"Goodbye Lover" 3 has come to an end, and those who want to be together continue to be together;Those who don't want to be together have also made up their minds to separate.
Wang Shiqing and Lao Ji finally decided to be together, what Wang Sleepy left to Zhang Shuo is a suspense, whether they can be together in the future is uncertain;And Fu Seoul and Lao Liu are no longer entangled and hesitant, one is determined to leave, and the other is not going to stay.
Three couples, in the beginning, were all in love.
What is the reason that their feelings can't go to the end?
People who want to leave feel that their partner has become unrecognizable, and they are no longer the person they liked at the beginning, and they feel that the current one, the more he looks at it, the more he doesn't want to make do with it.
When two people can't go on, when there are a lot of problems in the relationship between two people, when one party is very dissatisfied with the other, is it?It's all each other's problems?
Could it be?In the current state of the partner, there is no responsibility for himself?
After watching "Goodbye Lover" 3, the sentence that comes to mind is: what kind of you are, what kind of partner you will have.
Most of the reasons for the current state of the partner are self-caused and self-inspired.
According to the Law of Attraction,Your feelings are your choices, and your choices determine your life.
When you resent and complain because of your partner's inaction, inconsiderateness, and ignorance, you will get a partner who makes you more dissatisfied.
In marriage, your attitude determines the temperature of your partner.
Marriage is like a melting pot where she can turn two people into completely different temperaments.
Wang Shiqing finally decided to get out of the car and go with Lao Ji for the rest of her life.
Seeing this, Wang Shiqing, who has a "black" physique, finally saved a little popularity for herself.
Wang Shiqing's online reviews are not good. Many people think that Wang Shiqing is hypocritical, and relying on tears makes people feel that Lao Ji has a strong desire to control, and they all feel aggrieved for Wang Shiqing. The details see the character, and the people see the hearts of the people.
After eighteen days of travel, every bit of the journey makes people feel that it is not Wang Shiqing who is more wronged in marriage, but Lao Ji.
Because Lao Ji is ten years older than Wang Shiqing. Wang Shiqing is now in the middle of the day, and Lao Ji is like the sunset. This imbalance is not only manifested in age, but also in the attitude of two people towards marriage.
Obviously, Wang Shiqing is the one who takes the initiative;And Lao Ji is the passive party.
Wang Shiqing can choose to leave or stay;And Lao Ji can only passively wait for Wang Shiqing's "verdict".
Wang Shiqing's dissatisfaction with Lao Ji is:
1. You have too much control over yourself at work, and you have to be meticulous about what you wear when you go out.
2. In life, there is no ability to take care of yourself. Not even a single drop;I can't board a plane, and I don't do anything at home. Wang Shiqing felt that Lao Ji didn't do housework, and felt that she was worried about everything at home, and she was too tired.
3. Emotionally unstable and likes to lose his temper.
After watching the show, I realized that Wang Shiqing's dissatisfaction with Lao Ji was actually caused by Wang Shiqing's own reasons. Because of such Wang Shiqing, there is such an old Ji.
1》First of all, for Lao Ji's too much control over her at work, it is because Lao Ji and Wang Shiqing are both models, and for Wang Shiqing, Lao Ji is still a relatively successful predecessor and has some experience in the industry.
When she was with Lao Ji at the beginning, didn't she just covet Lao Ji's support and care for her?During the rise of her career, wasn't Lao Ji personally giving her advice and tailoring a shortcut to her debut?
It's been more than ten years, because of the care of her, so she was finally moved, and the two of them finally came together after knowing each other for ten years. For more than ten years, Lao Ji has been taking care of her like this.
However, the current Wang Shiqing is no longer the person she was ten years ago. So, she felt that she had also reached the age when he knew her. She has her own opinions and perceptions. She no longer needs Lao Ji to point fingers at her.
has been like this for more than ten years, just because she has grown up and doesn't need advice, so she feels that Lao Ji has a desire to control. You must know that Lao Ji's suggestions for her clothes were also something she was willing to accept and enjoy.
2》Actually, in life, she feels that Lao Ji has no ability to take care of herself. She said it herself, Lao Ji controlled her at work;And she is also in the name of love, meddling in all things in Lao Ji's life. I used to think that I might not be as good as Lao Ji at work. But in life, you have to let Lao Ji rely on himself.
Because she's a strong person. She can't make Lao Ji feel inferior to him at work and inferior to him in life. Since at work, Lao Ji is better than her;So in life, she wants to make Lao Ji feel that she is better than Lao Ji.
The reason why Lao Ji didn't download Didi software, in life, he doesn't call the shots, he listens to Wang Shiqing, and it is all what Wang Shiqing is willing to do after the two of them are together. Lao Ji let her take care of everything.
For Lao Ji, a self-disciplined person who debuted since childhood, it is impossible for him to take care of his own life. He just gave his life to Wang Shiqing with confidence, and he felt that it was trust and another manifestation of love.
Because all his goals are to give Wang Shiqing a better life. The money he earned also went to Wang Shiqing.
This also became the reason for Wang Shiqing's dissatisfaction with Lao Ji.
At first, she asked to take care of her life, but in the end, she felt that she was worried about everything at home, and she was too tired and wronged.
3》Lao Ji is emotionally unstable and likes to lose his temper, which is obvious to all. It was indeed seen that he was easily irritated. Because of what?
Because Lao Ji felt wronged.
It's not that he didn't do anything, it's just that Wang Shiqing only saw what he did, and he couldn't see that Lao Ji was also paying for his family. When Wang Shiqing only blamed him, only complained, and only disliked, Lao Ji's reaction was that he was not affirmed, not recognized, disliked, and afraid of being abandoned.
He has to defend himself.
Therefore, Wang Shiqing's dissatisfaction with Lao Ji and Lao Ji's attitude in marriage are actually caused by Wang Shiqing.
The more she complained, the more Lao Ji wanted to defend herself. As long as two people start to defend themselves, all they think of is their own grievances, and the other person's fault.
What you give, you get.
If you hate something, you will definitely bring what you hate and don't like into your life.
In the end, when Wang Shiqing realized that the contradiction between the two people actually had a big reason for herself, Lao Ji immediately changed her attitude. I also recognize what I need to change.
It is said that a slap does not make a sound, and two good things are good and one is good.
Psychology also advises people like this: "Don't try to change your partner, it's hard to change others, it's easy to change yourself." ”
When you no longer try to change your partner, when your own heart changes, and you look at your partner with tolerance and understanding, your partner will become what you like.
In the end, Wang Shiqing looked at Lao Ji with a smile in her eyes. It still feels very warm and loving.
Lao Ji was really moved. I also felt from the bottom of my heart that I had to change my mind. Be better to Wang Shiqing.
As long as Wang Shiqing no longer blames and complains, Lao Ji will definitely become emotionally stable and not lose his temper.
The relationship between people and people is like that.
What you do to others will receive what others do to you.
What kind of Wang Shiqing there is, what kind of old Ji will be.
Wang Shiqing, who "likes to blame, complain, deny and hit" Lao Ji, will definitely have an irritable, emotionally unstable, and extremely insecure Lao Ji;There is a Wang Shiqing who "realizes that she is also bad", and there will be an old Ji who is excited and grateful and wants to be better to her.
What kind of you are, what kind of partner you will have.
What is your attitude towards marriage, and what your partner gives back to you is what kind of warmth.
The attitude of the partner is all inspired by himself.