What if one is a miserable man in the countryside and the other is a daughter in the city, and the two of them are generally happy after marriage?
There is a high probability that 80 to 90% are unhappy, and the reason is very simple, because if anyone marries a wife or husband, he is not marrying that person at all, he is marrying that person, but integrating into the culture of the two families and maintaining balance. For example, the values of the two families, life Xi, social status, wealth, three views are not right, etc., bit by bit is completely different, even if a woman chases a man, for love regardless of the opposition of her parents, married for love, two people must be very painful to be together for a long time. Even if she settles in the city after marriage, it is difficult to change Miss Qianjin's lifestyle, she is idle all day long, playing mahjong for another day, not going to work, ordering takeout when she is hungry, and never cooking at home, because she can't cook, has no money to use, and has the support of her original family. Men are responsible for earning money to support their families, and when they come back from work, they have to cook for themselves, and women are responsible for leisure and entertainment, and they don't care about anything, even if they have children, they won't take care of them, and they have to hire a nanny. At the same time, because the man's family is relatively poor, there are many places that use money and hope that men will sponsor them, and this kind of poverty-alleviation marriage, over time, leads to constant conflicts between young couples, and men are helpless.
Urban parents have pensions, live comfortably in old age, know some health knowledge, have time to square dance, or go on tours, will take care of their bodies, and maintain a good attitude, so there are few illnesses. In rural areas, the in-laws are busy from morning to night, and at the age of 60, they still have to plow the fields and farm the land, or move bricks on the construction site, and the life is hard and easy to overwork. If one day you are sick and hospitalized, you need to spend a lot of money, as a man has to support her, there is no hope in discussing with your daughter-in-law, the man will try to find money to help her parents tide over the difficulties, if the woman knows that the man sends money to the sick parents, she will make a fuss, and she will not go to the hospital to visit the sick parents-in-law, at this time the man is angry, disgusted that the daughter-in-law is not filial to her parents, and will quarrel with the daughter-in-law, and the parents-in-law will support the daughter's approach, such days make both parties very painful, and finally end in divorce.
Generally speaking, because the expectations of a person who marries because of love are high, she will feel unhappy after marriage is different from what she imagined. Although both of them are aiming to get married, men don't have too high expectations, and women will make it difficult for them to find that they can't achieve their ideal life. It is difficult for such a marriage to last long. Therefore, it makes sense to pay attention to the right person when getting married.