(1) Xiao Duo's distress and helplessness
Due toSmall flowersis the only daughter in the family, and she enjoys the care and love of her parents during the New Year at her parents' house, and she doesn't have to do any work. However, when she married into her in-law's family, such treatment ceased to exist. Every year I go back to my mother-in-law's house for the New YearSmall flowersMust undertake to do soChinese New Year's Eve dinner, go to relatives and other heavy housework. The in-laws of this small place have a ruleChinese New Year's Eve dinnerThe daughter-in-law is responsible for cooking, and a table of dishes must be arranged. For those who are not very good at cookingSmall flowersThis is undoubtedly a huge pressure and challenge. In addition, during the Chinese New Year, I have to deal with the visit of my in-laws' relatives, and my mother-in-law will also let meSmall flowersHelp entertain, let thatSmall flowersFeeling very tired.
(2) Young people pay attention to the quality of life and rest and relaxation
Modern young people pay attentionlifeQuality and personal rest, with their own expectations for the holidays. They want to relax and enjoy their own personal time during their vacation. However,Go home for the New YearBut it means taking on the heavy lifting of the family, which is contrary to their expectations. Returning to your in-law's house for the Chinese New Year requires help with cooking, visiting relatives, etc., which undoubtedly makes young people feel stressed and tired, and even feel that it is better not to take a holiday.
(1) Adhere to the concepts and rules of the older generation's in-laws
InSmall flowersIn the story, the mother-in-law adheres to the concepts and rules of the older generation, believing that the daughter-in-law is already a member of their family and should stay at her mother-in-law's house for the New Year, rather than going back to her parents' house for the New Year. This notion is not reasonable for contemporary young people, because they have their ownlife, work and expectations, and unwilling to be bound by traditional Xi.
(2) The mother-in-law's attitude towards her daughter-in-law and the transmission of pressure
The mother-in-law not only did not feel sorry for her daughter-in-law, but she couldn't wait to leave all the housework to her daughter-in-law alone, but also put the preparations for the New Year on her daughter-in-law. This makes the daughter-in-law a maid of the in-laws' family, and has to endure great stress and exhaustion during the Chinese New Year. This attitude and behavior of the mother-in-law not only makes the daughter-in-law feel ununderstood and respected, but also does not contribute to the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law and the harmony of the family.
(1) Communication and understanding
There should be active communication between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law to understand each other's thoughts and needs. Mother-in-law can try to understand the contemporary younglifeand pressure, and the daughter-in-law can also express her own views and expectations, and find a mutually acceptable solution for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
(2) Division of labor, cooperation and mutual assistance
During the Chinese New Year, you can make a reasonable division of labor plan to help and cooperate with each other. The daughter-in-law does not have to take on all the household chores, and the parents can be properly involved. At the same time, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can also help each other, share some housework burdens, and reduce the pressure on daughters-in-law.
(3) Respect and tolerance
Family members should respect and tolerate each other, understand each other's differences, and be considerate of each other. Daughters-in-law can also take the initiative to participate in some family affairs during the Chinese New Year, but they also hope to be able to get the understanding and support of their in-laws and not be bothered by too much pressure.
Go back to your mother-in-law's house for the New YearSmall flowersIt's a test of stress and exhaustion. The mother-in-law's attitude and concept also played a certain role in promoting the emergence of this dilemma. However, through communication and understanding, division of labor and mutual help, as well as respect and tolerance, family conflicts can be alleviated, the status quo can be changed, and returning to your in-laws' house for the New Year will become more relaxed and enjoyable.