My name is Xiao Wang, I am 28 years old this year, and I have been married to my wife Xiao Li for 5 years. The two of us were high school classmates and worked together in the city after graduation. Now I work as a salesman in a foreign company, and Xiao Li is a director in a film and television company. We both work hard and hope for a better life.
We now live in an old house on the outskirts of the city, the house is not big, but the decoration is not bad. Although Xiao Li and I are not in very good condition, we have a good relationship and have a good time.
Last month, our company's performance was good, and the boss decided to raise the salary of employees. My salary has increased from 4,000 yuan to 6,000 yuan. I am very happy with this news.
When I came home from work that day, I said to Xiao Li as soon as I entered the door: "Wife, I have good news for you, my salary has risen to 6,000 yuan!."”
Xiao Li smiled and said, "Really?."Great!We can live better. ”
I excitedly said, "yes, I've already figured out that we can buy a new house and a new car, and life will be happier!".”
After Xiao Li heard this, her smile disappeared, and she hesitated and said, "New house?."I think our house is already very good now, and buying a new house will increase a lot of expenses. ”
I was a little disappointed and said, "Wife, you also know that this house is too small, we are going to have a baby, and it will be more crowded in the future." Our conditions are good, we should improve our lives, and it is normal to buy a big house. ”
Xiao Li said: "To improve our lives, we don't have to buy a house, we can also save more money, travel or something, buying a house will really increase a lot of expenses, we have to consider whether we can afford it." ”
I was a little upset, and raised my voice a little and said, "I think it's worth buying a house, it's a reward for our hard work." You're always so conservative and always trying to save money, we shouldn't live in this kind of small house all the time to save money!”
Xiao Li was also a little anxious and said, "I'm just thinking about the problem realistically!."Buying a house is too much pressure on our family's finances, and we can't stand it if your company's situation changes. To improve our lives, we don't necessarily have to buy a house, and it's not wrong to save money, which means that we are very frugal. ”
I saw that she had such a tough attitude, so I became a little angry, and said directly: "It's that you are too conservative, you feel that you are under pressure to buy a house as long as I have a salary of 6,000 yuan, so what's the use of me working hard to make money?!."We finally have a chance to live a good life, but you can't make sense of frugality!”
Xiao Li also raised his voice and said, "I'm thinking about my family!."Do you always think about spending money to buy a house and a car, do you think about it in the long run?I'm just more practical, otherwise the changes are too big and we can't afford it!”
I said, "Of course I'm thinking about our future!"I just value a happy family life, but you only think about saving money, our concepts are obviously not compatible!”
After the quarrel, Xiao Li and I were silent. I looked at her with red eyes, and my heart felt bad.
After a while, I apologized and said, "Wife, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have yelled at you." Quarrels won't solve the problem, let's talk about it. ”
Xiao Li wiped his tears and said, "I'm also at fault, I shouldn't be so strong to express my thoughts, let's calm down and discuss this issue." ”
I nodded, pulled Xiao Li to sit on the sofa, and then said, "I understand your concerns, buying a house will indeed increase a lot of expenses, and if my company's situation changes, I really can't afford it." But I also hope that you can understand my thoughts, and now that the conditions are good, I want you and your family to live a more decent life. ”
Xiao Li said: "I understand your kindness, but I just think that we need to consider the big matter of buying a house, and it is not something that can be decided on a whim." We need to think not only about the present, but also about the future. ”
I said, "You're right, it does require a lot of thought. As husband and wife, we should communicate more and reach a consensus instead of being stubborn. ”
Xiao Li nodded and said: "Actually, I'm not necessarily against buying a house, I'm just worried that if I buy a new house, the burden of life will be too heavy, and our relationship will be affected." I care more about our relationship. ”
I shook her hand and said, "I see, you're concerned about our relationship." But buying a house will not necessarily affect the relationship, as long as we still understand and trust each other as we do now, and face problems in unity, there will be no such problem. ”
Xiao Li finally smiled: "Well, you're right. As long as we continue to do the same as before, we will be able to solve the problem and get through it. ”
I took a deep breath and said, "Let's calm down and talk about buying a house." The most important thing now is that no matter what problems we encounter, we support each other and think about our families. ”
Xiao Li nodded and rested his head on my shoulder: "Well, we won't quarrel over the issue of buying a house." Home is the most important thing. ”
Although Xiao Li and I reached a temporary settlement, the issue of buying a house has not yet come to fruition. I still hope to buy the new house I want and give my family a better living environment. But I also understand Xiao Li's concerns, so I must think of a feasible solution that takes into account both parties.
So I tentatively asked Xiao Li: "If the pressure of buying a house loan is too great, how about we buy it in installments?"Make a down payment first, and the loan will be paid off over 10 or even 20 years, so that the pressure will be much less. ”
Xiao Li hesitated and said: "I still borrow a lot of money in installments, in case your company is really in a bad situation, will we still take out a loan?"”
I comforted her and said, "I will try to do my job well and strive for a salary increase every year." We can also put the savings we have saved into the bank instead of having to take out a loan. You can also earn a little more money and share household expenses. ”
Xiao Li is still a little worried: "If we have children in the future, won't the living expenses be greater?"Won't the loan pressure get bigger?”
I smiled and said, "Of course we will work harder and earn more money to support our family when we have a baby." Both of our parents will also help with the children and reduce our stress. The conditions will be better then, don't worry. ”
Xiao Li listened, and his face softened: "Well, yes, maybe I'm thinking too much." With a baby, it is indeed more appropriate to buy a bigger house. We can go into more detail about loans and household expenses. ”
Seeing her soften, I was secretly happy and continued to patiently explain to her the benefits of buying a house. Xiao Li also began to look at this problem more rationally.
Just as we were about to further discuss the details of buying a house, Xiao Li's mobile phone suddenly rang. She picked up the **, her expression was first surprised, then very excited.
I looked at her suspiciously, and Xiao Li said to me happily: "Honey, my parents said that they decided to support us to buy a new house, and they can make half of the down payment!".”
I was amazed: "Really?".Then we will be much less stressed!Your parents are so nice!”
Xiao Li said happily: "Yes!."With their support, buying a house will indeed have a much smaller impact on us. I also think it's a good idea to buy a new house now, and my children will prefer a bigger house and environment. ”
I hugged Xiao Li excitedly: "Great!."Let's start preparing to buy a house!”
After this incident, I suddenly realized that the quarrel between me and Xiao Li before was actually due to our differences in concepts and value judgments on the issue of buying a house.
I am a more enterprising person and always want to have a better family life. I think that as long as you work hard, your dreams will come true. So I was hell-bent on buying that high-end apartment, even if I needed a loan.
Xiao Li, on the other hand, is more stable and introverted, and she will consider the risks and long-term effects of problems. Once you have set a goal, you will work consistently in that direction without easily changing your plan. So she was against buying a house, worried that the loan burden would be too heavy.
We have very different personalities, and there are differences in the way we deal with problems and our mindsets. This controversy over buying a house makes us feel this.
After much deliberation, I realized that a harmonious relationship is far more important than material conditions. I shouldn't be arguing about buying a house, but I should communicate with Xiao Li and find a solution that is acceptable to both parties.
Looking back now, at that time, I only cared about my own thoughts, and never thought about problems from Xiao Li's point of view. This leads us into painful arguments.
Fortunately, after this discussion, we finally opened our hearts and understood each other's thoughts. Xiao Li has also become more positive and optimistic. I know that only by continuing to understand and support each other can our relationship last forever.
Buying a house is just an opportunity that inspires the difference in our hearts. But as long as we cherish each other at all times in our lives, this difference will not affect our feelings.
I will remember this lesson, communicate more in life, and work together with Xiao Li to realize our dreams and create a warm home.