I am filled with mixed emotions about Yueyue, both disgusted by her selfishness and vanity, and at the same time sympathetic to her life in a relative's house since she was a child.
While reading the original work, I noticed that Yueyue was too vain and had an aversion to her grandfather's adobe house; When Zheng Juan refused to accept Nan Nan's compensation for her righteousness and bravery, and criticized her aunt, who had taken care of her since childhood, for being "innocent" and even intervening in other people's marriages for not making an effort, I was deeply indignant.
However, judging from Yueyue's upbringing, I can't blame her too much, because she has lived under the protection of others since she was a child. Despite the care and care her deserved, her parents' responsibilities as she grew up were still an irreparable nullity. Zhou Rong is almost the culprit responsible for all her problems.
The honorific title of Granny Kim.
When Yueyue was in junior high school, she chose to move into the small building where Zhou Bingyi's mother-in-law lived.
On the one hand, Yueyue's appearance helps alleviate Jin Yueji's loneliness when she is alone; From another point of view, Yueyue and Zhou Bingyi live together, which makes Zhou Bingkun feel relatively little pressure, and all the members of the Zhou family believe that living in such an environment is beneficial to their next generation, both physically and mentally.
So, Yueyue chose another place to stay.
At that time, Zhou Rong and Feng Huacheng had ended their marriage, and she lived alone in the dormitory assigned by the school.
After Yueyue left her grandfather's house, she was given an exclusive room with beautiful bookshelves, a wardrobe and a single bed. This change made Yueyue feel very happy, and she almost wanted to never return to her grandfather's house again.
Soon after moving into Mrs. Jin's house, Yueyue developed a deep relationship with Jin Yueji, who was very warm to her and respectfully called her "Granny Jin". Later, in a party, the two fought again, and they agreed to be called "Granny Jin". She has her own unique opinion on this title:
To me, you are like a mother-in-law who will never change. One of the two of our names has the same pronunciation, and my Yue character stands for beautiful jade. You are my golden mother-in-law, and I am like a precious piece of jade for you. The two of us form a gold-encrusted young and old partner, and the relationship is very harmonious. ”
Yueyue's flattery made Jin Yueji feel very satisfied, which is also the reason why she is extremely fond of Yueyue, even to the point of doting.
The beautiful little building of Yueyue's aunt's house greatly satisfied her vanity, just like her former Beijing poet father also greatly satisfied her vanity. Before that, she was a girl who didn't know what happiness was. However, at this moment, her attitude towards her distant father gradually faded, and only Granny Jin and her eldest aunt became the two most important people in her eyes. Of the two sisters, her favorite grandmother is her grandmother. Regarding the adobe house and the earthen kang of my grandfather's house, they have become history that people do not want to remember.
I don't want to describe a teenage girl in terms of vanity and selfishness, but Yueyue has indeed undergone a noticeable transformation in this regard.
Once, when Zhou Bingyi first began to take on the leadership of a large state-owned factory, he risked his life and suffered minor injuries. This made Jin Yueji very anxious, and finally chose to be admitted to the hospital. This behavior aroused Yueyue's strong disgust towards her uncle, and she did not hesitate to reprimand Zhou Bingyi loudly:
It's all your fault! It was because of your problem that she suddenly got sick! Please don't mention those problems in your factory at home in the future, is it okay? ”
For her, her uncle's injury is not the most critical, but Granny Kim's hospitalization** is the most important, and she is afraid that she will be caught in it, as described in the original work:
Granny Kim is the person she respects the most, and the eldest aunt is the person she often likes - because the eldest aunt is the person she loves the most. As for her uncle, she thinks that he is a person who is as clean as she is. When her uncle might endanger her interests, she felt a sense of uneasiness and fear that would linger in her, and she became angry as a result. ”
In the depths of Yueyue's heart, no matter who it is, it should not pose a threat to her own interests, including Zhou Rong. She is a very clean person, she cleans her room every day, and she likes to throw everything in the trash can because she thinks it will make her look a little cleaner. After Zhou Rong moved into Zhou Bingyi's house, she proposed to Yueyue to live with her, but Yueyue rejected her proposal, she didn't want to leave her current life without worrying about food and clothing, and she didn't want to be crowded in her mother's single dormitory.
Yueyue's pursuit of vanity and selfishness has been revealed, but whether it is Zhou Bingyi, Hao Dongmei or Zhou Rong, they have never noticed this change in Yueyue. This time, they both had a misunderstanding because of a small detail, which was the game they played together when they were children - the game in "Stealing Chickens and Dogs", also called "Stealing Chickens and Touching Monkeys". In their minds, Yueyue was just a little willful and would get better when she grew up, but they never expected that it was this negligence that led to Yueyue making many irreparable mistakes in the future.
In the original work, Yueyue was two years older than Nan Nan.
I don't know when it started, Yueyue had a special feeling for Zhou Nan.
Mrs. Qu was the first to notice the unusualness between the two. Once, when I walked out of Jin Yueji's home as a guest, I noticed that Yueyue was holding a teenager's neck tightly with both hands, and there was an atmosphere between the two that wanted to kiss but was shy. When Mrs. Qu walked out, the two immediately parted ways, and Yueyue said vaguely that the young man was her cousin, and they were talking in secret.
Mrs. Qu had never seen Nan Nan, but as her cousin, her thoughts naturally drifted to Zhou Bingkun's child, so she told Mrs. Jin about this scene, and Dongmei also learned about it.
From a theoretical point of view, Yueyue and Nan Nan can actually become a couple, because there is no blood connection between them. Judging from the facts, the two don't know each other either. However, judging from the family background at that time, they were only cousins on the surface, and neither Zhou Bingkun nor Zhou Rong could accept them as a couple.
Hao Dongmei was worried about possible problems, so she specially found Zhou Bingkun for a detailed explanation:
Bingkun, Yueyue lives with me, and your brother and I have taken certain educational responsibilities for her growth. Now that your brother is gone, my responsibility is even greater. So I can't pretend it's okay. ”
Zhou Bingkun recently learned from Shui Artesian that Luo Shibin intended to recapture Nan Nan, which made him irritable, and it was even more difficult to accept the matter between Nan Nan and Yueyue.
At this moment, Nan Nan had already learned her background and revealed the news to Yueyue. "Brother-in-law's son, you are his son, he should do this. Yueyue's opinion on this matter seems to be happy to see it succeed. She feels that doing this is not only for herself, but also for the interests and future of two people, and even the entire family. First of all, she no longer needs to bear any psychological pressure, which is beneficial to her relationship with Nan Nan, and she doesn't care about her brother-in-law's family's opinion; Second, her brother-in-law's family is unfriendly to her, so she can choose to give up. Secondly, in her opinion, having a wealthy father is not a bad thing.
However, she did not expect that the matter between her and Nan Nan would be strongly opposed by family members.
Zhou Bingkun strictly ordered Nan Nan to sever relations with Yueyue, and gave Nan Nan a slap in the face. This made Yueyue feel very angry, and she went to her brother-in-law Zhou Bingkun to ask the truth, but the angry Zhou Bingkun gave Yueyue another slap in the face.
Zhou Rong learned the truth of the matter from her daughter, and she suspected that Zhou Bingkun had failed to educate Nan Nan well, so she decided to go to Zhou Bingkun to question in person. She always believes that Yueyue is not at fault, although she has reservations about the relationship between the two, but deep down in her heart, Nan Nan is not a suitable partner for Yueyue, she thinks that Nan Nan is the child of a "criminal".
Zhou Bingkun's anger was not inferior to Zhou Rong, so he expressed his feelings to Zhou Rong:
I feel that Yueyue has changed, no longer as likable as she was when she was a child, but more and more like you. Since moving to her brother and sister-in-law, there have been some bad Xi, mistakenly thinking that she has become a little princess of a noble family, giving people a feeling of indifference. ”
In fact, what Zhou Bingkun really wants to express is Zhou Rong. He thinks that Yueyue has inherited Zhou Rong's troublesome genes, the genes of a romantic poet. Once because of Zhou Rong's matter, the family was turned upside down, but now because of Yueyue's matter, the family can't be at peace.
The proud Zhou Rong couldn't tolerate her brother blaming her daughter so much, so she slapped Zhou Bingkun hard and angrily expressed her dissatisfaction:
The more you talk, the more presumptuous you become! I really want to save face for you, you can't even let your sister stay! I'm also here today, you are not allowed to interfere in those matters of the two children, let me deal with it. ”
It can be said that Yueyue inherited Zhou Rong's wayward character in a sense, she was completely immersed in the sadness of her first love being stopped, and she couldn't accept anyone's opinion, including her mother.
It didn't take long for Yueyue to take everyone in the Zhou family to Beijing to find her father, Feng Huacheng, and willfully decided to go to France with Feng Huacheng regardless of the consequences.
So Zhou Rong began her journey to find her daughter, who stayed in France for a full 12 years, which also caused her to lose her position as an associate professor, and Cai Xiaoguang, who has become her husband, anxiously awaiting her return in China.
Married man.
From beginning to end, Zhou Rong was not aware of Yueyue's problems. As a mother, she behaved quite irresponsibly when it came to Yueyue's education. However, she didn't reflect deeply on her problems, just like Yueyue never really recognized her mistakes.
After 12 years, Zhou Rong and Yueyue returned to their motherland together, and during this time, the relationship between mother and daughter has been repaired to a certain extent in the days of foreign countries.
After Yueyue returned to China, she was in a state that was neither high nor low because of the label of "returnee", which caused her to never find a job that suited her. There are many things that need to be done in her life, but the biggest headache for her is money, especially money. She had longed to join her uncle Zhou Bingyi and tried to convince her adoptive father, Cai Xiaoguang, to start a company for her, but her mother's resolute refusal led her to choose a fruitless path.
Yueyue is already living with a married man who is many years older than her.
In her opinion, "it is better to marry well than to do well", and the man is so wealthy that he only needs to hold on to him himself, and he no longer needs to worry about work.
No matter what era it is, cohabitation with a married person requires a "moral trial", and what Yueyue said that the man who has been divorced from his wife for a long time cannot stand up at all.
After trying to persuade her to no avail, Zhou Rong angrily severed all contact with Yueyue, and the other members of the Zhou family could hardly tolerate Yueyue's immoral behavior.
Yueyue's wayward behavior first caused Zhou Bingkun to lose his job opportunity, and then also involved his uncle Zhou Bingyi, who was about to be transferred back to the city. The man's wife handed over letters about Yueyue and handed them over to the Provincial Women's Federation one by one. And Zhou Bingyi, who was recently transferred back, is said to be Yueyue's relative, so his reputation has been affected for a while.
At this moment, although Yueyue feels deeply indebted to her family, she does not want to easily give up this old man who provides her with all the material support.
Zhou Bingyi was not as angry as Zhou Rong at Yueyue's various changes and inappropriate behaviors, and he even began to reflect on his shortcomings in Yueyue's education:
At that time, Zhou Yue moved to us, and your sister-in-law and I have the responsibility to provide her with the necessary education in many aspects, just as we teach our own daughter. But we didn't, not at all, but we certainly weren't good enough. We feel that she has suffered in Guizhou since she was a child, and she has not seen her parents for a while, so she should make up for it and relax the requirements for her. Bingkun, when she lived here, was actually a very well-behaved girl, right? At that time, she was with two cousins, and the adults were very fond of her. She later became self-willed, and she was our favorite, and it was my mother-in-law who doted on her the most. She's changed, but we don't see it. ”
For Zhou Rong, all she cares about is Yueyue's unbearable behavior, but she never thinks deeply about the reasons behind it, which makes the once innocent Yueyue come to this point.
Yueyue's vanity actually stems from her inferiority complex when she lost the company of her parents since she was a child; Yueyue's selfish and self-interested behavior is actually manifested as an excessive self-protection attitude in the context of changes in the living environment; Yueyue's outrageous decisions, as well as her deviated outlook on life and marriage, are largely due to the lack of proper education and guidance.
For all these things, Zhou Rong and Feng Huacheng cannot shirk their responsibilities. As Yueyue described in the TV series, as long as she becomes a mother, no matter how difficult life is, she will always be by her children's side.
In the depths of Yueyue's heart, what can really be grasped are those things that have been abandoned by her. Whether it is family affection, morality or principles, she is willing to let go for a while. When she has everything, the things that she once abandoned will naturally come back to her.
In the end, she got her wish, but still got a marriage certificate with the owner of the logistics company in her fifties, and it is still unknown whether she is really happy in her life situation.
If Zhou Rong had always accompanied Yueyue, then the direction of the story might not be like this. She is an excellent woman, she has a kind and gentle heart, she is in love with a man, he is a very good person, he is very considerate to her, and his love makes her feel extremely warm and happy. However, she only focused on the pursuit of personal happiness and self-fulfillment, forgetting that she was a mother and did not realize that her children needed the companionship and guidance of their mothers, so she paid a heavy price.
Helen Keller once said, "A child's heart is like a stream, and education is like the path of this stream." ”
Deciding which path a child will choose in the future depends largely on the education and guidance of parents from an early age. If parents are not putting in any effort in this regard, then there should be no dissatisfaction with their children going in the wrong direction.