The mother-in-law unfortunately fell and fractured her femur, and the doctor concluded that the operation was hopeless, so she could only stay in bed to recuperate, and urgently needed special care. The eldest sister, husband and brother-in-law gathered together to discuss how to take proper care of the mother-in-law. After thinking for a while, my husband said: "I'm busy with work and can't take a break, so I'm considering hiring a nanny, and the cost will be shared according to 2:4:4, after all, the eldest sister is a girl, and the burden can be appropriately lighter." ”
The eldest sister frowned when she heard this, and objected: "Hiring nannies and outsiders may lack care for the elderly, so I think it's better to have to serve them personally." "My mother-in-law accidentally fell and fractured her femur, and the doctor ruled that she could not operate and could only stay in bed to recuperate, and urgently needed professional care. The eldest sister, husband and brother-in-law discussed the countermeasures.
After thinking for a while, my husband suggested: "I am busy with work and it is difficult to get out, so we consider hiring a nanny, and the cost is shared according to the ratio of 2:4:4, and the eldest sister can be relatively easy as a single person." The eldest sister disagreed: "Asking for an outsider nanny, I always feel that I don't care enough to treat the elderly, and it's better to serve by myself." ”
The little uncle then spoke: "We all have to go to work, and it is not realistic to take turns to take care of them. The eldest sister turned her head to look at me: "There are three children in the family, except for you who are not working now, there are others, and you are the most suitable to take care of." I wanted to argue, but my husband quickly spoke: "Then you have to pay, after all, she can't take care of it in vain." ”
The eldest sister added: "Of course, the three of us will give you 2,500 yuan a month, so that you have a salary of 5,000 yuan a month, which can not only take care of your mother-in-law, but also not delay picking up and dropping off the children." The little uncle also applauded. Given the attractive salary, I accepted the job without hesitation.
5,000 yuan a month is indeed a lot of income for a housewife. Besides, I think it is natural for me to take care of my mother-in-law as a daughter-in-law, after all, we are a family, and it makes sense to share money and help each other. However, although she received a salary of 5,000 yuan per month on time, it was rare to see the eldest sister and younger brother-in-law come to visit her mother-in-law in person.
They often only once in a while, either through ** or WeChat, and never really go to the bed to reach out for help, as if this old mother has nothing to do with them. As time passed, the mother-in-law's days in bed became longer and longer, and her temper became more and more bad.
She was angry that the girl and her youngest son did not come to visit her, but she vented all her dissatisfaction on me, and blamed me for not being in her own business, which became an excuse for their unfilial piety. Although I understand that she is unwell and her mood may inevitably fluctuate, I silently bear her blame and wholeheartedly want my husband to feel at ease at work.
I endured three years of caregiving, with little social activity other than picking up and dropping off my children. During this time, I devoted myself to taking care of my mother-in-law. I was physically and mentally exhausted, and I felt like if I continued like this, I might fall into depression. Therefore, I propose that the three families take turns to take care of my mother-in-law.
The eldest sister took the lead again: "You have really worked hard in the past three years, but you have also been paid accordingly." In contrast, you are more fortunate than some daughters-in-law, after all, you have a salary to receive. ”
The little uncle also echoed: "Sister-in-law, I think you have a point. Our children are still young and can't take care of their mother wholeheartedly, if you have other ideas, add some money or something, tell us directly, as long as we can afford it, we should be able to discuss. ”
This time, I was ahead of my husband and asked, "How much do you think is the right amount to pay every month?""3000, or 3500, that's what I think I can afford. The two families together are six or seven thousand, which should be okay for you, after all, it's just like going to work. The uncle replied quickly.
Okay, 3000 yuan is okay, I'm willing to pay 6000. You take care of it, and if it's not enough, I'll add money. In this way, you can also experience first-hand how difficult it is to take care of the paralyzed elderly, and as for this money, whoever wants to earn it can earn it. I'm not going to work for money. "I expressed my wish to my brother-in-law.
The little uncle was confused by my words, and quickly explained: "That's not the case, sister-in-law, what we are talking about is how much money we want to give you, how did it become to give me money." We are really short on time, and the child is still being taken care of by the mother-in-law, why did you suddenly quit?”
I didn't speak, silently turned my gaze to my husband, expecting him to show his attitude. However, the husband has been silent. The eldest sister still insisted on her position, it was not feasible to take turns to take care, nor could it be possible to hire nannies, and nursing homes were even more resolutely opposed.
Since this was the case, I decided to leave directly. Consult with yourselves, your mothers. I don't want to be the hard and burdensome daughter-in-law anymore.