At the college level, the student-counselor relationship has a crucial impact on the student's college life. Counsellors are responsible for handling a variety of student matters, such as time off, activities, scholarship applications, etc., which are involved in the daily life of students. Although the age of the college counselors is not much different from the students, and they may even be the "senior brothers" of the students, they have relatively high academic qualifications and rich experience, and it is very advantageous to establish a good relationship with the students.
However, some students have a contemptuous and dismissive attitude towards the counselor, believing that befriending the counselor is "sycophancy". If a student deliberately works against the counselor, causing conflicts and quarrels, it will be detrimental to the student himself. One counselor posted a chat with a student on the Internet, which sparked a wide discussion. "I bought a bus ticket, but I have an English class in the afternoon, counselor, when are you free, give me a leave note", the student made a leave request, not really considering the counselor's situation, but with an arrogant tone. The counselor also bluntly stated that the request for leave could not be approved. However, the students became angry and accused the counselors of being conceited and superior.
This kind of behavior of college students angrily scolding counselors after asking for leave without approval is ridiculous. The student clearly asked the counselor to approve the leave, but in turn asked the counselor whether it was great to be a counselor and why he was not allowed to take the leave. This logic is really hard to understand. Counselors have their own duties and principles and do not exist to please students. What's more, the student is buying a ticket first and then asking for leave, which is unreasonable in itself and does not take into account the feelings of the counselor.
The counselor also said: "If you tell me in advance, I will approve it." If the student informs the counselor in advance of the difficulty in purchasing tickets and explains their behavior, the counselor is likely to meet and approve the leave of absence. However, there is clearly a problem with the attitude of college students who choose to skip classes and try to get the counselor to "take the blame". Respect is mutual, and college students should start from the first premise of "respecting teachers" and get along with counselors with sincerity.
Good socialization with counselors in college is crucial. Counselors, although not attending classes, play a vital role in guiding students' professional knowledge and employment. At the same time, the counsellor is also responsible for managing the various affairs of the students, and the good relationship with the students will directly affect all aspects. Befriending a counsellor is not about sycophancy, but about being proactive and humble, treating the counsellor as a mentor and a friend.
First of all, students should maintain a low-key and humble manner. College students should not put themselves in a high position, nor should they think that the counselor is their own nanny, and they will be used to their own "princess disease" or "young master disease". Students should understand that respect is mutual, and that a good relationship with the counselor can only be built if you put yourself in the right position.
Secondly, students should take the initiative to communicate with the counselor. Counselors usually do not initiate contact with students, but students should reach out to counselors for questions and guidance. Counsellors are not only able to impart professional knowledge, but also give advice and help to students in their career pathways. Only by being proactive in communicating with a counsellor can you get more help and guidance.
Finally, students should know how to be grateful and reciprocate. Counselors are not only concerned about the student's academics, but also about the student's life and development. Students should be grateful and express their heartfelt gratitude for the help and care of the counselor. At the same time, students can also repay the counselor's care and guidance through their own efforts and growth, which can not only deepen the relationship with the counselor, but also add more opportunities for their own development.
In my opinion, the relationship between college students and counselors has an important impact on college life. Building a good relationship with a counselor is not only good for all kinds of issues, but also helps for the growth and development of college students. As students, we should understand the job responsibilities of a counsellor and interact with them in a sincere manner. At the same time, by being proactive in communicating with the counselor, we can get more help and guidance.
Counselors are more than just people who deal with chores, they play an important role in college life. We need to respect the fruits of our counselors' work and expertise, and understand their work pressures and responsibilities. Only by establishing a good teacher-student relationship can students develop themselves better and get more support and help. In their dealings with counselors, students should be humble and respectful in their interactions with them, and learn and listen with an open mind. At the same time, students should also take the initiative to seek help and guidance from the counselor, and repay the counselor's care and support through their own efforts and growth.
All in all, the relationship between college students and counselors is very important. Students should treat their counselors with humility, respect and gratitude, and establish a good teacher-student relationship with them. Only in this way will students be able to get more help and guidance to develop themselves better. At the same time, students should also be clear about their roles and positions, put their mentality right, do their own work well, and create more opportunities and possibilities for their own development.