Dongmei's mother called Zhou Bingyi into the room, took the newspaper and asked him if the matter with Olya was true or false.
Zhou Bing** explained that his time in the Soviet Union was too difficult, because he was anxious, he drank a lot of wine, and as a result, he was sent to the hospital with stomach bleeding, and Olya was his attending doctor, not only curing his illness, but also giving him a lot of comfort.
Because the last approval was not completed, Zhou Bingyi began to worry again. When Olya found out, she took him to see her grandfather. Olya's grandfather came forward and solved the problem for Zhou Bing**.
After the fact, the day before returning home, Olia had a family banquet at her grandfather's house Zhou Bingyi, and she would also do her best to thank you. At that time, both of them had drank, and this scandal began at that time.
Dongmei's mother asked him earnestly: Why do you have to be at Grandpa Olya's house when you are traveling?She has no home alone?Didn't you get married in your thirties?
Under Dongmei's mother's repeated interrogations, Zhou Bingyi was a little overwhelmed. He paused and said, "Let's get a divorce."
Dongmei's mother understood everything, and looked at Zhou Bingyi and said:
Wouldn't you have been able to mention her without this report?That's right, say what should be said, don't say what shouldn't be said, and say it selectively. To be selective about what is clever is to be able to achieve the goal and be truthful in every word. Therefore, sometimes telling the truth is not necessarily the truth.
Zhou Bingyi tried to tell the truth on his own grounds, but the newspaper did not tell the truth. Dongmei's mother waved her hand to stop it. Ask him if he really has feelings for Oliyah
Zhou Bingyi was speechless again.
Dongmei's mother looked at Zhou Bingyi seriously, and poked her heart every sentence:
She is young, beautiful, capable, willing to help you, and capable of helping you. You're not saints, you're human, you're still a human being. If you want to encounter this kind of thing in the future, you must give yourself a bottom line, and you are not allowed to misfire if you wipe the gun.
In fact, the newspaper recorded that Zhou Bingyi kissed deeply with Olia in public. If hugging and kissing are foreign etiquette, deep kissing is an act that only exists between lovers. It can only be done where the love is strong.
Dongmei's mother, who has come over, understands very well that Zhou Bingyi not only had an affair in terms of spirit, but also betrayed Dongmei in terms of behavior. In other words, any mother-in-law who knows that her son-in-law has betrayed her daughter may be furious and seek justice for her daughter. Some people with a bad temper may make trouble with their son-in-law at the first time, and then persuade their daughters to divorce their son-in-law.
But Dongmei's mother didn't do it, not only did she not make trouble, but she also didn't force her daughter and son-in-law to divorce, but also analyzed the whole thing from Zhou Bingyi's point of view, and also proposed countermeasures to Zhou Bingyi, and instructed Zhou Bingyi.
Dongmei's parents are **, Zhou Bingyi went to the military factory to be the secretary of the party committee or recommended by Dongmei's mother, a mother-in-law who completely crushed her son-in-law in all aspects, and after reading the truth about her son-in-law's affair, she not only defended her son-in-law in front of her daughter, but also helped her son-in-law resolve the follow-up troubles of the matter. Is her performance too anti-human?
When I watched the TV series for the first time, I felt that Dongmei's mother was like ordinary parents for her daughter. When I watched the play for the third time, I realized that Dongmei's mother's practice hid her hidden pain that was not known to the world.
1.Dongmei's marriage to Bingyi is the most painful thing for Dongmei's mother.
That year, Dongmei's parents were ** and scattered in these two places. Dongmei, who has been lost for a long time, doesn't know if they are still in the world. She was made into the black five category because of her parents' problems, and her acquaintances were afraid of causing trouble, so they stayed away from them one by one. It was Zhou Bingyi's family that made her feel warm, so Dongmei married Zhou Bingyi.
Dongmei's parents rehabilitated Zhaoxue, only to know that their daughter married the son of a worker, and she was open-mouthed, but she was actually unwilling.
It's not that they're snobbish, it's just that every parent wants their children to find a good partner and get married happily.
At that time, Zhou Bingyi was the incompetent son-in-law in the eyes of Dongmei's parents. His father is an old third-line worker who goes out to work all year round. Mom works on the street and has no salary. Zhou Bingyi is just an informed cadre of the Corps, although he was later admitted to Peking University by his own efforts. However, a provincial governor's daughter and a worker's son are not a class at any level.
Although Dongmei's parents don't look down on people, they all live in the real world, and they also hope that others can ask about their in-laws, and proudly say that what their in-laws do and what their son-in-law does.
Dongmei's parents think that it is human nature, but in fact, things fall on the heads of each of us, and there must be such thoughts. After all, it is human nature to crave beauty. Although we also understand that in many cases, the desire is often something different from reality.
The ideal is beautiful, but the reality is cruel. This is true not only today, but also in any era.
Every parent wants their child to find the best partner possible. Every parent also expects a son-in-law or daughter-in-law to have a good family background, good looks, and talents, and to have all the good things. Dongmei's father is the vice governor, and her mother is the chairman of the Provincial Women's Federation, and it is not an exaggeration for them to ask their only daughter to marry their son-in-law.
Therefore, as soon as they heard that their son-in-law was the child of a worker in a light word, Dongmei's parents couldn't accept it. But they were still old revolutionaries after all, and they were relieved soon after the initial pain. They knew that if it weren't for Zhou Bingyi's family who gave her warmth and encouragement to her daughter in the most difficult time, it would be difficult to say whether they could see her after they came out, so after a period of dissatisfaction, the two expressed their deep gratitude to the Zhou family for not abandoning Dongmei when they were in trouble.
However, everyone has it, and knowing that the truth is like this, there is always a sense of sadness in the heart. Dongmei's parents are like this. On the one hand, they are heartbroken, and on the other hand, they are grateful to Zhou Bingyi.
Dongmei's mother convinced herself: as long as it is her daughter's good thing, they don't care about anything. But in my heart, Dongmei's marriage to Bingyi is my own hidden pain. She thinks that both of them are sorry for their daughters, otherwise, according to her family conditions, it would be impossible for Dongmei to marry Zhou Bingyi as his wife, let alone be the daughter-in-law of a worker in the light word film.
Dongmei's mother felt heartache for her daughter, and she regretted that her daughter got married because of her relationship with her husband. If the two hadn't fought the rightists back then, if Dongmei had been living beside the two, how could she marry Zhou Bingyi because of lack of love?
Dongmei got married, and this was the first time that Dongmei had a dull pain in her heart. She regretted it very much, but she was quite happy to see her daughter, and she slowly accepted Zhou Bingyi from her heart.
Later, Cai Xiaoguang's incident made her dissatisfied with the Zhou family, she and Dongmei's father were honest for life, disdainful of others using the power in their hands, they hated such a man. Because their daughter opened and closed her mouth, the two were not easy to hurt Dongmei, so the two helped Cai Xiaoguang deal with it. But since then, she and Dongmei's father have consciously drawn a line with Zhou Bingyi, and the two hope to use this kind of estrangement and indifference to make Zhou Bingyi retreat from the difficulties and no longer have too much demand.
But she didn't expect Zhou Bingyi to give them two cylinders of tea, and said that her father specially brought back special products from Guizhou. This made her angry, she didn't lack anything at home, and she didn't want to have anything to do with the Zhou family because of this.
But the daughter has to say that she looks down on the Zhou family, if the Zhou family is as good as them, they may have already recognized this marriage.
The maintenance of her daughter in her mother-in-law's house caused Dongmei's mother to think deeply, and she thought that her daughter's mood should be taken care of, so she discussed with Dongmei's father to visit Zhou's house again. What she means is to eliminate the differences between the two families, so that her daughter can do better in the Zhou family, and not make her daughter in a dilemma.
Originally, everything went well, but Dongmei's mother didn't expect that Dongmei's father suddenly fell ill, and Secretary Huang gave the wrong gift again, which not only failed to achieve the goal, but deepened the gap between the two families, and she and Dongmei had a fierce conflict.
2.The tea incident is the most guilty thing for Dongmei's mother.
Because Dongmei's father suddenly fell ill, Dongmei's mother asked Secretary Huang to go to Zhou's house to give gifts on their behalf. It turned out that the secretary asked Zhou Zhigang for the two tubes of tea that Zhou Zhigang gave to Dongmei's parents.
The Ban Oolong incident made everyone in the Zhou family uneasy. However, they still maintain their proper manners and manners on the surface.
In the face of this move of his in-laws, Zhou Zhigang was very uneasy in his heart, but he couldn't find the reason, and his pain was aimed at himself. He understands that he can't be angry with Dongmei. But I can't face up to Dongmei's problem, I really don't know what to do. So he comforted Dongmei back first, and urged Bingkun to wash his feet and drink water, and also told Zheng Juan to go and rest. It's clear that it's a send-off.
Dongmei is not stupid, for the sake of Zhou Zhigang's inner pain, she is very uncomfortable in her heart, and she wants to explain it clearly, so she said:
Dad, secretary, he didn't know what was going on, it must have been something he had decided to take with him. Mom and Dad were in the hospital at the time, literally.
But before she finished speaking, Zhou Zhigang interrupted her:
I know that in such an environment, your parents will also think about our family, and I am very touched. Hurry back and get it all understood.
Zhou Zhigang comforted his daughter-in-law, knowing that it was not Dongmei's fault, if he wanted to say that it was wrong, it was that he was incapable. But the more he did, the less steady. She wanted to continue to explain, but was pulled out by Zhou Bingyi.
Zhou Zhigang is the mother of Dongmei, and he can still miss his own home in that environment, but we can understand his attitude towards this issue through his dialogue with Zhou Rong. He told Zhou Rong that all this was due to his desire to send these two tubes of tea on a whim, which caused everyone to be miserable. If he doesn't give it, Dongmei's parents won't ask for the gift back. will not go to Zhou's house to visit the door, and there will be no bad intentions in the future.
Dad was very uncomfortable, and Zhou Bingyi didn't get much better, when Dongmei asked him to explain the misunderstanding to the family. He said yes, your father suddenly fell ill and was sent to the hospital, and your mother asked the secretary to deliver things to our house, and the secretary didn't know that the two barrels of tea were sent from our house. I took it back again, your parents know this, and my parents also know it, where is the misunderstanding?
There is no misunderstanding, there is only a gap. The gap objectively exists, and it cannot be eliminated in any way. The problem of the governor and the big problem of ordinary workers are not at the same level at all.
Dongmei understands that Bingyi has a very important eye on her family, and now that the people of the Zhou family have lost face because of this, what will Bingyi's heart think, Dongmei clearly understands. Zhou Bingyi, who originally thought that he would have trouble with himself because of this, did not expect that he would analyze the problem from his own perspective and put himself in his own shoes. Dongmei was full of emotion.
Dongmei's mother saw that her daughter was displeased, so she went to the small room to check, and saw that the two tubes of tea were gone, and she said that she couldn't say it well, so she called Dongmei to her and asked Bingyi's family to take a family photo, and asked the newspaper photographer to come for an interview. She hopes to make up for her debt to the Bingyi family. It shows their reverence for the Bingyi family.
Dongmei said mockingly, do you respect them?
Dongmei's mother said angrily
Your father is in this state now I still remember that things in their house are already very good dongmei is jumping in the sofa :
Then forget it, forget it is not like now!I just want you to respect from the bottom of my heart. You said that my father was from Jiangxi back then, and you are from Henan, and you have no news at all. I don't know if people are alive or not, but if it weren't for Bingyi and my family's unconditional acceptance of me, I wouldn't have survived at all.
For example, today you arranged for Secretary Huang to deliver goods to Bingyi's house, you are high, saying that there is wind and rain, have you thought about it, do you have all these arrangements, is it equivalent to emphasizing the distance between yourself and others to others?Why is this happening?
Dongmei's mother knew that this matter was inappropriate, but now, it was useless to complain, so she tried to remedy it, but she didn't expect to attract a big complaint from Dongmei.
She first experienced her husband's illness and panic this day, then rushed to the hospital, and today she reasoned with her daughter, and she was very tired physically and mentally. She waved her hand to stop Dongmei from continuing to speak, and wanted to go back to rest.
Who knows, Dongmei suddenly cried.
Mom, I like Bingyi, and Bingyi likes their family, you stumped me like this, you know?
The daughter cried so much that Dongmei's mother was very heartbroken, so she said that I will go to their house with your father next year to sit, or ask them to go home together?
If she had said this straightforwardly, there would have been no major conflict between mother and daughter in the future. But she thought that she needed to educate her daughter, so she talked about Cai Xiaoguang again. She thought that if she told Dongmei all this, Dongmei would understand the reason why they avoided the Zhou family.
But she didn't expect that her words made the anger accumulated in her daughter's heart finally burst out, and Dongmei shouted:
Excuses, everything is an excuse, I thought about the words you said two days ago very seriously, what do you mean to be most jealous of the idea of others attacking the power in your hands, Zhou Bingyi will probably have two people alone, and then three people. Their family is a grassroots people, including the seven aunts and eight aunts around them, one is counted as one, once it is over, it will be endless. But your right comes from the party, can you give them such a head?You'll never open that crack for them.
Mom, I came out of the countryside and dealt with the grassroots people in China, good is good, evil is evil, and my experience in the countryside alone has given me a lot of knowledge and the ability to distinguish between right and wrong that I can't learn in books. In my opinion, Zhou Bingyi's family is very kind and kind. But you, you look at people who are always not optimistic about the bad first, but look at the class!You are always wary of people who are below your status. I'm afraid that people will stain you!Use yours. But Mom, we are all Communist Party cadres, how can you put on those colored glasses to look at the grassroots people who recommended you to go?Let me tell you, it was very light to teach you before!
Dongmei's life was also very thrilling, she first realized that her father was sick and panicked, then looked at Secretary Huang's embarrassment when doing things, and then saw that Zhou Zhigang was not satisfied. She knew that what her parents did was a bit too much, she explained her intention to Bingyi, for fear of causing a misunderstanding, who knew that Bingyi knew her so well, not only did she complain, but also comforted her, which made Dongmei very moved. It just so happened that her mother talked to her about taking pictures, so she vented her inner dissatisfaction.
Dongmei was aggrieved for the sake of Bingyi's family, that was her love for Bingyi, but she not only said the wrong thing, but also ruthlessly. Because of this, he was severely slapped by his mother. That night, Dongmei's eyes were red from crying.
Dongmei's mother was also very angry and confused this night, just like Dongmei, she also experienced the anxiety of her husband when she was sick and hospitalized that day, and she sent Secretary Huang to Zhou's house on their behalf in a hurry, she thought she had done her best to be benevolent, but her daughter still did not give up. The daughter said too harshly, who is the person wearing colored glasses?Although she and her husband looked down on the Bingyi family, they never disrespected them. They have been engaged in revolution all their lives, and after so many years of official careers, they have just experienced catastrophes, and they are more sensitive to politics. They are refreshing in this life, and they don't want to ruin the world for the affairs of their son-in-law's family. Therefore, they deliberately alienate Bingyi so that they will retreat from the difficulties, so that everyone will not suffer.
Who knew that Zhou Bingyi still didn't speak, and this baby daughter turned her elbow around and shouted regardless of it. It was enough to yell and say the last ruthless word.
Dongmei's mother participated in the revolution at the age of nineteen and joined the party at the age of twenty, although they did their best for the party and the people for many years, at least they did their best, and now, their baby daughter actually said such a big rebellious thing, how can Dongmei's mother not be angry?
She angrily gave Dongmei a slap in the face, and regretted it after the deed, her daughter's crying voice fell into her heart, her heart was broken, and she hated to suffer for her daughter. When Dongmei was a teenager, she and her husband were subjected to **, ten years of catastrophe, and when they came out, Dongmei was already married. She always owes her daughter a debt in her heart.
That slap was ostensibly a slap on the head to Dongmei, so didn't it hurt my heart as a mother?So, she took Dongmei in her arms and said that Mother is sorry for you.
If Dongmei's marriage at the beginning was a big pain in her heart, then she slapped Dongmei with her own hands, and it became a hidden pain that she can never forget in her heart. She is a mother, but if a mother beats a child, in the end it will be more painful to be a mother than a child. Although Dongmei's mother is **, she is the same as every ordinary mother in terms of loving her children.
Dongmei just knew that her mother slapped herself hard in anger, but she didn't expect that the real pain in her mother's heart was **.
3.Beat the alert, Zhou Bingyi made concessions to his mother's love.
After Dongmei's mother saw the scandal between Zhou Bingyi and Alia, she did not get angry, nor did she order the two to divorce immediately. On the contrary, from Zhou Bingyi's point of view, help him think about the way out.
There are several reasons for this.
1. She knows that her daughter has a deep affection for Bingyi, and once this matter is exposed, the harm to her daughter will be even more serious. The daughter had several disputes with her own mother for Bingyi, which on the one hand shows her daughter's deep love for Bingyi, and on the other hand, it is also a clear proof that Zhou Bingyi treats her daughter well, so as to defend herself.
The daughter and son-in-law are in love, in addition to happiness, they only have blessings as mothers, and they also want them to live a good life and grow old together for a lifetime.
2. Grateful to Bingyi's family for not abandoning Dongmei but giving her daughter a warm home in the most difficult days with Dongmei's father. That's where she is grateful to the Zhou family. Dongmei can't have children, and then change to someone else, what is there to dislike, if others really don't like it, even if she has the skills to reach the sky, it is impossible for her to send a grandson to the Zhou family. What's more, Zhou Bingyi actually took all the heavy responsibilities of Dongmei's inability to be born into his arms, which shows that he is really benevolent and righteous for Dongmei.
The third is to consider reality and human nature.
Dongmei's mother knows that human nature tends to favor and avoid disadvantages, likes the new and hates the old. It is right to see people and see morality, but people to deny this person when they see what they are doing is too suspicious.
Therefore, she asked Zhou Bingyi if he had any true feelings for that Olia. She understood Zhou Bingyi from the standpoint of a man, but gave him a bottom line - wiping the gun is not allowed to go off.
Dongmei's mother has experienced a lot in her life, and she has also studied human nature thoroughly, and she knows that it is not a simple matter to make a man physically and psychologically faithful to a woman in his life. Zhou Bingyi split his legs this time, and so on, so that she had a chance, in the process of questioning, she always kept an eye on Zhou Bingyi, she could see that he felt guilty about what he had done, she understood that a person who wanted to be guilty was saved, so she decided to spare Zhou Bingyi's horse, and gave Zhou Bingyi a chance not to be for Zhou Bingyi, but only for his daughter Dongmei.
She knew that Zhou Bingyi had an affair and had to forgive herself, in addition to the above reasons, more importantly, because her mother made concessions in her daughter's love.
Mother's love is the most selfless and greatest thing in the world. How many mothers have given their lives for their children. How many mothers are compromised and forbearant for their children. Dongmei's mother is the same. She was willing to spare Zhou Bingyi for her daughter. However, she still had to be wary of him. She said that Zhou Bingyi could reply to Olya, but every time she replied, she had to let her see it, and she also cut off the chance of Zhou Bingyi and Olia's resurrection at the source. She is also very clear about her own approach, even if Zhou Bingyi agrees, she is still very uncomfortable in her heart. So she told him that all this was for herself, and she handed over all the advantages and disadvantages to Zhou Bingyi to analyze. Zhou Bingyi was convinced and agreed to her request.
Parents love their children and have far-reaching plans. There are three true hidden secrets, and she forgave Zhou Bingyi. All the starting points, only for their own daughters. However, in the end, she still has a kind of guilt in her heart for her daughter.
Dongmei's mother's bitter words were not in vain, and in the finale, Zhou Bingyi took Dongmei out on a trip, and Zhou Bingyi remembered what he said back then: Don't forget to be rich.
Dongmei said half-sadly and half-happily: You have succeeded, Zhou Bingyi!
Yes, don't forget. Life is as it first seems. Only with love will there be the best and most perfect appearance!
Zhou Bingyi fulfilled a promise to Dongmei, Dongmei's mother should be smiling Jiuquan.