Mood swings 46 days after cesarean section.
Forty-six days after my caesarean section, I felt a change in the perception of people around me. Although I was very relieved by my mother's arrival, I am now angry and unhappy. That morning, my aunt and her little grandson came to my house, and we were next door. Speaking of his sister-in-law's family, he said that his sister-in-law's daughter-in-law was teaching English classes at home recently, and each class cost 380 yuan a lesson. When I learned about it, my mother continued to say that she was reluctant to go to work or decompress my husband. I couldn't figure out how she could feel this way about me, even though we had agreed to take care of me, but she would come back once a day. My aunt was afraid that I would catch a cold while I was moving, so she told my mother not to let me take the food out of the fridge, but my mother thought it was nothing and was still arguing. Later, my aunt said that her daughter-in-law also had to do housework 100 days after giving birth, and I had no one to take care of me after just a month. As soon as I heard this, I was angry, and when I remembered that my mother-in-law still had work to do when she came back, my mother would come back every other day, watch the child by herself, and breastfeed the child alone. My mother would also praise others for how easy it was to feed, but even when she was sleeping next to me, I would stand up and feed the baby when it was hungry. Maybe in my mother's eyes, I was too sensitive, too emotional!After the meal, my mother said that she might not come back because of the cold weather. I told her not to come if anything happened, and we had a fight. She thinks I'm not speaking well, I think she's not speaking well. She said that if she had time, she could come to see us at any time, but she couldn't refuse her, and she felt that she cared enough about us. This is my true mother, and she will find fault with me whenever I want her company. Just now we said we were going out to eat noodles, and she took out 20 yuan, and then when I saw my aunt coming, she said no, and she threw it on the table, saying that it was for you, and it was clear that everyone would know that she would not cheat me. I don't understand why she had to be so deliberate.
Although the 46-day caesarean section was a difficult and bumpy process, I deeply felt that with this child, the feelings of the family would change. I realized that, in reality, when I had a child, I would no longer enjoy the care and attention I expected, and would be replaced by my own responsibilities and burdens. In this case, understanding and support are particularly important. I thought that it would be a luxury to spend 42, 56, or even 100 days in confinement, but I knew that I had to not only do more work, but also stand in other people's shoes and understand other people's difficulties. This experience made me realize that the line between love and hate is so subtle, and that hatred and anger can be formed in an instant. Everyone has their own responsibilities and responsibilities, and I also need to learn how to maintain Xi balance between the two and try to deal with problems in a peaceful and friendly way.
The vicissitudes and eternity of love.
Since I had a C-section, the relationship between the family has changed a little. He thought that at such a time, his family should take more care of him, but this was not the case. I was very puzzled by the way my mother treated me. She said she would take care of me for a month after I gave birth, but she didn't. Why did she leave when I needed her most?Will she realise that as a first-time mother, I am worried about what needs and protections my baby will have?She complained to me that she was going to do her duty, which frustrated me. I thought she would help me, but she seemed to care more about herself than about me. This change made me very angry and dissatisfied, and I also had a new understanding of our feelings. However, I also know that human feelings are very complex and volatile, and family feelings can sometimes get out of balance.
Giving birth to a child is a big deal.
It is our duty and task for children to be born into the world. In my opinion, I like my son very much, and I will do my best to help him. As much as I would love to receive more help and care, I also know that this is not something that anyone can do. As a mother, I have to learn how to Xi the fact that the status and responsibilities of husband and wife are different. Whether it's breastfeeding, daily living, or meeting the needs of the baby, I am responsible. It's a heavy burden, but it's also very happy and developmental.
Maintaining a good relationship depends on two people working together.
From this experience, I learned a truth: the relationship between people is maintained by each other. For the confusion and coldness of my family, I try to put myself in the shoes of others and understand their difficulties and emotions. Although I was sometimes angry and disappointed with what they did, I still chose to treat them calmly and rationally. In this case, only sincere and friendly communication can enhance the understanding of the other party and minimize misunderstandings and conflicts. It is important to respect others, understand their circumstances and shortcomings, and not blindly expect their care and support.
Introspection and development.
This experience inspired me to reflect and introspect about myself. I realized that as the external environment changes, my mood will also fluctuate, and when I encounter difficulties, I can easily fall into a negative state. Moreover, these emotions can have a bad effect on my relationship with others, as well as on myself and my children. Therefore, I am determined to control my emotions and face the difficulties and setbacks of life with a positive attitude. In this way, I can better face different environments, improve my emotional intelligence, and improve my interpersonal skills.
In short, when I had children, I could clearly see the different opinions of the people around me and how they cared for me. I learned about the complexity and instability of the family, but also the responsibility and dedication I have to the relationship. Although I have experienced some pain and loss, in the communication and understanding, I firmly believe that I can maintain a good relationship with the people around me and strive for the healthy development of the baby together.