Autumn and Winter Check-in Challenge
Don't let cranky thoughts take over your mind, the biggest problem with social phobia is that you start imagining the worst before you even take that step. Actually, other people and socializing are not as scary as you think, and you don't have to feel like you're being left out or think you're bad.
To exercise the courage to lose face, when you make a fool of yourself, you think: "As long as I am not embarrassed, it is others who are embarrassed". As long as you don't think of yourself as the center of the world, you will find that not many people actually pay attention to their own food or mistakes. Embarrassing and embarrassing things, if you lose too much, you will Xi used to it.
Just like a bird may stumble on its first attempt to fly, but that doesn't mean it gives up. Instead, it will gradually learn the art of flying through countless failures. In the same way, when we face embarrassment and embarrassment, don't pay too much attention to the eyes of others, but be brave enough to accept our own shortcomings and learn from them.
As time goes on, you'll find that the embarrassment and embarrassment you used to have become less important. Because we have learned how to move forward in the face of difficulties and how to grow in the midst of failures. As the ancients said, "Failure is the mother of success." "It is only through constant trial and failure that we can gradually become strong and mature.
So, don't be afraid to lose face, don't be afraid to make a fool of yourself. Because these experiences are the only way for us to grow. As long as we face them bravely and draw strength from them, we can go further and more steadily on the road of life.
Like a stranger walking towards you, don't be afraid to make eye contact with them. Instead, we should be brave enough to look them in the eye as a way to exercise our "eye contact" courage. When communicating with someone, you should also look into the other person's eyes, and if you feel embarrassed, you can put your eyes on the center of the other person's eyebrows. Over time, you'll get used to Xi eye contact and become less afraid of making eye contact.
Socialize with others in a one-time social mindset without having any specific expectations or goals. After all, in a busy life, many people are just temporary passers-by and will only pass us by at some point in their lives. Therefore, we don't need to put too much social pressure on ourselves. Just like in a vast forest, there are many kinds of trees, but most of them are only flowers in one season, so there is no need to be too obsessed with creating a lasting connection with each tree. Let's enjoy those short but beautiful encounters with a relaxed mind, and feel every wonderful moment in life.
Don't be too sensitive, don't get angry about your momentary gaffe, and don't worry about others being unhappy because you express your thoughts. Don't care too much about what others think, and have the courage to be hated. Just like a flower, although it will be destroyed by wind and rain, it will still bloom its beauty, because this is its mission. In the same way, we must also learn to be strong in the wind and rain, and not to deny our own value because others do not like it.
Have you ever noticed that your friends who are social savvy can easily start a conversation with someone on any occasion, but you often can't hold back a word for a long time? In fact, as long as you communicate more with social experts and participate in activities with them, you can also gradually be subtly influenced and become more cheerful and confident.
Imagine standing in the corner with a stranger at a party and you're surrounded by people who are talking and laughing and you don't know what to say. That's when a social savvy friend appears, and they easily chat with strangers and introduce you to others. Under their guidance, you begin to gradually integrate into the circle and communicate with more people.
When you play with social masters, you can learn many skills and strategies for communicating with people from them. For example, how to start a conversation, how to lead a conversation, how to listen to others and give positive responses, etc. By observing their behaviour and behaviour, you can gradually learn the secret of building good relationships with people and make yourself more confident in various social situations.
In addition, playing with social masters can also give you a better understanding of your interests and values. When you communicate with different people, you will find yourself particularly interested in certain topics, which can help you get to know yourself better and find like-minded people with you.
In short, making friends with social experts can make you more cheerful and confident, and master the skills and strategies of communicating with people. Through continuous learning and Xi experimentation, you can gradually become a social master in the eyes of others, and easily cope with various social situations.
Don't anticipate what others will see you before you even start socializing. If the more you are afraid of others noticing you, you may subconsciously magnify your behavior and speculate through the eyes of others that you are not doing well. But in reality, people don't pay too much attention to you. You have to think about it: you are not the protagonist of this world.
It's like a butterfly fluttering in the wind, and although it's beautiful, people don't stare at it all the time. In the same way, you are not the protagonist in the eyes of others, and they will not pay attention to every detail of you all the time. So, don't care too much about what other people think, just relax and just be yourself.
If you're feeling a little overwhelmed at a party and don't know how to start a conversation, you can choose to enjoy your meal quietly and relax without forcing yourself to start the conversation. When someone talks to you, you can simply respond, gradually expanding your social circle and allowing yourself to fit in better.
Like a young shoot, gradually stretching out into the sun, you need to give yourself some time to adjust to your new social environment. Don't rush it, let yourself fit in naturally and let your social circle gradually expand.
In addition, you can try to find some common topics in the gathering and share your interests or experiences with others. This will make the communication between you more pleasant and natural.
In conclusion, it takes a certain amount of time and effort to expand one's social circle. But as long as you dare to try and believe in yourself, you will definitely be able to successfully integrate into the new social environment.
Constantly giving yourself positive psychological cues is like planting a seed in your heart, and it will slowly take root and sprout, making you more confident and courageous. You can think of it this way, saying a few words to someone will not make you lose a piece of meat, but will make you understand each other better and bring you closer to each other. Suggesting that socializing is not a big deal is like cheering yourself up and making you more comfortable facing various occasions.
Challenge yourself to do things you didn't dare to try before, and you'll find that your potential is endless. For example, when you go to eat and go shopping, talk more with the waiter and shopping guide, and you will find that they not only have rich knowledge and experience, but also give you a lot of useful advice and help. This kind of communication will not only allow you to learn more about their careers and lives, but also allow you to face strangers more confidently and expand your network.
So, don't be afraid to try new things, don't be afraid to communicate with strangers, and don't be afraid of failures and setbacks. Instead, dare to challenge yourself, dare to step out of your comfort zone, and dare to accept new challenges and opportunities. Only in this way can you continue to grow and progress and become a better version of yourself.
You can try to get out of your comfort zone and experience a different life. For example, you can stand at a busy intersection or a crowded subway entrance and observe the crowds of people passing by. You will find that everyone is almost clinging to their phone, immersed in their own world, and no one will notice you in particular. This experience may make you understand that even in the middle of nowhere, you can still maintain yourself and enjoy solitude.
11. Label yourself as a social phobia
Let's accept the fact that we have social phobia, "I'm a social phobia, and I can't communicate and get along with people as easily as other people." "So what? We might as well admit that we are just ordinary people and accept our imperfections. This psychological burden will be immediately reduced, and we will feel more relaxed.
Let's embrace our individuality like a unique flower without competing with others. Each of us is unique in our own way, and this is the beauty of our world. So, let's let go of our psychological baggage, face the world with our true selves, and feel the beauty of life.
12. Constantly improve yourself
Improving self-confidence and staying away from inferiority complex and internal friction is the key to cultivating aura and improving various abilities. Practice your oral communication skills in front of Xi mirror, learn Xi improve your emotional intelligence, and make you more confident when you speak. When you start to feel confident, you will gradually lose your fear of socializing with others.