The eldest sister-in-law who married far away came back to divide the family property, but she didn't get a penny, and she took out 100,000 yuan
Ah Fang, who is smiling brightly, is over forty years old, and she has just finished her mother-in-law's funeral for a month. However, at this moment, the eldest sister-in-law belatedly came and claimed to divide the family property left by her mother. She offered to divide half of it, and even converted the house where Ah Fang's brother lived into cash and gave her half of it. As a result, under the leadership of my father-in-law, relatives and friends sat down one after another, but instead of giving my sister-in-law a penny, they asked her to come up with 100,000 yuan. If you don't agree, all relatives and friends will go to the sister-in-law's house**, causing the spread of family ugliness.
The following is the story told by Fong, in the first person for the sake of narrative convenience:
I'm Ah Fang and I'm 45 years old this year. I live in a rural area only 10 miles away from my in-laws' house, which is easily accessible by car ride. For a long time, my life has been dominated by farming and part-time work, and I only have a primary school education.
When I first got married, I only met my sister-in-law once at the wedding. She married 600 kilometers away as a college graduate. I heard that she is living well after marriage, married to an alumnus, and both have stable jobs. The eldest sister-in-law even gave birth to twin sons for her mother-in-law, who had been taking care of the children in the past and even participated in our wedding. After the wedding, the mother-in-law went back with the eldest sister-in-law and his wife.
But I felt that something was wrong. What made me even more angry was that after marriage, I found out that my husband was actually carrying a debt of 100,000 yuan. I couldn't help but ask him: I didn't ask for any bride price, I didn't have three golds, I didn't have a house, and I still heard you say that I owed a debt of 100,000 yuan when I got married
My father-in-law heard the quarrel between us when we were newly married and explained to me that the 100,000 yuan was a dowry for my sister-in-law. Since the land in the family is all owned by her husband and the house is also her husband's, the sister-in-law asked for 100,000 yuan as a dowry. In order to provide for her education, the family had a lot of debts, so she had to raise 100,000 yuan. The parents-in-law are old and can't make money, so they can only rely on their husbands to make money to pay off their debts.
Looking at the two bungalows in front of me, I couldn't help but wonder how much they were worth. These two houses still need people to farm, and the eldest sister-in-law is in college, and the husband is only in the first Chinese. To be honest, half of my sister-in-law's college tuition is due to her husband. After getting married, she seemed to have broken the foundation of the family and put the family in debt.
However, this is something I already knew before I got married, and I can't stop it. I can only face the reality with my own eyes and choose such a marriage. My husband is an honest man and rarely speaks, I know it, but the moment of joy in marriage has disappeared to some extent.
The mother-in-law went to her sister-in-law's house for seven years and accompanied the twins until they were seven years old. In the past seven years, the eldest sister-in-law has never returned home, and the mother-in-law has not returned. Even when I gave birth to my son, they didn't come back, on the pretext that it was busy and that the transportation to and from there was a long and expensive one. They knew I had a son, even if it was.
When I gave birth to my son, it was my mother's mother who came to take care of my confinement. My mother took good care of me during that month, and after that I had to take care of the children myself. Since I don't have a job, I'm just a farmer, I can't go out to work, and my husband is burdened with a debt of 100,000 yuan, so my life is under great pressure. My husband and father-in-law went to work at the construction site together, carrying cement and carrying mud buckets.
The eldest sister-in-law's twins went to elementary school, and the mother-in-law returned. But when my mother-in-law came back, her waist was strained, and she was in pain when she walked. The eldest sister-in-law's family lived in the staircase room on the fifth floor, but her mother-in-law had to take her two grandsons up and down, and the pain in her femoral head made her suffer a lot. I think that if it weren't for the leg pain, my mother-in-law might have gone to my sister-in-law's house to be a free babysitter. Because of her husband's poor academic performance, he barely graduated from junior high school, and later worked everywhere without a fixed career. Unlike her sister-in-law, she is a college student, has a regular job, and marries a husband who also has a stable career. As for me, who only went to the third grade of elementary school, because reading gave me a headache, I started working in the fields early and became a woman who was good at working in the fields.
I took a few acres of land alone and planted peonies and medicinal herbs. I usually go to the field to take care of it, but I don't have to go every day, so it doesn't prevent me from taking care of the children.
When my mother-in-law returned, my son was six years old. My mother-in-law helped me take care of the children, I got a job as a supermarket cashier, and our income improved somewhat. We successfully paid off the debt of 100,000 yuan when my sister-in-law got married. I thought that I could tear down the old house, but I didn't expect my mother-in-law's leg disease to attack and I had to undergo femoral head replacement surgery, which cost 100,000 yuan. All of a sudden, we were back in a state of poverty and whiteness.
The father-in-law and the eldest sister-in-law said that the eldest sister-in-law is a daughter who has been married, and the water that has been spilled and the family property are all left to the son. The father-in-law retorted: "It's not all because you are tired with the children, and your leg hurts like this." What kind of property to give to his son, the dowry of 100,000 yuan is a lot. ”
The eldest sister-in-law responded: "How can there be anything tiring with children, other people's parents don't have this situation with their children, and there are many things for mothers." It's a shame to say that the dowry of 100,000 yuan is really embarrassing, other people's families are dowry houses and dowry cars, and I only have a little dry 100,000 yuan, which is not what I took the initiative to ask for. It is estimated that you haven't seen the 100,000 yuan, right?”
Don't expect to share the medical expenses, and the eldest sister-in-law has no indication of going home to visit, let alone winter and summer vacations.
Afterwards, I didn't ask my sister-in-law for any expenses, after all, the money was spent. Besides, my father-in-law has also earned some money from his part-time job over the years, so let's assume that they haven't given us a penny. In the end, all the expenses were spent on my mother-in-law's surgery, and I didn't feel the need for my sister-in-law to share it.
A year after the surgery, I welcomed my second son, a healthy boy. It just so happened that the village was planning a new countryside, and each son could get a piece of homestead. I had two sons, so I got two homestead plots. The younger son's plot of land was brought by his own rations.
As my parents-in-law grew older, they moved to live in an apartment for the elderly in the village. In order to solve the housing problem, I borrowed 200,000 yuan from my mother's brother. I built a house on one of the homesteads, three floors and three rooms, like everyone else. I used the other homestead to grow vegetables and became self-sufficient. When my youngest son grows up, I plan to build another house.
After the house was built, I asked my parents-in-law to move to the first floor of the new house. The eldest son is still in elementary school, and it is still too early to build a wedding house for him. Given the possibility of the future, they may also be reluctant to live in the countryside. Therefore, I think it is better to let my parents-in-law live in a new house.
With the mother-in-law**, our lives gradually stabilized. Some factories were introduced in the village, and I got a job. I began to Xi, became an assembler on the assembly line of the factory, and my income gradually stabilized.
The youngest son also started to go to school, and the family's debts were gradually paid off, and we all seemed to forget that there was an eldest sister-in-law.
However, the fate of the mother-in-law was unlucky. Not long ago, she had a cerebral hemorrhage, and we spent another 100,000 yuan in medical expenses. The father-in-law called the eldest sister-in-law again, but the eldest sister-in-law said indifferently: "Don't look for me, I am a married daughter, I have not received the family's property, and I don't need to ask me for money." ”
After hearing this, my father-in-law had to respond: "Okay, I won't call you ** again in the future." ”
The mother-in-law is paralyzed on the left side, but her mind is still clear. I'm a meter tall as one.
Seven. Fifth, the farm work woman who weighs 160 pounds still maintains strong physical strength. I helped my mother-in-law exercise, and after a year of hard work, she was finally able to walk on her own with a cane. I felt a little more relaxed, and at the same time, I had a stable income in the factory, and my husband also contracted the waste products in the factory, and our financial situation gradually improved.
My youngest son also started school, the family's debts were cleared, and we lived a relatively comfortable life. At this time, we all seem to have forgotten the sister-in-law who once existed.
Unexpectedly, in less than three years, my mother-in-law suffered a cerebral hemorrhage again, which was more serious than the last time. Doctors said she was lucky to be able to save her life, but she couldn't get back to normal. This time, the mother-in-law lost her consciousness and kept banging her hand on the bed, sleeping during the day and making noise at night.
Her father-in-law was busy taking care of her and always made a mess of the food when he fed her. When I tried to feed her, she grabbed my hair and accused me of being a black-hearted person who would harm her. When her husband feeds her, there is also confusion, she is coquettish like an ignorant child, and sometimes even calls out the name of her eldest sister-in-law.
I wondered, maybe my mother-in-law was missing my sister-in-law, so I suggested that my husband give my sister-in-law a ** and ask her to come over to take care of her for a few days. I told my husband that if I didn't take care of me now, I wouldn't have a chance in the future. My husband dialed **, but my sister-in-law refused on the grounds that she was busy with work, saying that they were being promoted and had no time to take care of her mother-in-law. She also thinks that her mother-in-law is still alive and that it is useless to take care of her. The eldest sister-in-law even said that the old man should rely on his son to take care of him, otherwise why raise his son?
My father-in-law scolded us for this, saying why we beat the ** to this white-eyed wolf. After hearing this, the mother-in-law was quiet, and her eating and drinking returned to normal. After a month, my mother-in-law left, and my father-in-law stopped us from telling my sister-in-law.
A month later, the sister-in-law's family of four finally came. The first time I met her two sons, they were already high school students. The sister-in-law has an elegant temperament, and the brother-in-law is also very personable. Their family is glamorous and out of place with us, and even though we have a new building, there is still a lot of mud in the yard. It bothered me and I thought, why didn't the family even think of contacting us?After all, the parents-in-law were not bad to them, and the mother-in-law once took care of them for seven years. They didn't even come over once during her mother-in-law's illness. Even if it is said that the distance is long, the mother-in-law can go back and forth as an elderly person. It makes me feel like a familyThere is no connection in the heart, and it is as far away as the end of the world.
The eldest sister-in-law said with emotion: "Blood is thicker than water, why do you treat us like this?"You didn't even notify us when my mother died, and your daughter's marriage is not a drained water, you have gone too far. ”
My sister-in-law inspected the house and asked me to walk around with her. I resisted, but eventually I relented and led them to visit the village factory and another homestead. The eldest sister-in-law said with emotion: "You are really misers now, and you have an income of thousands of yuan every month, right?"Unlike us, if you don't go to work, you don't have money. ”
I retorted: "You all have pensions when you retire, and you have income if you don't work, so why don't you lie flat?"”
After walking around, the eldest sister-in-law said to her father-in-law: "Now is the era of equality between men and women, and the daughter who marries also has the right to inherit." My mother died, and the family's property should be distributed fairly, and it can't all be given to my younger brother, right?”
When my father-in-law heard this, the teacup in his hand fell out directly, and I hurriedly stepped forward and hugged my father-in-law.
The father-in-law said coldly: "What property do you have at home, and you came here to divide the property?"Do you want to go around and put a piece of paper on your mother's grave?And divide the property, your face is really big enough. The original dowry of 100,000 yuan made us not feel good for several years. ”
The eldest sister-in-law said reluctantly: "The property of the parents, the daughter and the son have the same inheritance rights. These two homesteads should be assigned to me at least one, and I also have income from renting them. ”
The father-in-law sneered: "You are all stupid to read." These two homesteads obviously belong to two grandchildren, and we don't even have a share. We are going to move to an apartment for the elderly, if it weren't for your brother-in-law's filial piety, how would we have a new house to live in?Well, since men and women are equal, you can raise me. We don't have any property, but we owe a lot of debt. By the way, your mother was sick and had three surgeries, which cost nearly 300,000 yuan, and you can share this cost equally, and give your brother 150,000 yuan. ”
The two nephews pulled the eldest sister-in-law and said, "Mom, let's burn paper on my grandmother's grave, she took care of us for seven years, but we didn't reciprocate." ”
The brother-in-law's face was flushed and he apologized again and again: "Dad, I'm sorry, we were really wrong." What we've done so wrong all these years. ”
The brother-in-law's performance was quite good, and he said publicly: "Over the years, your younger brother has suffered a lot of grievances. He also has two sons, and I don't ask for too much, so you can give me 100,000 yuan, which is considered compensation for all these years. Needless to say, the two grandchildren are already so old. ”
My father-in-law took out his bank card and said, "You can transfer 100,000 yuan to me now, and once you transfer, I will recognize you." If you don't, leave. Your mother has also passed away, and she has worked for you for seven years, not to mention taking care of her son in order to raise her daughter to go to college. You'd better transfer the money, otherwise I'll take the villagers to your house to ask about your family's education, how can you teach your daughter-in-law badly, and even your son can't teach well?”
After my sister-in-law's family of four left, I couldn't help laughing, I couldn't help it. How could they not have inquired about the fact that these properties were all purchased by the two of us with great painstaking efforts?How can the two old men have so much money, they really want to cover up, and they can't take it but reap the consequences.
Inheriting the inheritance of your parents is not only about family affection, but also about the time you spend for your parents. It is a clear mistake to focus on the care of your parents when they are healthy, and ignore the needs of your parents in their old age.