Children are always procrastinating and procrastinating, such things should be in many families, not only getting up in the morning, but even when accompanying the children to write homework, they always look at this and touch that, there are a lot of small actions, always drag the homework that can be completed in an hour to three or four hours to do, and a lot of time is wasted......Recently, there have been many mothers in the group who have talked about this topic. 
1. Arranged family
When the child eats hard, the parents feed the child;When the child's things are thrown around, the parents follow behind the butt to clean up;If you don't want to take a bath, your parents will wring a hot towel to wipe your body ......
This kind of arranged approach is tantamount to telling the child:It doesn't matter if you don't do these things, someone will do it for you. In such a vicious circle, children will form a dependency mentality and have poor autonomy.
2. I simply don't like to do certain things
If your child is vigorous in doing something he is interested in, but when you ask him to do something, he does his best to do something, it means that he may really not like to do certain things, or he may not be interested.
Parents insist that their children do it, and the child does not want to do it, so he can only choose to procrastinate or perfunctory.
The following three methods are worth learning from.
Let the child bear the natural consequences
If you don't rush it, you'll be late, it's too late, and the meal is cold......”
Sometimes parents are always too worried about the consequences of their children's friction, but growth itself is a process of trial and error, and we must also appropriately let children take their own responsibilities.
Mrs. Sterna, a famous American educator, had such a story when she was educating her daughter Winifret.
One day, the daughter and Mrs. Sterna agreed to go to the movies together in the afternoon, but the daughter had a good time with her friends and came home half an hour later than the agreed time.
But Mrs. Sterna did not get angry, but said calmly: "It's too late, our plan to watch a movie has been ruined, it's a pity!."”
Vinifret took this lesson to heart and has been punctual in everything he does ever since.
Everyone needs to take responsibility for their own actions, and when children are too abrasive, give them appropriate punishment.
Replace urging with praise
Teacher Fan Deng once said that his son Dudu was never late for school.
Every morning, as soon as the alarm clock rings, push him, and Dudu will get up to wash up and eat breakfast, no need to rush at all.
And these all originated from a compliment from Teacher Fan Deng when Dudu was two or three years old.
Once, Dudu showed that he was not late, and he said, "Dad, let's go out early, don't be late." ”
At this time, Teacher Fan Deng stopped and praised and affirmed him, saying:
Dudu, you know what, your behavior is great, you are very punctual, punctuality is a very good quality. People in this society like to deal with quality people, and your behavior is very popular. ”
Since then, he has fallen in love with punctuality.
Everyone is born with a nature of rejection when it comes to the rebuke of others, and this is true, and even more so for children.
So,A praise at the right time is far more effective than repeated urging and scolding during rubbing.
Encouragement and recognition afterwards.
When children are brave enough to try, even if they fail, they should be encouraged, and the encouragement and recognition of parents is the courage and motivation for children to move forward.
Whether children are procrastinating and love to rub is mostly related to the correct guidance of parents.
When parents begin to respect their children, many habits change;When parents have more encouragement and recognition, children are also more positive and confident.
The sooner parents guide their children to manage their time and adjust their own learning methods, the stronger their children's learning advantages will be.
I would like to share with you a set of books that teach children to learn time management, "Watch at School" series.
This set of 8 books is suitable for children in lower grades, and corresponds to key issues in children's learning, such as how to manage their time and how to complete homework easily.
Who stole my time" guides children to arrange their time reasonably and not to do "little procrastination".
This book can help children easily understand what going to school is all about.
Writing homework is no longer difficult for me" tells children that writing homework is actually very simple.
I'm not afraid of exams" tells children that by doing so, they can get good grades.
A set of 8 volumes, ** is not expensive, but it can cultivate children's time management skills and become excellent children.
Through humorous and imaginative stories, the book adds appropriate fairy tale colors to real life, and tells the story to the hearts of children.
While reading the story, the book also proposes many practical ways to teach children how to manage their time and how to better complete their homework ......
This set of extracurricular reading materials imported from South Korea can help children quickly adapt to school life, develop good study habits, and develop good time management habits from an early age.