The father always supported his wife, thinking that his son thought too much, and his wife took good care of him every day.
Hearing is false, seeing is believing. After returning to Tianjin again, Ren Amano found that his father's habit of smoking and drinking for many years was gone.
While his mental state has improved, his sloppy image of the past no longer exists.
In the face of these real changes, Ren Amano gradually understood that everything was the result of his stepmother's silent efforts for the family behind the scenes.
Gradually, his attitude towards his stepmother changed a bit and he began to call her "auntie" frequently.
In addition, during the New Year's holidays, Ren Amano would also give his father money and ask him to remember to buy clothes for his aunt.
It seems that the family relationship is gradually easing, however, with the sudden pregnancy of the stepmother, the peace is broken again.
Regarding the pregnancy, the stepmother personally called Ren Tianye **.
It turned out that after Ren Mingjiu learned that his wife was pregnant, he insisted that she go for ** surgery.
The wife wanted to keep the child, so she called Ren Tianye **, hoping that he could persuade his father.
Ren Tianye hurried back to Tianjin again.
The father's concerns were not unreasonable, he was about to be sixty years old, and his future children were still very young, and he was too old to take care of them.
The stepmother did not think so, she longed to have a child, and said that in the future, if her husband was old, she would take care of the child herself.
The two sides are at a stalemate, both expecting Ren Amano to accept their views.
At first, Ren Amano was more inclined to support his father's views.
He believes that having a child at this time may have a detrimental effect on the child's upbringing and growth.
Seeing his stepmother's grief-stricken state, he was a little at a loss.
In order to confide, Ren Amano can only ask some close friends for help.
From the perspective of a third party, friends generally believe that children are very important for a woman, and they are the key to the stability of marriage.
After careful consideration, Ren Amano finally sided with his stepmother's camp.
He reassured his father that a marriage with children was complete.
Moreover, he said that in the future, all expenses after the birth of the child will be borne by himself.
So, in the spring of 2005, Ren Amano took his father and stepmother to Beijing together.
Half a year later, Ren Tianye's younger brother Ren Tianhua was born.
It is worth mentioning that Ren Tianye himself has entered the palace of marriage at this time.
His wife, Zhu Lixin, is also an actress.
When the two were together, Ren Amano's career had just begun.
Although the economic situation is still difficult, Zhu Lixin chooses to spend her life with him without hesitation.
Therefore, after the birth of his half-brother, although he and Ren Amano's son are only uncles and nephews, the two are quite close in age.
This newly formed family may seem a little special to the outside world, but with the gradual development of Ren Amano's career, they ushered in a stable and happy time.
Time flies like a white horse, and in the blink of an eye, Ren Amano has ushered in his 44th birthday.
When participating in a TV show, he expressed deep sadness, saying that if he could see his mother and sister again, his life would be complete.
These words reached the ears of her stepmother, and she took the initiative to contact Ren Tianye:
You are usually busy with work, and looking for my mother's wish for me to help you realize it can be regarded as a reward for your filial piety to me over the years. ”
Since then, she and Ren Mingjiu have returned to the Northeast together and visited many relatives and friends back then.
More than three years passed, and they did not find any clues about their mother and sister.
In 2017, a friend offered Ren Amano a clue.
He took his father Ren Mingjiu to verify, but after some checking and recognizing, he found that the other party was not Ren Amano's mother.
Later, the stepmother reminded Ren Tianye that she suggested contacting CCTV's public welfare program "Waiting for Me" to seek their help.
This unique family is even more warm and harmonious at this moment.
Ren Amano's younger brother is an adult, his father is getting older, and his stepmother has no stable job.
Since then, he has increased the cost of maintenance for his father's family of three.
Over the years, what makes Ren Tianye feel relieved is that his wife Zhu Lixin has never had any complaints because of her stepmother.
Happiness comes from inclusion and compromise.
Now, Ren Tianye's silent dedication has been insisted on for 19 years.