My husband Wang Jun and I have been married for ten years. We were college classmates, worked in the same company after graduation, developed into lovers, and soon got married. We have always been happy in our married life, we have a common career, and we also have a common small family.
What I remember the most is an incident that happened last year. Wang Jun suddenly said that he wanted to take his parents over and live with us. I disagreed at the time, thinking that the rhythm of life would be disrupted.
My dear, I think we should take our parents over to live with them, and now they are not in good health and need more care from us. One day at dinner, Wang Jun suddenly said.
What?You said let your parents live together?I don't think so. "I was a little surprised.
They are getting old and their health is getting worse and worse, so their son should be more accompanied and taken care of. Wang Jun said seriously.
But we also need to adapt to the rhythm of our life now, and my parents-in-law have a more traditional personality, so I am worried that it will affect us. "I raised my concerns.
They're older generations, so we can be considerate. They have raised me for so many years, and I should repay them for taking care of me in my old age. "Wang Jun is very resolute.
But you also know that your parents have always been more demanding of me, and their personality is more stubborn and traditional. I'm worried that their arrival will have a big impact on our lives now. "I tried to get Wang Jun to understand my thoughts.
I can understand your filial piety to your parents, but we also have our own lives after marriage. My parents-in-law have such personalities, and I am really worried that I will not be able to take care of them and not be able to adapt to their living habits. "I stand my ground.
It is normal for them to be conservative in their living habits, and we have lived as a young couple for so many years, and it is time to give in to family affection. Don't insist on yourself, parents are parents after all, and we should take care of them. Wang Jun's tone gradually became serious.
It's not that I don't accept your affection, but you know the personality of your in-laws, and if you really live together, I think I really can't stand it. It's not good for them and it's not good for us. "I'm starting to get a little excited, too.
Even so, they are the parents who gave birth to us and raised us. We can't negate this relationship just because of a little difference in living habits!Wang Jun raised his voice.
I'm not denying this relationship, but it does have a big impact on our lives right now. This matter deserves our more sober consideration, and it is not blindly obedient that we are truly responsible for our parents. "I try to stay rational.
I don't think there's any point in continuing the discussion. As the eldest son, I decided to take my parents over and live with them!You as a wife should be considerate of me, not vexatious. Wang Jun's tone was tough.
In this way, we quarreled about this matter for a long time, and the atmosphere became more and more stiff. Wang Jun insisted that he must take his parents over, and I firmly opposed this decision.
A week later, Wang Jun suddenly said to me:"I have taken my parents over and they are now living in the empty house we have in front of the door. You're in good hands. "
I couldn't believe my ears when I heard the news :"What?You've already taken them over?You decided without consulting me?"
I don't think it's useful for us to discuss, someone has to make a decision. I've already taken them, so you can cooperate. "Wang Jun's tone was very resolute.
Wang Jun, I absolutely can't accept your blatant disregard for my feelings like this!"I was very angry.
I'm also for the sake of my family, so be considerate of me. "Wang Jun didn't expect me to be so angry.
Considerate?You don't consider any of the opinions I raised, and you expect me to be considerate of you?"I'm going to be furious.
There will inevitably be some run-in between relatives, you calm down. "Wang Jun was also trying to reassure me.
I can't calm down!Your decision sacrificed me, and that's not what a family should be. I need to be calm and calm. "I decided to get out of here.
So, I packed my bags and moved out of the house alone. Wang Jun tried to keep him, but I was determined that I needed to keep my distance from him.
And just like that, we got into the Cold War. Wang Jun would come to me every day to re-communicate the issue, but I needed more time to think about it.
My car skidded while turning and got into an accident. Although I immediately hit the brakes, I crashed into a tree on the side of the road.
When the car accident happened, I just felt a huge impact and then it was in the dark. When I woke up, I was already in a hospital bed.
Wang Jun stayed by my side day and night, his face was full of stubble, and he obviously hadn't taken good care of himself for a few days. When he saw me wake up, his eyes filled with tears.
Meimei, I'm so happy that you woke up. "Wang Jun held my hand and said.
Junjun, I'm sorry, it's me who is bad. "I couldn't hold back my tears.
We looked at each other and smiled, as if all the barriers had vanished. I realized that life is so short and we shouldn't quarrel over small things. Wang Jun's concern is his love for his family, and I should not be attached to my own thoughts.
After returning home from the hospital, I revisited the matter. Wang Jun wants his parents to live a better life, so why don't I want my family to live in harmony?Just because of poor communication with each other, quarrels prevailed.
I decided to take the initiative to communicate with my parents-in-law, starting with my daily life and taking care of them more considerately.
In the beginning, I poured tea and water, put more thought into my meals, and bought some supplements and health ingredients. Although my in-laws still have a problem, they also warmly accepted my kindness.
Gradually, I would invite my in-laws to go out and explore the newly opened malls and feel the changes in the city. Although my wife was inconvenient to walk, she also felt my intentions, and her smile was a little warmer.
One day, my in-laws suddenly mentioned my quarrel with Wang Jun, saying that they understood my difficulties, but hoped that I could understand Wang Jun's intentions. I was so touched that I spoke all my inner thoughts.
Daughter-in-law, I know it's not easy to take care of us, if you really can't accept it, we can move to a nursing home. The in-laws said.
Mom, what do you say, you are my relative. I'll take good care of you and Dad. "I couldn't hold back my tears.
We were suddenly closer than ever, and our in-laws told us about their past. I felt the warmth of my family and understood why Wang Jun wanted to take care of his parents so much.
Wang Jun was relieved to see that I had a good relationship with my in-laws. He regained his passion for his work and spent his spare time taking care of his parents.
I also learned how to get along with my in-laws. Be considerate of the habits of the elderly, but also communicate their own ideas appropriately. Gradually, my in-laws stopped clinging to traditional ideas, and we found a balance to get along.
As the days passed, I watched my in-laws' hair grow grayer and their steps faltered, and I couldn't help but admire their hard work and perseverance.
In life, being able to be with your family is the greatest happiness. I am grateful to Wang Jun for allowing us to regain this family affection, and I am also grateful to my in-laws for their nurturing grace and tolerance towards us.
It is very gratifying to see Wang Jun maturing and becoming a wise husband and son. My wife also smiled at us, and the days were plain but warm.
There will inevitably be run-ins in family relationships, but as long as there is kindness and mutual understanding, everything will be different.