Marrying away is like a risky gamble, until the end of the game, you can't predict whether you will win or lose.
It's not because you're married far away that your husband and parents-in-law's friendly attitude towards you means you've won the game. Because we owe it not to them, but to our biological parents.
After many years away from home to return, but rarely see your parents, you may think you have succeeded, but your parents are a failure.
As a professor at Peking University said: how much I hope that my children will be ordinary and inactive, not leaving the country to study or settle in another country, but at least can be by my side.
In the final analysis, the need of parents for their children is simply a desire for companionship.
On a street in Hebei Province, a woman ran onto the road and knelt on the snow-covered ground three times, choking up as she looked in the direction of her home.
Since her father was deceased, she was unable to go back to mourn, and she felt extremely unfilial.
The scene took place on a street in Hebei Province, which was already covered in thick snow and bitterly cold outside, with few cars passing on the road.
A woman dressed thinly dressed wept alone in the cold streets, and then she knelt down in the snow on the road**, facing west, while kneeling.
Dad, please forgive your daughter's unfilial piety and can't accompany you through the last journey. ”
Seeing this scene, passers-by couldn't help but sigh with emotion, the woman looked very pitiful, and could only bid farewell to her father in this way.
It turned out that the woman's father was deceased, but she could not go back to the funeral, and she felt guilty because she could not see her father off in person, so she knelt in the snow to express her longing.
What people don't understand is that even though the world is in the north and south, the transportation is so convenient now, and the plane and high-speed rail can reach their hometown almost in a day, why can't they go home for funeral?
The woman who was forced to marry far away was involuntarily, she was not a local, originally from Guizhou, and she chose to marry in Hebei, which is more than 1,800 kilometers apart.
The woman's husband thinks that her hometown is in Guizhou, so he thinks that a round trip will cost a lot of money, and the husband is deceased, who will he pay homage to?The money saved is better for life.
Some netizens believe that there must be other reasons for this, perhaps because the father-in-law and mother-in-law do not agree to the marriage of the two.
The woman and her husband met in a factory in Hebei, she came from Guizhou to work here, was actively pursued by her husband, bathed in sweet words, and soon agreed to marry her husband.
When she planned to get married, she was opposed by her parents, who demanded that she go home immediately and not allow her to marry so far away. However, no one knows the specific situation of the husband's family.
During the period of love, the woman completely ignored the opposition of her parents, and her husband doted on her very much, regarded her as a little princess, she did not listen to any advice, and finally chose to marry far away.
As a result, the woman's relationship with her family is at an impasse with little contact.
On the importance of women's financial independence Who is all this for?If her husband doesn't allow it, can't she go back by car or plane herself?
The reality is not as simple as we think.
Women mainly play the role of husband and child in the family, and there is almost no money in the pocket of the card, so they can only ask their husbands for money or borrow money if they want to go home.
Besides, there are still children to take care of at home, and she doesn't dare to leave lightly.
Most people think that women are too hesitant, but if they are more aggressive, they will choose to go back even if they need to borrow money.
Therefore, women do need to be financially independent so that they can have a voice in the family and not have to be subject to their husbands and parents-in-law.
Are you still willing to choose to marry far away?Where you can't reach is where you can't, just like where an electric car can't get to.
Many women may be reluctant to choose to marry far away, giving up everything to rely on a strange man. I prefer to trust my parents' eyes.