Wu Song's life was full of tragedy, repeated injuries of all kinds, from a psychological point of view, the cause of all this may lie in some kind of personality defect in him, and this defect may be shared by many of us.
Wu Song's story begins with him beating a civil servant to death while drunk in his hometown, and later he flees to Chai Rong's house, only to be snubbed by the always hospitable Chai Rong. It was easy to reunite with my brother's family, but I was seduced by my sister-in-law and completely turned my face with my sister-in-law, which led to my sister-in-law's derailment and the destruction of my family. Song Jiang was Wu Song's first confidant besides his brother, but later Wu Song stubbornly opposed Song Jiang Zhao'an in public on Liangshan, which led to tension in the relationship between the two.
If Wu Song was good at communicating, able to accurately understand other people's emotions, and good at expressing his own emotions, all these tragedies might have been avoided. Drinking and quarreling is not a big deal, and when you talk about it, you are friends again, and there is no need to kill. Feeling left out in Chai Rong's home, communicating with Chai Rong frankly may win Chai Rong's love. Especially after being seduced by his sister-in-law, Wu Song should politely refuse, and at the same time express that it is not easy to understand his sister-in-law. But he turned his face on the spot, scolded indiscriminately, and pushed his sister-in-law into Ximen Qing's arms. When he heard Song Jiang say Zhao'an in Liangshan, Wu Song should have first expressed his understanding of Song Jiang's hard work, and then his feelings, instead of directly venting his anger.
These manifestations of Wu Song are a kind of personality defects of alexithymia. That is to say, he is unable to feel and sympathize with others' emotions, nor can he feel and express his own emotions, but only responds to others with aggressive words and actions, which causes both illness and harm to others.
Knowing how to recognize the emotions of others, empathizing with the feelings of others, and also recognizing their own emotions and expressing their own emotions, will there be harmonious interpersonal relationships, so as to avoid many life tragedies. Alexithymia is more prevalent among young people today. Wu Song's experience is worthy of everyone's vigilance!