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Female, 35 years old, married for 13 years, with two sons, located in Yichang. I was the original partner who was cheated on. When he first found out, he vigorously denied it, and brought the matter to his parents before admitting to cheating.
From discovery to disposal of the property, I was calm throughout the whole process. I went to a lawyer, my husband signed a letter of guarantee, vowed not to contact outside women again, signed a nuptial agreement, and gave me 70% of the property, and I was going to come over financially.
My husband is a private executive, with an annual income of 25w, plus my mother-in-law's help, we have two suites, an apartment and a scooter, although the house is a mortgage, but it is also considered a well-off level. The happy life was shattered.
I have investigated the woman, she is 7 years younger than my husband, unmarried, and is an affiliate of my husband. The two came together because of their work. The two are involved in financial dealings, so both parties are worried about things being **.
After the property was disposed of, I suddenly seemed to have no sustenance. During the whole period, he lost 30 pounds, couldn't sleep all night, and occasionally made trouble when he remembered his cheating. At the end of last year, I slowly calmed down, and I felt that the two of us could talk well.
The turning point was also at the end of last year, I found that he used a WeChat account to continue to contact her, and even the WeChat name was love xxx, and all the affectionate essays sent were only visible to her. At this point, I realized that I underestimated the relationship between them, but I didn't expect him to be so infatuated. Check the consumption records, it should be a year since the two of them revived.
I couldn't sit still and hit the woman after a sleepless night. Told her three things.
First, we have already distributed the property, and in order to compensate me, he notarized all the property to my name, even if we divorced, he would leave the house.
Second, I have a very good relationship with my mother-in-law, I have been married for more than ten years, my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have not blushed, my two children are brought up by my mother-in-law, and the family relationship is very harmonious.
Third, I can fulfill you and let him go, but he must raise his two sons to adulthood.
She vehemently denied it, saying that she had misunderstood. I directly threw out my husband's record of buying bags and other consumption and opening a house for her, and she said that there was no real love between the two, just a momentary passion, and said that she had no feelings for him, and now she has a boyfriend and is about to get married.
I told my husband what she said, and he couldn't eat anymore and started to have insomnia at night. I really couldn't stand it, so I directly mentioned divorce. He suddenly woke up and said he didn't agree. According to his previous promise, he left the house and notarized the remaining assets to me.
At my request, my husband called her in front of me and said to break up. She was already very annoyed with him at the time, and kept emphasizing that she should not contact him again in the future, and the relationship between the two was broken.
I sent her a message, saying that every penny my husband spends for you belongs to the joint property of the husband and wife, and you must return it to me, and my lawyer said that you can't go through the legal process privately, and your various consumption records can also be found by the court. Later, I asked for a symbolic part of the money back. She was afraid that things would get bigger, so she resigned and changed units in April this year.
I'm not doing this all for money, I just want the other party to know that I can't mess with a married man.
The above is my experience, it seems that I have won, but in fact, only I know that my heart is full of holes.
My husband was still infatuated with her, and when he found out that she had quit her job and planned to go to another city, he couldn't eat or drink. He said he was suffering, so why shouldn't I?He was in a daze all the time, and my emotions were repeated. Most of the time he does what I do, and I know that I can do this, but I don't know how to adjust myself.
When I was in love, my husband was generous to me and bought a necklace. I broke up during the relationship, but I took the initiative to get back together, and I have been at a disadvantage so far, and later there were quarrels in marriage, most of which I tolerated it.
My job is not very stable, after having children, I have always had low self-esteem, usually try to save some flowers, not to burden my husband, eat a powder in the morning to see whether it is sour and hot or shredded meat.
What made me feel the most uncomfortable was that during my car accident and hospitalization, when my son had a fever and I stayed with me all night, my husband was opening a room with a mistress. It's sad to think about it.
I also reflected on myself, maybe over the years, I have done everything by myself, so he will show favor and be willing to be a licking dog. The mother-in-law accompanies the first-child pregnancy test, and the second-child pregnancy test is done by himself every time, and he only appears on the day the baby is born. Throughout the production process, he has been playing with his mobile phone. For so many years, I have been reluctant to buy good cosmetics, and when I saw him buy tens of thousands of bags for Xiaosan, I felt more aggrieved.
After this happened, my mother-in-law didn't give us any financial support, and now we have to pay my mother-in-law a monthly living allowance. After experiencing this, everyone has no sense of security, my mother-in-law used to give us all the pension money, and now, she is also worried that if her son comes to the day when he leaves the house, all the assets of the family will become my personal assets.
I keep a chat record between him and her, and his concern for her is heartfelt, maybe he is true love for her. When I didn't see this, my mood had slowly calmed down, but since I found out, my heart has begun to twist. I have also seen a psychiatrist, but this thing is a thorn in the heart, even if it is pulled out, the scar is still there.
When I wasn't strong enough to get a divorce, I should treat him as a partner now, after all, he does all the housework now, and he also tutors his son in his homework, but my emotions are too difficult to control. I'm also worried that my emotions will be repeated, and he will not be able to stand it one day, so he would rather go out of the house, or one day he will just be rotten.
Not long ago, when he knew that Xiao San was going to get married, he seemed to be sober at that moment, and immediately made all kinds of gestures of favor to me.
We were each other's first love, and I was very dependent on him, and I still had feelings. But it is precisely because I still have expectations for him that I am unwilling and disappointed, and I can't get out of it all at once, so I can't get along with myself all the time.
If I don't follow my sister, what should I do?
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Day. 02 Sister who loves you.
Don't Talk to Me 1705: Hello!
For most women, a stable marriage is the food that keeps people alive, but marriage is the most troublesome, complicated and unstable thing in the world, in fact, marriage is strong, and the most unstable is the men and women in the castle.
Real married life is like a war without gunpowder, you don't know when to hurt each other and when to be hurt by each other. It was as if a gust of wind blew and the roof would be lifted and all the ugliness would be exposed. a. Men who are too comfortable in marriage are easy to kneel and lick women outside"The opposite of things" is very applicable to marriage. It may be cruel to say it, but it has to be said. When a woman devotes herself to her marriage, all kinds of arrangements, all kinds of understanding, all kinds of giving, all kinds of giving, men are most likely to cheat. Because you give him time, he has nowhere to "give" his passion, nowhere to spend it. That's the sentence, you don't use your husband's money, someone will use it for you. Therefore, a woman must be willing to use a man, he needs to pay for this family, he needs to be busy, and he needs all kinds of responsibilities. For a woman, it may be more important to maintain her own delicacy and freshness than to be diligent and thrifty. b. When you find out that your husband is cheating, you must know how to judge the situation1 First of all, you must control the economic power, and the opportunity will not come again. The specific operation is just like the heroine, first transfer the property to herself, otherwise how big and big is this matter, shoot quickly, don't give the man time to hesitate. Secondly, you must find out whether you are divorced or not, and whether you have the ability to divorce. If you don't want to get a divorce, you can't show that you're cowardly. You can set the divorce conditions higher, such as you want money, but you don't want any children. Men will judge the loss, and usually the woman has a better chance of winning. If you want to divorce and have the ability to divorce, then it's better to say, it's all over with a dead heart. What I'm most afraid of is that I don't want to get divorced, and I make a big fuss, everyone knows it, and I am ashamed to say that I want the child, you don't want the money, and leave it to the woman outside, that's really the end ......of the game2 Treat the outside worldThe outside world refers to the people around the husband, such as the husband's friends, the husband's parents, etc. My husband cheated, should I tell my in-laws?In fact, I have always been against this. Although most fans will choose to tell their in-laws, they are eager for their in-laws to take care of their sons. But I think the first position of your in-laws is your husband's biological parents, and it is difficult to really turn away from the heart. When the in-laws discipline their sons, most of them are also based on the fact that their sons are not good at mixing or are afraid that their grandchildren will be hurt. But the starting point is basically not because I feel sorry for my daughter-in-law and am afraid that my daughter-in-law will be sad. There are also many hidden dangers to tell your in-laws. For example, does it reflect that his value is not enough, his charm is not good, and even his husband runs out?Another example is like the heroine, who ran to tell her mother-in-law, which directly caused her mother-in-law to cut off the economy. The reason is very simple, my son cheated and gave you all her property, what else did she give you to make up?Who knows if you will one day take your in-laws' house and money and remarry?On this point, the comment section can be discussed. As for my husband's friends, etc., I don't need it anymore, because it will only make myself a joke. c. What should I do if I want to cheat on my husbandThe first thing to do is not to grasp the incident of the junior and not to be happy every day. He loves Xiaosan to die or live, let him go, at this moment the property is in your hands, what are you afraid of?He's just a naked man with two children, which woman out there will follow him?Unless it's the brain. Don't worry, let him grieve alone. In addition, don't keep talking to your husband about the woman outside, saying that the woman is playing with you, she is not serious about you, and you will have no drama in your life. You must not say such a thing. Don't forget, what men like. Men like this kind of unobtainable. The more you say, the more you poke at the pain in his heart that he can't love, the more he misses Xiao San, and he gets angry when he sees you. Second, create a sense of crisis. If you want him to come back, you have to create a sense of crisis. The essence of this sense of crisis is that the old lady has seen through it, and the old lady doesn't love you anymore. You start to pay attention to your appearance, to your private life, and to improve your quality of life. It's as if you can start all over again at any time. That's when he panics. For him, the woman outside is also yellow, and his wife is originally guaranteed, but he is afraid that he will not be able to keep it. He will panic and come to you to beg you to reconcile. Again, he likes what he can't get. Don't kneel and lick your husband, what is the so-called redemption. At most, it moved him for a while. He is comfortable, and he has to think about the flowers and plants outside. Finally, the use of cold violence. Many women are indignant in the face of their husbands' cheating, and they take it out from time to time. In fact, if you talk too much, men will be annoyed. Say something that shouldn't be said, whether it's good or dirty with him and Xiao San, you are an outsider, you haven't participated in it, will he listen to your comments there. Learn to shut up, learn to face daily life with a smile, eat and drink when you should eat, do yoga, and be very busy and fulfilling every day. When you find the attributes behind a man, you will no longer look around for sustenance, and you will no longer be trapped by love. You probably know what's wrapped in a man's shell, it's not a big deal!You're liberated from now on!Leave time and space to him to reinvent himself. When he transforms himself, you will also cultivate a better version of yourself!Women had better remember what Yishu said: It is impossible to rely on others in life and want to be respected by others. When something happens, you have to accept it. Accept its bitterness, its gloom, its thorns. It will always pass, your flowers will bloom, and life will slowly embrace you. May you be clear-minded, unreserved, and have a great time in this life!