Dongmei's mother is undoubtedly the wisdom in the whole play. This veteran revolutionary provided Song Chunli with unique wisdom and vision, and she perfectly interpreted the role of Dongmei Ma in the original work with her excellent acting skills.
I have written several related articles about Dongmei's mother. Looking back today, I find that there are many secrets hidden in her last words towards the end of her life.
When the leaders of the provincial party committee and the municipal party committee came to visit Dong Mei's mother, Dong Mei's mother used 6 consecutive rhetorical questions to pave the way for what she was about to say:
My husband and I, we dare not think that we have made any contribution to the party and the people, is there always hard work?Until the day I was ** by the party, my husband was loyal to the party, right?I haven't complained about my husband being ** killed, have I?I only have one daughter and only one son-in-law, and my son-in-law is hardly able to progress politically through my hard pull, right?As a party member, my daughter didn't cause trouble to the party, right?I knew I couldn't cross this hurdle, and was someone like me qualified to make a request to an organization that wasn't personally personal?
Every word she said was true, so the leaders of the provincial and municipal party committees gave positive answers.
Subsequently, the senior management of the municipal party committee asked her if Zhou Bingyi and Dongmei had encountered some problems in work and life
What family she mentions doesn't have a problem?She said, "Since my husband and I got married, we have been working outside the home, and my husband is responsible for the family affairs alone." For their personal problems, let them deal with it personally. He once again warned Dongmei that no matter what kind of problems she encountered, she should not lend a helping hand to the organization.
Dongmei's mother said these words out of deliberate consideration. Before the leaders entered, they were all worried that she would make too demanding demands. Dongmei's mother was also a leader, she doesn't like others to use her power to do things, and she knows that the intentions of the leaders are the same as when she was younger. She thought that her child was already in elementary school, and if she made another request, she would definitely attract some people's disgust, and even think that she was taking his money. Therefore, she first shared the contributions she and her husband have made in the past, so that they can understand that even if they make a request, it is still right.
But then, she once again warned Dongmei that no matter what happened, she couldn't ask the organization for help, which made the two leaders feel reassured. "You're a good employee. Only then did she reveal her true intentions.
If it weren't for the influence of the Cultural Revolution, she might not have married an ordinary worker's home, nor would it be a simple worker's home. But considering that her only daughter and son have been married, the relationship between them is still deep. As a mother, even if you feel regret, you can't forcibly separate them. She was worried that her in-laws would come to her because of her troubles. She had never seen the door of her in-laws, and she had never seen her in-laws and mother-in-law before her death. As for the son-in-law's younger brother, she has never seen it either. Now that she is also dying, she suddenly wants to do her best to prove that she is still human. ”
It is not an exaggeration for Dongmei's mother to make such a request, and she explained in detail the real reason why she has not set foot in her in-laws' house for many years. She said that she was an ordinary rural girl, she had no siblings since she was a child, her parents both worked in the city, and she and her younger siblings lived in the city. Her life is coming to an end, and she is eager to realize the potential of her relatives and fulfill their duties.
Dongmei's mother's suggestion was agreed, which allowed Zhou Bingkun to return home early and spend a New Year reunion with his family. Her real intention in taking such actions was to hope that her daughter's future married life would be more satisfying.
The reason why Zhou Bingyi is good is because he loves his family deeply, only when his family is doing well, Zhou Bingyi will become better, and when Zhou Bingyi becomes better, Dongmei will also become better.
The old lady had lived her whole life in a very clear mind, and she knew that the relationship between relatives always hurt each other and shared the honor.
Although she has always adhered to her principles and kept her distance from the Zhou family for many years, she did not attend any funerals even after the death of her father. She knew that her life was destined to be forgotten. Despite this, she is determined to complete this last task for the Zhou family at the end of her life.
Dongmei's mother revealed the inner pain that the three of them had hidden for half their lives at the last moment of their lives.
Zhou Zhigang revealed the deep pain in his heart at the last moment of his life.
Although Zhou Zhigang is satisfied with Dongmei, he has an antipathy towards the marriage. He once told Zhou Bingkun that his eldest son Zhou Bingyi has performed well since he was a child, and Zhou Bingyi has always been a leader among his peers from primary school, junior high school to the Corps, and then to Peking University. He thinks this marriage should be very happy!However, such a brilliant son was considered inferior because he married the daughter of the governor.
Zhou Zhigang does not feel that his son is inferior, and he believes that the biggest difference between Dongmei and Bingyi is that their fathers are different, Dongmei's father lives in a small building, while he and his family live in two rooms. He credits it all to his father, who gave him a place to live. Due to his limited abilities as a father, there was nowhere to live in the family, so the son had to move to his father-in-law's house and live a life of revival.
During that Chinese New Year, Dongmei's father broke his promise because he was unwell, and the secretary brought back the gifts they had sent before. Although Zhou Zhigang expressed tolerance and understanding on the surface, in fact, he was very concerned deep down.
Zhou Zhigang is not overly sensitive, but this matter involves the dignity and image of the entire family, and he chose not to mention it, but this does not mean that he will forget.
Subsequently, he gave birth with Zhou Bingyi, but Zhou Bingyi deceived him and claimed that he could not give birth, which made Zhou Zhigang's mood even heavier. He knows that his life is not good, but he still wants to be a good husband so that his son can have a happy future. He was already very uncomfortable because his son lived in Dongmei's house, and now his son can't have children, which will make his son's status in Dongmei's family even lower, and he needs to live according to other people's wishes.
That time, Zhou Zhigang, who has always been tenacious, shed tears for the first time, he felt sad that his son could not become a father in his life, and at the same time regretted his son's future status in the family.
If Dongmei's father was unable to attend because of that unexpected incident, then in the next two decades, Dongmei's parents had every chance to visit many times, but sadly, they never showed up again.
For Zhou Zhigang, this is also the most unbearable pain in his heart, because the two in-laws live in the same city, and it is incomprehensible that they have not interacted for 20 years. In the past two years, his son got married, and he realized his mistake. However, Zhou Zhigang knew that this incident was also a deep pain in his son's heart. The son had divorced his daughter-in-law before he got married. He didn't want this incident to pose a threat to the marriage of his son and daughter-in-law, so in the last moments of his life, he said that to his son.
Zhou Zhigang expressed his previous confusion to Zhou Bingyi, but as time passed, he gradually realized that their family and Dongmei's family did not belong to the same social class. If they don't come, it's the right choice, otherwise even if they do, there won't be anything to say, which will make the situation even more awkward.
Zhou Zhigang still thought about his son and daughter-in-law at the last moment of his life, and was afraid that his son would be angry with Dongmei one day in the future because of this incident. Therefore, he told his son that he had let go of his past grievances and emphasized that everyone has a life of their own.
At the end of his life, Zhou Zhigang still deeply hoped that the children's future would not have any regrets, but in fact, no one can claim that he did not have any regrets in the last moments of his life
This kind-hearted elder, at the last moment of his life, confided in his inner pain that had been hidden for 20 years, and left alone with regrets. His sons and daughters were sad. He didn't realize that many years later, his eldest son Zhou Bingyi really had a fierce dispute with Dongmei because of this matter, and the two even mentioned divorce.
2. Zhou Bingyi revealed the inner pain that he had hidden for half of his life through three different arrangements.
Many years ago, Dongmei angrily said that there was a misunderstanding in this matter because her parents failed to attend and the secretary gave the wrong gift, and asked Zhou Bingyi to clarify it to the people of the Zhou family.
Zhou Bingyi made it clear that there was no misunderstanding in this matter. Dongmei's parenthood was placed there, there were too many people giving gifts, and Dongmei's mother was so busy that she could only hand over the gifts to the secretary to deal with. The secretary didn't know that the tea was taken by Zhou Bingyi when he took the gift, and Dongmei's parents and the Zhou family knew about it, so there was no misunderstanding about this matter.
Dongmei mentioned that Zhou Bingyi felt inferior again. They believe that children are always bullied at home, but they are always welcomed outside. Zhou Bingyi was also frank, he said that he had also had deep reflections, but then the facts showed that the problem was not his inferiority, but that Dongmei's parents were too arrogant. However, this arrogance is not their fault, but is due to the difference in status and existence between the two sides.
Zhou Bingyi and Dongmei shared everything frankly. Both of them need to conscientiously fulfill their respective parental duties.
At that time, Zhou Bingyi's heart was not affected by the social class, because he had just entered the palace of marriage, and he still maintained a certain bookish atmosphere for society and life. He feels that he is a very ordinary person and nothing remarkable, so he doesn't care about any status, status and other issues in marriage, and just cares more about family life. However, as Dongmei's parents gradually gave him some advice and casual guidance in his career, Zhou Bingyi gradually felt his value and importance.
In the TV series, due to Cai Xiaoguang's incident, Dongmei's parents' faces became very ugly. From that moment on, Zhou Bingyi built a huge gap called "class" for this marriage in his heart.
Zhou Bingyi is a well-mannered person, he inherited the character of his mother Li Suhua, and he will show a bright smile in front of anyone. People like him usually keep important things in their hearts, and in daily life, he also hides his thoughts well. That night, he suddenly said that he was going to find his father. Although Dongmei didn't notice it, as his father, Zhou Zhigang had insight into his son's heart, so at the last moment of his life, he repeatedly emphasized that he had let go of the past.
What kind of person is Zhou Bingyi?
He understands that the reason why his father does not speak is because he is afraid that he will be in trouble, and he understands that his father always mentions Dongmei's mother in the last moments of his life, hoping that he will no longer dwell on the past.
Although the father could choose not to be careful, as his son, he was unhappy with his abilities. If he really has the ability, is it really possible that Dongmei's parents will not be a member of his family for twenty years?He deeply felt that this was the shame he brought to his parents, and it was he who caused his father to leave with regret at the last moment of his life.
At the moment when his father left, among the three children of the Zhou family, Zhou Bingyi felt deep sadness. Although Zhou Rong and Zhou Bingkun were very sad, their hearts were just reluctant and they had no regrets. For Zhou Bingyi, the death of his father is undoubtedly the deepest pain in his heart.
First of all, as the eldest son in the family, Lin Lao failed to leave a child for the Zhou family, although his father did not say it explicitly, he knew that this was also a regret in his father's heart.
Secondly, Dongmei's parents have never visited her in the past twenty years, which is not only a regret for her father, but also a regret for himself.
Third, after my father died, there were still only two dilapidated houses left in the family. As the eldest son in the family, he was the pride of his father, but in his later years, he did not provide a good place to live for the elderly. Fourth, his father is always working overtime at work and has no time to take care of his mother and sister, his life is difficult, and he wants to give himself a chance. This incident is the biggest regret in his heart.
What his father said to him and his two siblings in the last moments of his life made him understand that he was the most unacceptable person for his father. Although his father thought that he should do good deeds for the people as a **, Guoqing's father froze to death outside because he had no residence.
Zhou Bingyi was very heartbroken about his father's sudden death and various regrets when his father's life was about to come to an end. Therefore, when Dongmei asked if she should let her mother come over, Zhou Bingyi did not hesitate to refuse directly. "I don't want to see this happen, and if you don't agree, then it's just that I'm wrong!"In his heart, if he hadn't seen each other for the past twenty years, why did he behave like this in the last moments of his life?
He rejects Dongmei's words, and although he seems calm on the surface, he is actually full of dissatisfaction inside. The same is true of his attitude towards her. He doesn't even allow Dongmei to keep vigil, urging her to go home as soon as possible and telling her that you still need to work tomorrow!
However, when he turned his head, he asked Zhou Bingkun to tell Nan Nan to come back, because in his mother's heart, Nan Nan was her eldest grandson, and hoped that Zhou Rong would tell Feng Huacheng to come too.
Zhou Bingyi ordered Nan Nan to rush back from Beijing, and at the same time let the divorced Feng Huacheng rush back from France, but let Dongmei, who was close at hand, go to work. How did he choose between two men?The three plans formulated by Zhou Bingyi revealed the pain hidden in his heart for half of his life. He refuses in the gentlest way possible and keeps a close distance from those around him. He replaced indifference and ruthlessness with warmth and thoughtfulness to Dongmei. In the depths of Zhou Bingyi's heart, he never really regarded Dongmei as his wife. For Dongmei, he is just a like-minded companion.
Dongmei's parents did not come to the door, which was the last regret of his father's life, and this regret was the pain in his father's heart. Zhou Bingyi has kept this regret deep in his heart for nearly 20 years, and when he returned from Beijing, the emotional outburst between him and Dongmei also confirmed the inner pain that he had hidden for many years after his father's death.
3 Dongmei's mother left such a last word at the last moment of her life: kill three birds with one stone.
Dongmei's parents are a group of old revolutionaries who came out of the rain of bullets, and they only have Dongmei's daughter, so they naturally have their expectations for their future son-in-law.
However, they never expected that their daughter would marry a worker's child, and that she was born in a light word piece**.
Before meeting Zhou Bingyi, Mei's mother had a repulsive attitude towards him. But when she met Zhou Bingyi, she was attracted by his handsome appearance and decent words, especially the bookish temperament that emanated from him, which made her view of him change dramatically.
As time went by, every time after dinner, Zhou Bingyi would have an in-depth conversation with her, and her various behaviors and mannerisms at home made her have a better impression of Zhou Bingyi.
Hearing that Bingyi gave up the opportunity to transfer jobs for Dongmei, everyone was deeply grateful to him. Subsequently, because Zhou Rong wanted to intercede for Cai Xiaoguang, her request fell on their heads, which made them feel very unhappy.
Cai Xiaoguang is a good friend of his son-in-law's sister, and they hold the power given by the party, mainly for the benefit of the people, not for personal selfishness. If there is such a relationship between them, the relatives in the future son-in-law's family, including the seven aunts and eight aunts, will be willing to lend a hand
The most unbearable thing for them is that someone covets power in their hands. They think that if someone beats his wife, his wife will be angry and even hit him. Therefore, they don't do anything and don't do anything, and simply treat it as if they don't have this in-laws, and they don't come and go, which is the best way to reduce trouble.
Dongmei's mother never expected that her son-in-law and his family really didn't ask for her help again. As she grew older, she began to realize that her behavior was a little unkind. This is also the first time that when Zhou Bingyi went to Hayang to serve as mayor, she confessed her heart to Zhou Bingyi, saying that she had never violated the principles of the organization in her life, but she felt deeply guilty for not going to Zhou's house.
At that moment, despite Zhou Bingyi's tolerance and understanding, Dongmei's mother knew that certain things were like fish bones, and once they took root in her heart, it would be difficult to remove them.
Mama Mei knew that her life was coming to an end, and she felt the need to take out the thorn from her son-in-law's heart and make a clear explanation for him. She didn't want her son-in-law to be upset by this, and she didn't want her daughter and son-in-law to be unhappy because of it. Therefore, at the last moment of her life, she made a request to the organization, that is, she hoped that Zhou Bingkun would be able to return home early.
Dongmei's mother has made a request to the organization with her and her husband's life's hard work, and she is well positioned to use these opportunities to create a better future for her daughter and son-in-law. But she didn't do it, she just fought for Zhou Bingkun's right to go home as soon as possible and provided the Zhou family with a chance to reunite. For the Zhou family, such an opportunity has become quite a luxury.
Dongmei's mother showed Bingyi through her true behavior that she had long regarded the Zhou family as her in-laws in her heart. She said, I shouldn't add any more burden to their family!If it weren't for that, she wouldn't have forgotten to intercede for her brother in the last moments of her life. "I am a member of the Communist Party, and I want to satisfy the party. This is the only application she has ever submitted to the organization for personal reasons in her life.
This is not only her position clearly stated to the Zhou family, but also reflects her inner feelings at a deeper level.
Dongmei's mother is very wise, she knows that this incident is the unspeakable pain in the hearts of Zhou Bingyi and his son, and it also reflects her guilt and regret over the years
Now, she is about to leave, and she does her best to intercede for Zhou Bingkun, not only for her son-in-law and daughter, but also to make up for the guilt in her heart, and to make up for the regret when Zhou's father died many years ago.
Dongmei's mother knows that the fulfillment of life represents a bright future, and unsatisfactory is the norm, but she hopes to create a perfect tomorrow for her children before leaving.
For every parent, it's their deep love for their child!