Since ancient times, "children's marriage" has been one of the most concerned matters in every family responsibility, and it can be called the most touching family issue. For many elderly people, it is a deep expectation and sustenance to hope that their sons will become dragons and daughters will become phoenixes, and that their children will start a family and start a business as soon as possible, and reproduce their offspring, so that they can enjoy their old age with satisfaction. However, today, the views and choices of young people in the new era are significantly different from those of the past. They hold a more open and diversified concept, no longer stick to traditional Xi and concepts, and their attitude towards marriage is becoming more and more self-personalized and independent, pursuing the realization of self-worth.
Someone once said: The mood of parents is the fate of their children. This wise quote accurately sums up the power and influence of family affection. The expectations and concern that parents have for their children can be seen in their performance at their children's engagement banquet alone. There was a lady named Li Li who told me about an embarrassing experience with her future mother-in-law at the engagement banquet, which made me very emotional.
Li Li and her fiancé Xiao Ming are a couple who tied the knot, and after a three-year love run, they finally decided to enter another stage of their lives - the marriage hall. They are sweet, affectionate, and extremely respectful of each other's wishes and choices. After the old man paid all the debts, the two gradually discussed the wedding, and after successfully completing a series of negotiations, they invited their relatives and friends to celebrate the engagement, and carefully prepared a grand engagement ceremony.
Li Li said, "The moment I called out softly and politely called her 'mother,' I thought she would happily say yes, but I didn't expect that her response would make me feel like a lightning strike." As a distinguished elder, in the face of the respect of the younger generation, he should gladly accept it, however, the future mother-in-law not only did not appreciate it, but did not shy away from rejecting it in public, "Now, it may be too early to call Mom, or it is more appropriate to call Auntie." "In the future, I will take on the role of this "mother", but for now, I am just an aunt. Hearing this, Li Li immediately felt deeply shocked. She didn't understand why the mother-in-law couldn't accept herIn the past, when she went to her mother-in-law's house, her mother-in-law would always prepare a table full of delicacies to receive her, and she was full of praise for the delicious dishes, and joined the ranks of gourmets, but she never realized the secrets hidden in them.
On such an important occasion, her partner Xiao Ming hurriedly took her away from the scene and tried to resolve the embarrassing situation. However, this heartbreaking past is still deeply imprinted in Li Li's heart, and whenever she sees her mother-in-law feasting on delicious food, she can't help but recall that moment at the engagement banquet that day. This time, when she encountered the scene of her mother-in-law who likes to eat a lot of food, Li Li couldn't suppress the confusion in her heart, and took a post to ask the majority of netizens: The mother-in-law who loves food, is what she says and does unintentionally or intentionally?As soon as this question was raised, it immediately attracted countless heated discussions among netizens, and various views collided, presenting a lively and extraordinary scene.
Some netizens said that the mother-in-law's move may not be malicious, or she just wants to remind Li Li that the title of respect and the moment of respect should be expressed before the official wedding. In addition, some well-meaning netizens understand the mother-in-law, thinking that she may be outspoken and said those words without careful consideration, thus ignoring the potential problem of not considering the other party's feelings, so it should be forgiven. These ideas make us wonder: Is marriage really child's play?As parents who are about to become parents, how should they adjust their mentality in a timely manner and treat their children's marriages, it will naturally be logical to truly do what is blessed. Just when everyone was arguing about this matter, the sensible, calm, and good at guiding others to think stood up and expressed their views, and was approved and supported by many netizens.
She suggested that Li Li temporarily slow down the pace of changing her words and getting married, so as to gain a deeper understanding of the family's attitude. Because marriage is one of life's most solemn and important decisions, we should respond to it with the utmost care. For Lee's mother-in-law, if the prospective daughter-in-law called you 'mother' at the engagement banquet, you would be so happy that you should even give her an affirmative answer. Even if it was indeed a little inappropriate to change his words at this moment, at least in private he could explain it clearly to her, rather than embarrassing it in front of everyone. As for her special fondness for tasting food, she deduces from the analysis of her facial structure that "people who are strong in heart and are not easily disturbed by the outside world are usually more unrestrained in their diet and eat more." Therefore, the love of food is not enough to be the starting point for judging whether their emotional intelligence is high or whether their coping style is complex;At the same time, the use of food as a justification is even more difficult to justify, and there is no scientific evidence to prove that food lovers must have less focus on their inner complexity, and may also have trouble verbal expression because they strive to excel in very different environments. Therefore, we should be as tolerant and understanding as possible of everyone's life choices and behaviors, and be grateful for them without necessarily being hostile, so that we can work together to build a harmonious social environment.