My name is Wang Jian, I am 45 years old, and I am an ordinary middle-aged man.
3 years ago, I met my *** named Li Ting at a family gathering, a lively and cheerful girl.
At that meeting, we unexpectedly found that we had many common hobbies and topics, and we quickly became acquainted.
Later, Li Ting came to my city for work reasons, and she didn't find a suitable place to live for a while.
Li Ting was grateful, after all, it was not easy to settle down alone in this big city.
But as a married man, I understand that such an arrangement can cause misunderstandings and contradictions. When I made this request to my wife, she did not object, but said lightly, "You two just get along with yourselves."
In this way, Li Ting moved into my house. At first, we didn't have much communication. She was busy with her work and I was focused on my career.
I smiled and didn't respond much.
As time passed, I gradually discovered that Li Ting was a very caring girl. Not only does she offer to help me with the housework, but she also prepares a sumptuous dinner for me to come home when I am busy with work.
I looked at her slightly frightened face, and suddenly felt hesitation and confusion in my heart. Over the years, I have found that I have found a lot of tenderness and care in Li Ting that I have forgotten, but in the face of such mutual understanding and dependence, I am afraid that further development will violate the bottom line of ethics and morality.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, it is already the third year. One night, my wife suddenly asked me, "Wang Jian, what do you think of your relationship with Li Ting?" ”。
I was stunned for a moment, and I was so flustered, why did you suddenly ask this? Faced with my wife's questioning, I hesitated for a moment, but still told the truth: "Maybe she is more than just a *** to me, I feel more and more that there is an inexplicable relationship between us."
My wife listened to me quietly, with a hint of mixed emotions in her eyes. She said slowly: "Wang Jian, I know that the relationship between you and Li Ting has gone beyond the scope of relatives.
I was stunned, I didn't expect my wife to be so understanding and tolerant. I was touched by her words, and at the same time, I saw her tolerance and maturity more clearly.
But, Wang Jian, you have to understand that we have children, and we are also responsible. True family is where we end up.
I nodded silently, and I now understand that although the relationship between me and Li Ting made me feel a kind of warmth and comfort, as a husband and a father, I have more important responsibilities.
Over the next few months, I struggled to find a way to deal with my relationship with Li Ting.
We tried to find a solution that would neither hurt Li Ting nor destroy our family.
One day, when I was sitting on the sofa thinking about this problem, my wife suddenly walked into the living room and said with an anxious face: "Wang Jian, I just received a **, it was Li Ting's sister calling."
I immediately looked at my wife vigilantly and asked, "Is there anything wrong with Li Ting?" ”
His wife's voice trembled a little: "Her sister told me that Li Ting has not been in good health recently, and she has been having a low-grade fever that does not go away and she can't eat."
My heart tightened, and I couldn't help but blame myself. These days, I have been too immersed in my emotions and thoughts, but I have not noticed Li Ting's physical condition.
I immediately decided to visit Li Ting in the hospital. When I walked into the hospital room and saw her pale face and listlessness, my heart ached.
Li Ting, what's wrong with you? I asked anxiously.
She smiled slightly, and her voice was a little weak: "Maybe the work pressure is too much, and the body is a little unbearable." ”
Hearing her answer, I thought even more guilty about my own indifference and neglect. I patted her hand gently and said, "I'm sorry I neglected your physical health for the sake of my feelings.
A smile appeared on Li Ting's face, she gently held my hand and said, "Uncle Wang, don't blame yourself. In fact, I also understand that our relationship is not a long-term solution.
During my time in the hospital, I realized that my relationship with Li Ting had caught the attention of the rest of the family.
These words made me realize how important family really is to me. I deeply felt the love and expectations of my loved ones around me, and I also deeply understood the great significance of family responsibilities.
When I got home, I let go of my personal emotional distress and started to be more attentive to my wife and children.
A few months later, Li Ting's illness finally came to an end. After she came out of the hospital, she found a new job and moved out of my home.
However, this experience has brought profound insights into my life. I understood the importance of family, and the entanglement of responsibility and affection.
This home, it seems plain and ordinary, but it contains endless warmth and love. I will continue to cherish this hard-won happiness and make my family the most solid haven in my heart.
Although my wife and I have reached a tacit understanding of the relationship between me and Li Ting, the inner struggle has not stopped.
One night, when I got home, I saw Li Ting sitting on the sofa with a tired face, and the beads of sweat on her forehead had not yet had time to wipe away.
Hearing this, my heart was filled with anger, and I couldn't tolerate her being bullied. I immediately decided to go to the boss to reason and seek justice for Li Ting.
However, as soon as I reached the door, my wife stopped me. She said coldly: "Wang Jian, you have to be clear about your identity, you are a husband and a father.
I was a little reluctant to face my wife's advice, but after careful consideration, I still let go of my anger. It is precisely because of my wife's sanity and calmness that I know how to face difficulties in the face of adversity.
However, the conflict does not stop in the family. Although my wife was understanding and tolerant of my relationship with Li Ting on the surface, I could feel her inner turmoil and contradictions.
This made me feel deeply remorseful.
I decided to have a heart-to-heart talk with my wife. We sat on the balcony, the slight coolness of the night was refreshing, and the conversation between the two of us made me even more painful.
His wife spoke first: "Wang Jian, it's not that I don't understand you, and it's not that I don't tolerate you. But as a husband and wife, I think you should also understand that family is our foundation and our responsibility.
I was silent, and I was deeply touched by my wife's words. I am aware of my responsibilities and I can no longer blindly avoid and pursue my feelings.
The wife continued: "I understand the closeness and tacit understanding between you, but we have children and they need a complete home.
I held my wife's hand and felt the warmth of her palm, and the determination in my heart became stronger. I swear that for the sake of my family and children, I will let go of my dependence on Li Ting and re-establish our family bonds.
Soon after, I unexpectedly learned a piece of news that left me in distress.
One night, Li Ting looked a little hesitant when she came back, and said to me: "Uncle Wang, I have to tell you something, I don't know if you can understand."
Li Ting lowered her head and said softly: "Uncle Wang, I fell in love with someone, he is my colleague, and we have a special relationship between us..."”
I was stunned, unable to find the words to respond for a while. Li Ting sighed softly and said, "Uncle Wang, I'm sorry, I know it's unfair to you, but I can't control this relationship."
I looked into her eyes and saw her tangled and painful heart. I tried hard to swallow the bitterness in my heart, smiled reluctantly through my tears, and said, "Li Ting, human nature, feelings cannot be controlled.
Despite what I said, the pain in my heart never subsided.
Since that day, my relationship with Li Ting has undergone subtle changes. Our interaction has cooled down, and there is no tacit understanding and closeness that we had before.
My wife noticed all this, she came over and held my hand, and said gently: "Wang Jian, I know that you are very conflicted in your heart now, but I hope you can be firm in your choice.
I believe that time will slowly get everything back on track.
Hearing my wife's voice made me feel comforted. I came back to my senses, held her hand tightly, smiled and said, "Yes, I understand now."
Li Ting's arrival has brought many changes to my life and that of my wife. There has also been a subtle change in our relationship.
And I found myself caring more and more about her.
However, just when I thought everything was going well, an unexpected contradiction suddenly happened. One night, I put down my work and prepared to wash up and go to bed, but suddenly found that the door of Li Ting's room was not closed tightly.
My heart was about to explode, and I confronted Li Ting about her behavior. When she saw me, she looked very flustered and immediately explained to me that he was her junior high school classmate and was living here temporarily because he was in trouble.
I angrily said to her, why didn't you tell me about such a thing beforehand? She replied that she couldn't bear to push him away because she was afraid that I would refuse.
And now it seems that this is not the case.
Faced with this fact, my wife and I fell silent. Li Ting couldn't explain her feelings for this strange man.
I began to reflect on my own behavior, and although I developed a special emotion in the process of getting along with Li Ting, I could not forget my family and responsibilities because of this.
And Li Ting, neither legally nor morally, can be my real wife.
Still, the problems we face remain. We must face this fact together that hurts each other's feelings and find a solution.