"There is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time"This proverb, in fact, has the second half of the sentence, revealing the reality of human nature.
China's language and culture are broad and profound, and have accumulated a lot of brilliant essences in the long history, such as the three hundred songs of broken branches and willows, the brocade embroidered heart raised by the Tang Dynasty, and the graceful Song poem "Tianjingsha Qiusi".
In addition to these poetic cultures, there are also many popular sayings among the people, which contain rich wisdom and have become the proverbs of the working people.
These sayings come in a variety of forms, involving natural climate, life Xi, witty stories and golden sentences that are deeply rooted in people's hearts, simple and clear, and contain simple experience.
For example: "The morning glow does not go out, the sunset travels thousands of miles", and "go out to dumplings and dismount noodles" and so on.
The former derives the weather** from life experience, while the latter deals with food traditions when going out and returning home.
These sayings are the crystallization of the wisdom of the predecessors, although they are in the vernacular, but they are full of truth behind them, and modern people should listen to the words of the old people, just like standing on the shoulders of giants to see the world.
There is a saying that "there is no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness", which means that the old man in the family is unable to take care of himself after a long illness, and it is difficult for his children to fulfill their filial piety responsibilities.
Filial piety is a traditional virtue worth following, why is there such a saying?
In fact, the reason is very simple, it is human nature.
A filial person will take good care of his parents, be responsible for their pension and medical care, and will also run to help his parents when they are critically ill. But if the parents are not in great danger and are just unable to take care of themselves, it will become a burden on the family.
It's a poignant statement, but it's true.
The great thing about parents is that they always think about their children, so when they grow up, they will pay more attention to their children. They also have their own busy lives, and the parents of the older generation have become embarrassing existences.
When children are young, their parents will work tirelessly to lull them to sleep, not caring about their uncontrollable excretion, but when their parents are old, they become "children" who need to be taken care of, while adult children take care of their parents' gradually deteriorating memory and mobility compared to their parents, and even dislike their excretion problems after they are bedridden.
In the process of blood inheritance, the love of parents is passed on to the next generation in one direction, just like an old tree gives all the nutrients to the seedlings, but it is drying up day by day. People don't care about the dead wood of the old dragon clock, only the lush new seedlings.
Because of this, life can be passed on.
Fortunately, now that the medical and pension system is becoming more and more perfect, as long as you have the ability, you can hire someone to take care of the patient. Therefore, the curse of "no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness" still has a chance to be broken.
However, there is actually a second half of this saying that is more heart-wrenching, and it is also classic: "There is no good wife in a poor family for a long time".
This sentence is easy to understand, because there is also a saying that "poor couples mourn everything".
Some girls marry without caring about their partner's financial situation and family background, but this kind of marriage that focuses only on love often produces many conflicts after the passion retreats after marriage.
In the event of a momentary crisis, the wife may be able to get through it hand in hand with her husband, but if there is no hope to see, she will only become irritable in the midst of trivial household chores.
Life is a heavy stress, and as the managers of the household, women are not able to cook with empty bowls. She could only learn to bargain with the petty traders, and bitterly laugh at her husband's inaction. My heart is also full of resentment, thinking that I saw the wrong person to marry here.
To make matters worse, some women may just leave. You can blame her for not having a conscience, but there's nothing wrong with her being just an ordinary person who wants to live a good life. In the final analysis, the economic base determines the superstructure.