Balzac once said: "Of all kinds of loneliness, the one that man fears most is spiritual loneliness." ”
Therefore, many men and women tend to talk to different people, hoping to alleviate the loneliness in their hearts.
However, if you can't correctly grasp the proportions of normal communication, it is easy to blur the relationship between the two.
Some claim that there is no such thing as pure friendship between people of the opposite sex, because there is an element of ambiguity in the opposite sex.
Today, WeChat has become an indispensable tool for everyone, for work, chat, and consumption, and it is very popular.
Although WeChat has made it easier for people to communicate, it has also made many relationships between men and women lose their purity, and even many ambiguous situations have appeared.
Therefore, between the opposite sex, it is best to keep a certain distance and master a proper sense of proportion to avoid abnormal relationships.
Be mindful of what is okay and avoid talking about inappropriate topics.
Talking about the following topics on WeChat, the relationship has basically "crossed the line", and I hope to attract enough attention.
1. Talk about personal privacy and sharing**.
In life, many people of the opposite sex do not pay attention to privacy protection, always like to talk about this aspect of the content, and even often share each other's **.
In fact, this practice is inappropriate, and once the other party has misbehaved, it is easy to find your handle.
No matter how good or bad your life is, you shouldn't reveal too much to the opposite sex, let alone share your ** frequently.
Because you can't be sure if the other party will use your ** for improper purposes.
Miss Wu has encountered such a problem. At a company party, she met a boy who, although not in the same department, chatted speculatively with each other.
As a result, Ms. Wu and the other party became WeChat friends, hoping to keep in touch more.
As time passed, the boy often chatted with Miss Wu and developed a good impression of each other.
As a result, Miss Wu lowered her vigilance, often shared her privacy with the other party, and would send *** to the other party.
Later, Miss Wu found her own ** on a certain **, which surprised her.
Because she only showed this ** to the boy she was chatting with, no one else could have it.
Miss Wu angrily asked the boy why he spread her **, and the boy actually said: "I thought you didn't care, and our relationship is close to the level of love, it's not a big deal." ”
This bothered Miss Wu very much, she just wanted to find someone of the opposite sex to chat, but she didn't expect the other party to have bad intentions, which made her very disappointed.
Therefore, Ms. Wu decided to delete the other party and never accept the other party's friend request again.
In fact, if the topic of privacy is often discussed between people of the opposite sex, it is easy to cause unnecessary misunderstandings.
Although you may be unintentional, the other person may think that you have the will to develop further, and the relationship is blurred.
When you frequently share your personal life with the other person and like to show it, it is easy for the other person to misunderstand.
In this way, it is difficult for the relationship not to cross the line, and it may even bring some security risks to yourself.
Men and women should be careful to keep an appropriate distance, even if the relationship is good, not to appear too close, this is also a way to protect yourself.
2. Talk about personal emotional experiences and seek comfort from the other person.
Everyone has their own emotional experiences, good or bad, and should not be discussed with the opposite sex often.
Basically, chatting between men and women is a manifestation of inner loneliness and needs a kind of comfort.
However, occasional concern is normal, and once too often chatting to relieve loneliness, it can easily lead to feelings of dependence.
Some people of the opposite sex like to share their emotional experiences with each other, especially after experiencing an unpleasant relationship, and it is easier to find comfort in the opposite sex.
At this time, when you tell the other person all about your emotional experience, in fact, your heart has become dependent on him.
If the other person gives you a lot of comfort and help at this time, you may fall into a relationship with him and find it difficult to extricate yourself.
You will subconsciously regard the other person as the person you trust the most, and over time, the relationship between the two will become blurred.
Regardless of whether it is a man or a woman, once there is excessive concern, the relationship is not far from crossing the line.
Moreover, this kind of verbal concern is bound to be sublimated into an action concern, and it is easy to end up with relationships that should not happen.
Because of the conflict with her boyfriend, Miss Wang, a colleague who was breaking up, encountered this situation.
Miss Wang had a senior with whom she had a good conversation, so she told him about the conflict with her boyfriend.
Originally, Miss Wang just wanted to be comforted by her seniors to relieve the distress in her heart.
Unexpectedly, after listening to her words, the senior showed unusual concern and distress to her, and was very considerate.
In an instant, Miss Wang felt warmth like never before.
As a result, Miss Wang would chat with her seniors late at night every day, which also caused her boyfriend to be more dissatisfied.
While Miss Wang was not paying attention, her boyfriend looked at her mobile phone and found the chat history between her and her senior, and a big quarrel broke out on the spot.
Miss Wang and her boyfriend had a quarrel over this, and eventually the two broke up.
Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between a man and a woman is, do not talk about feelings.
Because this kind of topic is most likely to cause ambiguous relationships, and it is also easy to provoke the dissatisfaction of the other half.
The transgression of the relationship between men and women basically starts by talking about these kinds of topics and must be avoided.
3. Talk about topics with vague jokes, without proportion.
A normal relationship between a man and a woman is not suitable for talking about topics with vague jokes, such topics are too sensitive, the speaker is unintentional, but the listener is intentional, and it is easy to cause misunderstanding.
Moreover, a person who likes to make vague jokes with you may not have pure motives either.
Especially women, beware, if a guy likes to make vague jokes with you, it's best not to socialize.
Such a man may be good not only for you, but for all members of the opposite sex, and this feeling is not worth it.
No matter how personable, humorous and understanding he is, once he likes to blur with you, it shows that his heart is not pure and his feelings are complicated.
The relationship between the opposite sex must be in moderation.
Topics that should not be talked about must not be discussed, and a certain distance must be kept so as not to fall into unnecessary trouble.
In life, there are many people who like to make vague jokes with the opposite sex, to put it bluntly, they are looking for a spare tire.
As my colleague Xiao Min said, there was a man who was interested in her at first, and when he was about to date, he suddenly became interested in another girl and hesitated.
Xiao Min was very disappointed, and finally asked the man if he didn't want to have a relationship with her, and he said he wasn't sure, let's get along first.
Xiao Min told him bluntly that we don't have to get along anymore, we are not suitable.
She said that a man who can't even be clear about his love for you is not worth nostalgia.
Indeed, firmness and single-mindedness are the best proof of love.
Those who make vague jokes with the opposite sex everywhere, their love is not firm, and they will not be single-minded, in the final analysis, they are leaving a spare tire for themselves.
In fact, it is better not to talk about vague topics between people of the opposite sex, because it is very suggestive and can lead to a relationship that crosses the line if you don't pay attention.
Especially when you already have a significant other, you should avoid it, otherwise you will destroy your relationship and the gains outweigh the losses.
In general, when chatting on WeChat, both men and women, should avoid talking about the above topics often.
Keeping a certain distance and knowing how to avoid suspicion can make the relationship develop normally.
Therefore, don't say what you shouldn't say, don't do what you shouldn't do, and keep an appropriate distance so that the relationship can last.
If there is always talk about topics that should not be talked about between people of the opposite sex, once they can't stand it, the relationship is vulnerable.
A good relationship needs to be maintained together, and only by maintaining a normal relationship with the opposite sex can we enjoy the unique pleasure brought by the opposite sex.
I hope that men and women should pay attention when interacting and not let their relationship cross the line.