That year, my mother was just 62 years old, she suffered from a terminal illness, she told me before she died: "Daughter, your brothers are unreliable, and your father can't make his own food, after I leave, you will take your father to live with you, and I can rest assured that you take care of his life!"”
I tearfully promised my mother that she could walk with peace of mind.
My father was a retired elementary school math teacher, he was more macho, he never did housework, every day his mother cooked for him, helped him do his laundry, he would wander around, play cards, and never worry much about things at home.
Even after my mother's death, my father handed over the matter to me and my husband Liu Chao, and he was only responsible for chatting with relatives and friends.
I also have a younger brother who is 5 years younger than me, he is the same age as his brother-in-law, they got married when they were 20 years old, but they never had children.
Both of them practiced Dinkism, and the younger brother and daughter-in-law often said: "I can't give my child a good life, I'd rather he not come to this world, otherwise he will suffer for the rest of his life." ”
My younger brother works as a security guard in a big hotel in the county seat, my brother-in-law does not go to work, and plays on the computer at home every day, and my brother's salary is only enough for the basic living expenses of two people.
The mother is gone, the younger brother is still messing around in the hotel, and the younger brother-in-law can't cook, so she eats instant noodles and orders fast food when she is hungry, and her father will definitely not be able to stay at home.
I said to my husband, "Do you agree to take my dad to live at home?"Anyway, our house is spacious, and he also has a retirement salary, so it shouldn't add much pressure to us. ”
Liu Chao also heard my mother's deathbed entrustment, he was a sincere person, and he nodded to me at that time.
After helping my mother with the funeral, Liu Chao personally invited my father to live at home.
The father has long been dissatisfied with his son and daughter-in-law, and when he heard his son-in-law's words, his father's eyes lit up: "Okay, good, I like to live there and play small cards every day!"”
My mother-in-law's house is on the edge of the county seat, and my family built a three-story house, because there is a vegetable market near our house, and there are more passers-by, so we opened a teahouse on the front floor of the ground floor.
Usually, the business of the teahouse is guarded by my parents-in-law, they boil water and pour tea, and many people in the neighborhood like to come to the teahouse to play cards.
After returning to her mother-in-law's house, Liu Chao told her father-in-law that we were going to take my father over to live.
My father-in-law is an honest man, he likes to play with flowers and plants in the backyard, and he lives his life simply, and he usually doesn't talk much, and when he hears our plans, he just nods his head to indicate that he knows.
The mother-in-law was very opinionated, and she said unhappily: "My father-in-law is a person who has a son, how can I let my daughter and son-in-law provide for him?"Isn't he confused?How much trouble it is to live in our home......”
I hurriedly said, "Mom, don't worry, I will take care of my father's diet and daily life, and I won't trouble you." Besides, my father also has a retirement salary of more than 4,000 yuan a month, which will not increase the burden on our family, and maybe he can help us a little. ”
Liu Chao also helped to speak: "Dad, Mom, father-in-law likes to play small cards, he comes to live in our house, and he can also help guard the teahouse and reduce your workload." ”
The mother-in-law said: "As long as I don't want to serve him, I'm afraid that he is a retired teacher and doesn't look at us rural people." ”
Liu Chao said: "My father-in-law usually smiles at people, and he won't be embarrassed, so you can rest assured, he came to live to add a pair of dishes and chopsticks." ”
Within a few days, Liu Chao and I went to my mother's house to pick up my father.
The younger brother and sister-in-law didn't care about their father's business at all, and when they saw their father move, their brother-in-law actually said, "Sister, I also want to move in with you, how good it is to have someone to cook and eat every day!."”
The younger brother also cheekily said, "Sister, can I go to your house for dinner after work?"”
I didn't bother to pay attention to them, packed my father's clothes, and went back to our self-built building.
I made up a room for my father on the second floor, and the beds were replaced with new ones.
Liu Chao also specially installed a TV in his room so that his father could pass the free time.
My father couldn't stay in the room, so he went downstairs to play in the teahouse after a while, and Liu Chao and I were a lot more relieved.
It should be a good thing that a father can entertain himself, come out of the shadow of his mother's death, live his own life, and also be able to adapt to the environment of his son-in-law's family
Liu Chao and I both work in a factory not far from home, and our son works in the city and does not live at home.
Every day when I get home from work, Liu Chao and I generally go to the kitchen to stir-fry and cook if they come back early.
Sometimes my mother-in-law will go to get food, but my mother-in-law is more frugal, and she is reluctant to put oil in the stir-frying, so the fried vegetables are not so delicious, so we often do it ourselves.
When my father came to our house, he basically opened his mouth for food and stretched out his clothes, and every day when he was hungry, he would shout for food and call me and his son-in-law's names loudly, and he would never just wait on the sidelines like my father-in-law.
My mother-in-law was so angry that she deliberately walked around the house to clean up, but she wouldn't really have anything to do with my father.
My father is indeed a strong person, he always loves to teach people, even my parents-in-law and mother-in-law. My father always felt that they were uninformed, and no matter what my parents-in-law did, he liked to interject and preach, showing that he was well-informed and proficient in everything.
My mother-in-law is usually a chatter, but she can't talk about my father. My father was not only unforgiving, but his eyes were also very sharp at that time, and my parents-in-law didn't want to provoke him, otherwise I would definitely be lectured by my father for a long time.
Sometimes I find it strange that a father has educated countless people, but he can't teach his own son well.
In the past, every time my father taught my younger brother, my younger brother always fought hard with him, so angry that my father grinded his palms, and my younger brother would not be outdone, picking up bricks and stones, and the two fathers and sons were tougher than the other.
Now that my father lives in my house, my younger brother often calls ** to find his father, and I don't know what they are talking about, but they don't quarrel.
My father-in-law later suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and lay in bed for several months, but my mother-in-law took care of me, and there was no one to take care of the teahouse's business, so I had to quit my job and stay at home.
At this time, I realized that guarding the teahouse is also a hard job, boiling water for the guests to make tea, and making tables for the players, often busy until late at night.
Not only that, but there are also a lot of chores in the house, such as grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, and cleaning.
I was so busy that I could barely straighten my back, but my father didn't care about my hard work, he sat at the table every day, and couldn't even lift the broom up, let alone help me with some chores such as boiling water and tea.
In the morning, we didn't have time to cook breakfast, so he walked to the breakfast shop next door to eat, and never bought a steamed bun and came back to make breakfast for us.
When my mother-in-law and I went to buy breakfast, we always had to prepare the amount of food for the family, but my father laughed at himself and said, "I don't know what you like to eat." ”
When I buy vegetables and cook at home, my father is not polite at all, and often says to me: "Don't always make those vegetarian dishes, I like to eat fish, eat meat, the elderly should supplement more nutrition, those experts say that eating vegetables is good for health are false, eat meat to make the body strong!".”
I said, "You are still a teacher, and you don't talk about scientific principles, you have to eat vegetables, you can't just eat meat, I don't have that much money to buy it!."”
Father smiled, but he wouldn't really pay for it. It stands to reason that his father's retirement salary of several thousand yuan per month, it is normal for him to pay some living expenses, right?
But my father always said: "The luck of playing cards these days is too bad, and my pension is going to be lost, it seems that I should wash my hands and retire in another way." ”
But my father had long been obsessed with playing cards, and he couldn't do anything when he didn't sit at the table for an afternoon every day.
Sometimes my father would whisper to me: "Alas, your brother asked me for money again, and they couldn't eat anymore, so I could only make up for them a little”
Over the years, my father has lived in my house and has never given us living expenses, and I am embarrassed to really ask him, otherwise outsiders will know, and they will say that I have an intention to provide for my father's old age, right?
But I also feel that my father has been living in my house for nothing without paying a penny, so he must still be sorry for my mother-in-law and my husband's efforts.
Especially after my father-in-law passed away due to illness, my mother-in-law relied on our family even more, and she gave us all the 100,000 yuan of savings left by my father-in-law.
So I always tell my husband, intentionally or unintentionally: "My dad likes to play cards, but he always loses money, but he will give me thousands of dollars every month for living expenses, and he doesn't live in vain." ”
My husband is a big man, and he doesn't take care of the family's accounts, he just smiled and said: "As long as he has fun and is healthy, we can't say anything about the money he spends playing cards, I'm worried that he always feels sorry for his son, and the two pension money on his body are also squandered by your brother. ”
I said, "Don't worry, my dad has medical insurance, and he can pay for it when he goes to the hospital." Now that he is in our family, he shouldn't spoil my brother like before, right?”
Although my mother-in-law is usually a knife mouth, but her heart is still not bad, she has always been heartfelt for her son and grandson, although she sometimes doesn't like to talk to my daughter-in-law, and she wants to talk to my father in front of me, but she said that it was okay, and she was still not idle all day long, running up and down to help me run the family's small teahouse.
My mother-in-law left when she was 74 years old, and she didn't get sick much, but she felt unwell two days before she left, and she didn't let us take her to the hospital, just saying that her deadline might be coming.
When my mother-in-law was dying, she said to me: "Daughter-in-law, this family will depend on you to maintain it in the future, Liu Chao is an honest child, you must not bully him." You are the mistress of this family, you have to think more about your husband and children, your mother's family is your family, but your mother-in-law's family is your home!”
I comforted my mother-in-law and said, "Mom, I know what you mean, I will take care of your son and grandson more and run this family well." ”
Hearing my mother-in-law's entrustment, I couldn't help but feel sad, and my husband cried like a tearful person. I thought to myself: I don't need my mother-in-law to say, of course I will take care of this family, after all, my husband and children will be my relatives who will accompany me for a lifetime!
My parents-in-law are gone, but my father's body is still strong, he has become the only elder in the family, and he likes to give orders and act arbitrarily.
However, no matter how strong the father is, the son is always his weakness. My brother and sister-in-law have never had a child when they are forty or fifty years old, and they still live a life of drinking and getting drunk.
I also once advised them that if they don't have children when they are young, then they must at least save a few dollars, otherwise what will they do when they are old?
My brother actually said, "Don't we still live in a house, and we can't move it in the future, so we will sell the house and go to a nursing home, otherwise I will give the house to my nephew and let him provide for us in old age." ”
I said, "Now my father can't rely on his son to support his old age, and you still want to rely on your nephew to provide for you?"I think you're dreaming!The two of you are also dozens of years old, you should plan for your future life, be diligent, and earn more money!”
But the younger brother and sister-in-law are both lazy people, and now the younger brother drives a second-hand car, goes out to run Didi every day, and goes home to sleep when he earns the living expenses of two people, and goes out to run when he has no money, their way of life is really embarrassing.
I almost didn't want to have any relationship with my brother and his family, but he still called ** often to find his father. Several times he said that he had no money to refuel, and asked his father to transfer him a few hundred yuan to refuel the car, otherwise he would not even be able to earn living expenses, and his father had to compromise.
That day, my brother brought a bag of apples to my teahouse, saying that he would leave it here, and that he had bought it for his brother-in-law, and that he would come and get it later.
In the evening, the younger brother did not come, and the father carefully brought the apple to his room, saying that it was to help keep it, otherwise it would be taken away in the teahouse.
I couldn't help but call my younger brother**: Dad brought your apple to the room, you have lived for dozens of years, and you have never bought an apple for Dad to eat, I think you don't want to come and take it this time, just leave it to Dad to eat, so that he can be happy again. ”
The younger brother was embarrassed to agree. I don't know if my brother will have a trace of conscience in his heart when he hears my words
My dad died when he was 82 years old, and a cold and pneumonia took his life, which made me understand that people can't be strong all the time in life.
My father has lived in my house for 19 years and has never left since he moved in, and my husband and I are responsible for all his daily life.
I think I am also a filial daughter, and I have lived up to my mother's trust when she was dying, right?
When my father left, he left me a new entrustment, asking me to help my younger brother and his family more in the future.
I already knew the outcome, and when I went back to my father's room to collect his belongings, I found his phone in the pocket of his clothes that he was wearing.
Looking at this familiar object, I felt infinite emotion in my heart, and it seemed that there was still a temperature on this mobile phone that my father's hands had touched.
I opened my phone and found that there were several unread text messages in it, all of which were bank transfer messages.
Two days before his father's death, he actually transferred 180,000 yuan to his brother's account in 6 installments!
I was stunned, my father actually hid it from me and left all his property to his younger brother, no matter how good his daughter and son-in-law are to him, he still only has his younger brother in distress, isn't this chilling?
I put my phone in my bag, but luckily this information was not seen by my husband, otherwise he would have held a grudge against my father in his heart, right?
I can't let this information ruin my husband's trust in me and ruin the harmony of our family.
I found my brother and said to him, "I have been supporting my father for 19 years, and now you should be the son to take care of his funeral, right?"”
The younger brother said: "Sister, the children should have a share in the funeral for Dad, why do you let me spend it alone?"”
I took out my phone and showed him the transfer record my father gave him, "That's it!".”
The younger brother was silent.
After a busy few days of sending my father up the mountain, we were finally able to go back to our respective homes to rest.
My husband inadvertently asked me, "Why haven't I seen my dad's phone all the time?".Was it destroyed together, I only bought it for him last year, can it still be used?”
I took my father's phone out of my handbag, handed it to him, and said, "Here we are!"”
But I was lucky in my heart, fortunately I found out early, and I had deleted the last few transfer messages sent by my father in time, otherwise the consequences would be unimaginable!