Men cheat, and most of them are in a state of mind that is played. Therefore, they are generally not easy to let the marital cheating blindly toss into their own home, once the marital cheating will cause the family to crack, they will choose to prevent inconvenience, lose the third party, perhaps that prerequisite, is the wife's mentality is decisive, if they meet the wife who swallows their anger, they will be willing to have a home, and have three children.
First, the scope of dating: When we want to end such love, we can make more friends, replace love with friendship, keep in touch with friends often, make 3-5 friends of the opposite sex, communicate more and relax, but we still need to pay attention to avoid one-on-one communication with the opposite sex Second, family life: Since we are going to end such a relationship, we must understand that family members are the most important people to ourselves, we can be with our families more, communicate more, do something meaningful together, and let our families have a sense of security. Try to create some relaxed and happy family atmosphere, and create opportunities to take the family out for travel and vacation, and deepen the intimacy between family members Third, restrain your feelings Don't abuse gentleness, don't comfort him (her) with excuses because he (she) encounters unsatisfactory things, he (she) must slowly learn to adapt to life without you, every time you come into contact, it will make the end of the relationship more difficult. Fourth, reduce but the opportunity to contact places: First, both parties to the extramarital affair must have a firm conviction and a clear attitude to decide to end this unfair relationship and avoid meeting alone. It's really hard to give up. When you meet, choose a place that is not easy to be ambiguous, or in public, treat each other as "buddies" and "friends". The content of the conversation is mainly limited to the care and greetings between friends and confidants, talking about work and study. Fifth, reduce contact, whether it's ** or **: extramarital affairs are not easy to break down completely. Even if you can control not meeting each other, contact is essential. The frequency of contact between WeChat and ** gradually decreased as much as possible, and the attachment to him gradually decreased.
If you want to break such a relationship, you must be ruthless to yourself, and when you do, you will break it, otherwise you will have endless trouble for yourself and the other party in the future. What to do if you can't extricate yourself from an extramarital affair 2 Expand the scope of dating: The generation of extramarital affairs, men and women will more or less gradually alienate their former close friends, colleagues and friends of the opposite sex, and decide to end the affair, you have to regain the friendship you once had, replace unhealthy love with friendship, often keep in touch with close friends in the boudoir, and have 3-5 friends of the opposite sex, communicate more, relax but still pay attention to avoid one-on-one communication between extramarital lovers, in fact, leave the small space between extramarital lovers, You will suddenly realize how vast the outside world is. Caring for Family Life: What is Home? It is a harbor, a place to recuperate, a gas station for life, and a power source. How important is a happy and relaxed atmosphere in the family for each of us? If you want to go home from an extramarital affair, you have to start by caring about everyone in the family, and you have to reflect on how long your parents, brothers, and sisters haven't been in touch and haven't seen each other? How long has it been since you hugged, kissed, or communicated with your lover? How long has it been since you cared about your child's studies? How long has it been since you did housework? Let's do it! Try to create a relaxed and happy family atmosphere, and create opportunities to take the family on trips and vacations to deepen the intimacy between family members. Reduce the opportunity to meet and avoid meeting alone: First of all, both parties to an extramarital affair should have a firm belief and a clear attitude, decide to end this improper relationship, avoid meeting alone, it is really difficult to give up, and choose the place to meet that is not easy to produce ambiguity, or in public, each other should treat each other as "buddies" and "friends" in their hearts, and the content of the conversation is mainly limited to the care and greetings between friends and confidants, talking about work and study. Or for the sake of a relaxed environment, you can joke with each other, ridicule and ridicule, avoid talking about emotional topics, such as saying "missing", and pay attention not to be cold when talking, try to maintain a relaxed and happy atmosphere, avoid long-term collision of eyes, and if you find that you can't control the situation, change the topic or end the conversation as soon as possible. Reduce contact, whether it is network contact or **contact: It is not easy to break the extramarital affair thoroughly, even if you can control not to meet, but contact is indispensable, WeChat, ** contact frequency as far as possible to gradually decrease, gradually reduce attachment to him, if the other party can't bear to give up, enthusiasm is not reduced, the best way is to be ruthless, do not reply or return less text messages, **set rejection, do not chat, let the other party cool down. Keep yourself busy: Most extramarital affairs are caused by loneliness, emotional loneliness, spiritual loneliness, the appearance of a person of the opposite sex who can talk and will care about people, and the relationship is inevitable over time. Therefore, when people are lonely, they will be overflowing with emotions, and the past will be in front of them one by one like a replayed movie, how can they give up? How can you give up? In order to forget this love, you must avoid loneliness, keep yourself busy, no time to be lonely, no time to miss, you can exercise, read, listen, but pay attention not to look at romance**, do not listen to love songs, avoid sadness, maintain a happy mood, know that life without him (her) is still wonderful! Improve the sense of responsibility: The "Marriage Law" clarifies the responsibilities and rights of both husband and wife, and no one can forget the rights, but the sense of responsibility gradually fades in trivial life, especially if the one in the family is a strong person, the responsibility of the family seems to have nothing to do with himself, everything is taken care of by his lover, and he does not need to worry about it at all, and the sense of responsibility is diluted.
It inevitably leads to an indifference to family feelings, and I see myself as the only responsibility to pay money for my family, and others.
It has nothing to do with it, it is this lack of responsibility that will lead to extramarital affairs, therefore, finding a sense of responsibility for the family and the lover is the main driving force for emotional return. There are no fatal problems in marriage, life is as plain as water, you meet a person who makes your heart move, reason and emotion dialogue, and your heart is entangled in every way. You also know that if the relationship outside of marriage continues, it will destroy your family, and if you are not careful, you may be doomed, and you should withdraw in time, but the strong attraction of the other party makes you like a demon and can't extricate yourself. We have met many of these clients who have lost themselves in extramarital affairs. The following ideas may be upside down, but they are worth savoring. In the short-lived affair, you think you are distracted, but in fact, all the symptoms of your falling in love only indicate that your spiritual world is controlled by hormones at this moment. This powerful attraction of opposites attracts is hormonal-dominant. At the beginning of a relationship, your brain will secrete a substance called phenylethylamide, which is similar to the effect of his life, and will make you excited and numb. It is precisely because of this hormone produced by the body that you yearn for him very much. You think you're tempted, but you're just emotional. In the study of love hormones, it has been found that most people who are deeply involved in extramarital affairs are in a dull period in their marriages, and their married life is not harmonious, and they yearn for romantic passion in their hearts. The tension and excitement of extramarital romance fills the passion of the parties in time. The person concerned is carried away by lust and does something that hurts his family. For people who are in an extramarital affair and don't want to hurt their family, and can't break the affair, how should they judge whether they are distracted or just emotional? There's a standard that can help you. Although love can be described in various ways, in the context of an extramarital affair, if you have known each other for less than a year, then you need to understand that most of the feelings you experience related to love are just hormones at work, and what you have is only a physiological condition, because the brain goes through the cycle of craving, satisfying, craving, and being satisfied, and then you think you have found true love.
In fact, this has nothing to do with love at all. As a science, psychology has long defined love. Love is made up of passion, intimacy, and commitment. Intimacy is a kind of comfortable, reassuring and trusting relationship that can only be developed by two people who have been together day and night for more than two years. In relationships that have known each other for a few months, you don't have time to develop intimacy because of the short time you have been together. You have neither intimacy nor commitment, just the freshness and passion that comes from the attraction of both sexes and the lack of getting to know each other deeply. What you think is love has only passion in it. And it is unwise for a person who treats passion as love. It is very important for you to be aware of this. Because your decision may be related to the fate of both families and determine the future of your children. What is real life, pots and pans, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, supporting the elderly, raising children, and dealing with all kinds of messy chores in the family, these are the real life. Second, seducing his wife, how do you know that there is a pair of **eyes behind him** focusing on the word "stealing", under the Romeo and Juliet effect, this feeling is very strong, and more hormones are released than the usual love passion, which leads them to feel that this is true love, even more! As long as it enters the death period, it means that this extramarital affair has ended in the heart of the cheating man, and the more the mistress is entangled, the more the cheating man wants to end it soon. Only when a woman instills her own man's incompetence and cowardice in an extramarital man, can the other party have the confidence to occupy the magpie's nest and treat her own man as a thing. Finally, one day, he had a showdown with his wife and neighbors and asked for a divorce. The wife threatened that if she divorced, she would let Jason never see her children in his life. The wife also claimed that her affair was all Jason's fault because he was too busy and neglected to take care of the family.
There is nothing terrible about cheating, and you can completely treat the other party's cheating as "another love"! Of course, the derailment here refers to the first and second stages. The real scary thing about cheating is the unshakable feelings that arise! Shock. Boomer called the best doctor for Kiki, and Kiki's condition improved, but it was never eradicated. Wukong and Bardos wanted to deliver food to Kiki personally, but this scene seemed to Kiki to be a serious injury to themselves, and they were directly angry and died, pitying Goku's original wife. That's all for today's sharing, if you want to know more news, tune in to the second season of WeChat *** Dragon Ball Super. But despite this, there will still be some people who cheat for various reasons, and they will also make their extramarital affair affectionate because of various excuses, but betrayal is betrayal, and hurt is always hurt, no matter how many reasons, no matter how many excuses, it is difficult to make up for the damage caused by their betrayal, and the consequences of betrayal are also difficult to recover, and the damage is also huge.
I don't approve of any form of cheating, and the most important thing in getting along with people is communication. Marriage is also a way to get along with people. Respect each other, care about each other, and cherish the people around you. Frequent overtime or business trips and derailment phenomenon 4: absent-minded However, what is outrageous is that after this incident was **, compared to the voice of the scumbag who scolded "Quicksilver", there were more comments on the Internet that supported Aaron.