Along the way, Aunt Li witnessed the joy of her son's marriage and family, and also experienced the role of a mother who took care of her daughter-in-law, and became a caring mother-in-law in the baptism of years. Her journey is like a delicate movie, which not only shows the warmth and harmony of the family, but also reflects the endless dedication and love that she and her husband have for their son.
Looking back on her son's growth process, Aunt Li seems to have returned to that era full of hardships and challenges. At that time, the family was poor, and she and her husband worked together to give their son a better future. They gave up countless rest hours to devote all their energy and resources to their son's education. Whether it is the lights in the middle of the night, or the rooster crowing before dawn, they have witnessed their hard work.
After countless sleepless nights, they finally ushered in the harvest season. My son has not only achieved remarkable results in his studies, but also shined on the road of entrepreneurship. With the spirit of hardship and hard work and the quality of filial piety, he walked out of his own path step by step. Today, he is married and has a happy family.
However, Aunt Li gradually realizes that her son's merits may be just wishful thinking on her part. Although she has always loved her son, she has also shown love for her daughter-in-law. In terms of weddings, bride prices, etc., she met the requirements of her in-laws, and even gave priority to her daughter-in-law during pregnancy. However, when her grandson was born, she found her son's household registration book by chance, which made her heart cold.
Aunt Li recalled that she was 47 years old and in good health. Although her career has achieved some success and her family is quite successful, she is going to have a second child at an advanced age. This decision was not made because of the career, but because the son and daughter were surprised not to say goodbye when deciding on the surname of their grandson. In her opinion, this is a big deal, but she has not been given the opportunity to be consulted and consulted.
Aunt Li recalled her concern for her daughter-in-law, she didn't like her daughter-in-law very much, and felt that she pursued her children's material things. Although family background is important, she still cherishes her hard-earned money. During her pregnancy, she gave money every month, with the intention of asking someone to take care of her, but her daughter-in-law chose to rely on her mother. Despite this, Aunt Li still took care of her daughter-in-law wholeheartedly during confinement, and even gave the child an extra two months.
In the end, the mother-in-law said that she wanted to take the child, and Aunt Li also chose to leave silently. However, in the process of packing her luggage, she found her grandson's household registration book, which made her feel sad. Faced with this fact, Aunt Li did not quarrel with her son, but just left silently.
When she got home, she shared it with her husband and decided to welcome a new life. Although this decision was opposed by her husband, Aunt Li persevered and underwent a medical examination to prove that she still had good fertility conditions. This time, her decision was not to be angry, but because of her persistence in family relationships and disappointment in her son's behavior.
Didn't the daughter-in-law and her family come for our family's property?My son was fascinated and followed his daughter-in-law all the way, and I could only ignore it. When the news of my pregnancy spread, my mother-in-law was admitted to the hospital due to physical discomfort, but my daughter-in-law asked me to go over and help take care of the child, and her tone was like calling a nanny.
I rejected her outright. Then my son and daughter-in-law came back with their grandchildren to see my husband and me, but their theme was still to ask me to come over and help with my grandchildren. This time I gave them a reason and told them that I was pregnant and that I couldn't help them with the baby. I also added that they are worried that this child will not be a burden to them, because the family's house and savings are for this child, and we will also count on this child in the future.
I said to my son, "You got married and started a family, I paid the bride price, held the wedding, bought a wedding house, and fulfilled my responsibilities for free." Your dad and I don't need you to worry about it in the future, and don't expect us to help you. The son froze for a while before he said, "Even if you don't want a son and a daughter-in-law, don't you want a grandson?""He felt that the care I had given to my grandson should continue. I smiled and replied, "Is it my grandson, or the grandson of your father-in-law's family?" ”
These words made my daughter-in-law understand the reason for my refusal, and the daughter-in-law immediately said that it was just a surname and advised me not to count too early. She also said that if I really mind, they can have a second child, and let the second child follow my son. The son explained that when he first got married, he actually wanted the child to take his surname, but the daughter-in-law's parents insisted that the first child take the mother's surname, otherwise they would not agree to the marriage. The son said that he was too anxious to get married at that time, so he agreed, thinking that it was not a big deal.
I can't help but laugh, isn't this a big deal?Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but if I really don't have any other intentions, why would the second character of my grandson's name be my son's surname?Why at home, in front of me, the grandson never called even the surname once?Isn't this obviously afraid that I will find out, that things will be revealed?If I hadn't stumbled upon it, they wouldn't have let me help according to my character, I might have been kept in the dark.
When my son and daughter-in-law saw that I didn't agree to have the baby, they began to use the excuse of worrying about my health, saying that I was 47 years old and that advanced maternal age was at great risk. I looked at them and laughed, knowing in my heart that whatever the reason, they were thinking about their own interests. I scolded them directly: "Whether you are worried about my body, or if the violation money is gone, we all know it."
Since I don't need you to take care of me anymore, what is there not to be satisfied with?"We have also created the conditions that should be created for you, and it is up to you whether the next days will be good or bad. Besides, I want a second child, and it has nothing to do with the two of you. "No matter how they persuade or apologize, I am unswerving, in short, I must give birth to this second child.
After learning about this, my relatives and friends also began to persuade me not to worry too much, they said: "If it can't be done, let my son change the child's surname back, don't be too nervous." "Some people are worried that others will think I'm cold, and that my son and I can't get into trouble like this. But I don't think there's any problem, I've been kind to my son and daughter-in-law, since they don't even discuss such a big matter with me, and they don't treat me as a family at all, so why do I pay too much attention?So, I want a second child, am I really wrong?
I don't think there's anything wrong with that. After all, I have given a lot to my son and daughter-in-law, but they don't even discuss such a big matter with me, which makes me feel excluded. In this case, why should I be too memorable?
In addition, I am not without other options. I could choose to give up the idea of having a second child, but why should I give up my rights in order to make others think I was good?I believe that everyone has the right to decide their own life, and I have the right to decide whether or not to have a second child. So, it's not wrong for me to have a second child.