We often hear that "love is blind", but sometimes, it's more of a Xi trap. My brother is a living example of this. He had been in a relationship with a good-looking girlfriend for three or four years. On the surface, this girl is every boy's dream: as a graphic model, she is always dressed in fashion, and every time she appears, she brings new surprises. But the story behind it is a different story.
It was only during the half-month that we went to Chengdu to bid for a project that I really saw the other side of their relationship. Almost every day, I could hear them arguing. Reason?I can only guess. Until the critical moment of bidding, my brother had to pick up his girlfriend's **, and came back with a blue face and didn't say a word. At that time, I found out that it was his girlfriend who asked him to buy rabbit heads and send them back.
Rabbit Head!On the day of our important meeting!This is not a trivial matter, it is a clear red flag: the girl is not only selfish, but also lacks basic respect and understanding. Her demands and attitude cost my brother dearly: he had to abandon our project, which meant so much to him.
Afterwards, I had a deep talk with my brother. He described the experience of the past few years: his girlfriend's unreasonable demands, unreasonable consumption, and even the use of installments to buy an expensive watch for her father. I asked him in amazement, why did he endure all this?His answer was simple but profound: "Xi it."
That's what I want to sayXi。Many times, we endure unreasonable treatment in a relationship, not because of love, but because we are Xi to the presence of the other person. We are afraid of change, of losing the comfort that comes with the relationship, even if that comfort is built on constant compromises and sacrifices.
So how do we avoid this "Xi trap"?
First of all, it is necessary to recognize,Love should not be the price of sacrificing one's own dignity and happiness。If you find yourself repeatedly compromising in a relationship, sacrificing self-worth and happiness, then the relationship may not be healthy.
Secondly,Communication is key。Don't be afraid to express your feelings and needs. If your partner doesn't respect your feelings, then it could be a sign to consider ending the relationship.
Finally,Know your own worth。Everyone deserves to be respected and loved. Don't lose sight of your own worth and happiness just because you're Xi to someone's presence.
Love is wonderful, but it should never be a sacrifice and endurance. Recognizing this, we can truly avoid being emotionally kidnapped and have a healthy and happy love relationship.