"Dream of Red Mansions" Chapter 68:
Xing'er led the way until she reached the door of the second sister and knocked on the door. Bao Er's family opened. Xing'er smiled and said, "Go back to the second grandmother, the ** milk is here." When the Bao Erjia heard this, they left the true soul and hurriedly ran in, reporting to Second Sister You. Although Second Sister You was also surprised, she had already come, so she had to meet each other politely, so she hurriedly dressed up and came out. In front of the door, Sister Feng got out of the car and came in. Second Sister You took a look...Second Sister You laughed with her, hurriedly greeted Wanfu, and opened her mouth to shout: "Sister has descended, never far or near, I hope to forgive the sin of haste." So saying, he was blessed. Sister Feng was busy laughing and polite. The two entered the room hand in hand.
Second Sister You is really the so-called one who has the right to die. How? The family is different. Second Sister You really knows how to "meet each other with courtesy", and when she kneels down to worship Sister Feng, she says, "Grandma descends..."And when he didn't greet Wanfu, he opened his mouth and shouted: "Sister descends...""The word "sister" was also called by you? Call "grandma", you are a concubine, an aunt, this is "ceremony"; Called "sister", do you really think of yourself as a second grandmother?
You must know that the ** milk in front of you is the real second grandmother! Calling "sister" means that you think that you are on the same level as the real grandmother, and such a precondition is that Jia Lian "stops his wife and remarries" - I don't know what kind of "gift" this is? But where did the "meeting with courtesy" come from? In the sixty-fifth round, Second Sister You smiled at Xing'er and said, "I only treat her with courtesy, how dare she!" - Zhenzhen'er can be described as stupid, let me ask where your "etiquette" is? The daughter of a Han commoner, really doesn't know the strict etiquette of the Eight Banners clan? What kind of grandma is Grandma Feng? The grandmother of the Eight Banners family, the phoenix eyes stared at how many aunts and maids fell to the ground! Don't you look at Aunt Zhao? The etiquette of the Eight Banners family, the son of the servant family is promoted to be an aunt, or Mei Xiang worships the son - a slave! Second Sister You Ping'er saw her for the first time, and Ping'er was busy and came up to see her.
Second Sister You saw that she was dressed well and behaved extraordinarily, so she must have been Ping'er, so she hurriedly grabbed it herself, and only called "Sister, take a break like this, you and I are the same person." Sister Feng also got up and said with a smile: "Kill her!" The girl just has to accept the gift, she was our girl. Don't do that in the future. Sister Feng deliberately used this to test her level and understanding, but Second Sister You did not think about her innocence in saying this sentence herself. She thinks she is the second grandmother, and Ping'er is the third grandmother! According to her very stupid and naïve idea, Sister Feng called her "sister", she called Ping'er "sister", so Ping'er called herself "second sister" and called Sister Feng "eldest sister"? As everyone knows, the Eight Banners family has a clear distinction and strict etiquette, how can there be any second grandmother, third grandmother, and some aunts are equal to slaves, standing and waiting for the master mother to eat! Second Sister You's fundamental problem is that she didn't put herself in the right position, her small family was thin, and she didn't understand the etiquette and rules of the family.
It must be known that if she is a concubine or an aunt, then she does not pose a threat to the position of the main mother and grandmother. Even if Sister Feng died, it would not be Ping'er's turn to straighten out. It's good now, Jia Lian used the ritual of "stopping his wife and remarrying" to marry Second Sister You, which directly threatens Sister Feng's status and Sister Feng's vital interests! It is clearly written in the book that this is a "second room", this is the "polygamy" of "polygamy", this is not the "concubine" of "polygamy", and it is not the kind of aunt and concubine who stands and serves the master's mother to eat, drink, and Lazar. Chapter 64:
Jia Rong understood what it meant, so she smiled and said: "Since my uncle loves her so much (Second Sister You), I will be a matchmaker for my uncle, and I said how about being a second room?" ”
Since the ancient way of "wanting to make wisdom faint", Jia Lian only cared about coveting the beauty of his second sister, and listened to Jia Rong's words, so in order to calculate everything, he would have clothes on his body now, and stop his wife and remarry, and all kinds of inappropriate things about his father's jealousy of his wife were put out of the way.
Marriage is a complete rite of marriage, not a concubine. Chapter 64:
Let people look at the house, make jewelry, buy makeup for the second sister and use bed nets and other things in the new house. In just a few days, everything will be done early. I have bought a house in Xiaohuazhi Lane, two miles behind Ning Rong Street, with a total of more than 20 rooms. I bought two more little maids.
Here, Jia Lian and the others saw that everything was in order, so they chose the auspicious day of the third zodiac in order to marry the second sister.
Jia Lian directly catches the second sister "grandma" and knocks Sister Feng down. Chapter 65:
The more Jia Lian looked at it, the more she loved it, the more she looked at it, the more she liked it, and somehow flattered the second sister, so she ordered Bao Er and others not to mention three or two things, and called her "grandma", and she also called her "grandma", and she actually hooked Sister Feng down.
And don't think that Second Sister You is stupid and just follow Jia Lian OK, marry love, don't care if it's the second grandmother or aunt, the sixty-fourth chapter wrote, "Until the next morning, sure enough, Jia Rong came back into the city to see his mother, said his father's intentions, and added a lot of words, saying how good Jia Lian is a good person, now Sister Feng is sick, and it is no longer good, so she bought a house for the time being, lived outside, and after a year and a half, just waited for Sister Feng to die, and then took the second aunt into the main room. In the sixty-fifth chapter, he wrote, "Jia Lian moved all the ladders he had accumulated over the years with his second sister; He also told Sister Feng as a person and told her as much as she could, and when she died, she would take her in. When the second sister heard this, she was willing. "—Listen," the second sister listened, and she was willing"! Waiting for Sister Feng, who is seriously ill, to die, she will be taken in to be a genuine grandmother, how can Second Sister You not be satisfied? Of course, take advantage of your wishes and wait for Sister Feng to die! What kind of good bird is this? What kind of pitiful little white rabbit is harmless to humans and animals? This is a sharp sword hanging over Sister Feng's head, which can fall down at any time! Second Sister You's people are pitiful, gentle and submissive, and Second Sister You's matter is a proper heart-piercing arrow that kills people. Her sister You Shi married Jia Zhen to fill the house, which is a good example ahead. So why didn't she get this Qiao Zong'er and her second sister You? So this kind of person, Sister Feng doesn't tear up for the New Year?
In addition, Jia Lian "remarried" Second Sister You according to the model of "polygamy", which may have traces of the transformation of the flag custom from "polygamy" outside the customs to "monogamy and polygonal concubines" after entering the customs. Manchu scholar Ding Yizhuang, "Research on Manchu Women's Life and Marriage System", Chapter 2:
From the beginning of the Chongde period, the Manchurian royal family and its nobility had embarked on a process of transformation to monogamy, which was roughly completed in the early Yongzheng and Qianlong periods. The establishment of the status of the concubine reflects the uniqueness of the status of the concubine, which is a sign of the completion of the transformation of the Manchus into a patriarchal family.
The side room is mainly from the concubine, the condition is to have children, whether there are children or not has become the main or even the only difference between the side room and the concubine, so it seems that the side room has become the highest rank in the concubine and is no longer a wife. If the identity of the side room was not clear before, this custom in the Qianlong period should be regarded as evidence that the identity of the side room has been reduced to a concubine.
To sum up, the Manchurian aristocratic family has been transformed into a monogamous and polygamous Han patriarchal family since the Chongde period, and the establishment of the status of the wife and the transformation of the side room to the concubine have gone through a long process, but by the Yongqian period, only the clan family with a high title still retains the name of the side Fujin, although this title has existed in name only, it can also be regarded as evidence that polygamy once existed.
In addition to the relevant provisions of the Great Qing Law, no Qing emperors have been found to have issued an edict prohibiting the Manchus from practicing polygamy, and the Manchu rulers have never seen this problem as serious as the acceptance of stepmarriage, so in the Manchu people, the transition from polygamy to polyandry and polygonal concubines has gone through a longer process, as these cases show, and there are still relics visible until the end of the Qing Dynasty.
In Wen Kang's "Biography of Children's Heroes", it describes the tortuous marriage of An Ji, a man of the Yellow Banner of the Han Army. Although An Ji went through hardships, he finally got his wish and married He Yufeng and Zhang Jinfeng, a husband and two wives, with a happy ending. Wenkang Department of Manchuria inlaid with red flags, the grandson of the university Shi Lebao, the prosperity of the family in the early years, incomparable, in the later years of the family in the middle of the road, "there is no long thing outside the pen and ink, so this book is self-sending." Although it is fictional, it reflects the life that Wenkang envisions. The book was written in the Daoguang period, and the concept of polygamy has existed for a long time in the hearts of the Manchu people.
According to the study of Dingyizhuang, "from the beginning of the Chongde period, the Manchurian royal family and its nobility have embarked on the process of transformation to monogamy, which was roughly completed in the early Yongzheng and Qianlong periods. "The background of the rituals and customs of Jiafu written in the book "Dream of Red Mansions" is the Eight Banners family in the early Qianlong Dynasty. However, can it be considered so: Jia Lian selectively enforces the law, chooses the "polygamy" that is beneficial to himself, and "remarries" Second Sister You as a "side room" instead of a "concubine"; Of course, Sister Feng also selectively enforces the law, and chooses the "monogamous and polygamous concubine system" that is beneficial to her own customs and customs, and she must not tolerate that Second Sister You is a "second grandmother" instead of a "concubine".
In a sense, the conflict between Sister Feng and Second Sister You and the tragedy of Second Sister You are behind the inevitable conflict in the process of learning Xi Han customs and changing flag customs from polygamy to polyandry and polygamy. In particular, it can be noted that when the Manchurians enter the customs, there seems to be a so-called "pious fanaticism of converts", and the Han people are strict and have different etiquette and learn that they are ruthless, and the second sister You thinks that she should be a person commensurate with Sister Feng's sisters, but she doesn't know that in Sister Feng's eyes, she should be a person commensurate with Sister Ping'er. And Ping'er and Sister Feng, that is to compare the sky with the earth. So in a sense, it can also be said that Second Sister You died of information asymmetry.
If Jia Lian "remarried" Second Sister You, he smiled and said: "You have been here for a long time, and you are not afraid that you will not have an eight-seater sedan chair for you." Second Sister You sneered: "I don't want this. There is that blessing, but there is no such reason. ”
If Sister Feng came to Xiaohuazhi Lane, Second Sister You laughed with her, hurriedly greeted her, and opened her mouth to shout: "Grandma has descended, never far or near, I hope to forgive the sin of haste." So saying, he bowed down.
You can avoid death!
Answer: Still can't.
Watching "Dream of Red Mansions", I feel sorry for those daughters in the boudoir, and I am even more aggrieved by Sister Feng.
Sister Feng has been "pretending to be a man's upbringing" since she was a child, and she doesn't believe in any yin retribution, it should be said that the traditional "female virtue" is a fart for her, she is actually a modern woman who is ahead of her time in thought.
How much does she want? Is it excessive? Her values are not postmodern values, and they do not require the so-called "open marriage", Jia Lian can so she has to too, her values are really standard modern values of two people who love each other. All she wants is "willing to win the heart of one person, and the white head will not be separated", she can be wholeheartedly devoted to Jia Lian (the so-called flirting with her nephew and brother-in-law has no substance), so she thought that she could take it for granted that Jia Lian do the same to her. Who knows, this is not only impossible, but it is the political incorrectness of that era, and the "rumors" of that era are violating the "seven out" program of that era.
So she resented, her heart was full of deep resentment, she couldn't kill Jia Lian, she would kill all the women Jia Lian loved, even Jia Lian just loved the body like Bao Er's family, she couldn't stand it, not to mention Second Sister You, who Jia Lian loved from body to heart, I still feel pity? (Although Jia Lian's love is not as deep as Jia Baoyu's "lust", and it is not long-term, he likes the new and hates the old.) ）
Wang Xifeng's resentment was actually sent to the absolutely patriarchal society that suppressed women, and unfortunately Second Sister You suffered from the pond fish. Jia Lian married Second Sister You as an outer room ("stop his wife and marry again"), Second Sister You coveted the throne of Second Grandma You, and posed a substantial threat to Sister Feng in terms of position and interests, which of course will die; But if Second Sister You knows how to bow low and be small, and assume the position of concubine (instead of a side wife), then she can avoid death?Still won't.
Because she offended not only Lian's second grandmother, but also Wang Xifeng.