Some people say: a woman's youth is fleeting, and the skin gives you only a few years of glamour, in addition, what you need more is the power that can continue to bring you elegance and tranquility throughout your life. ”
I think so. Flowers are not red for a hundred days, and people have no youth when they are young.
There is an eternal and immutable law in the world: the mountains will fall, and everyone will run.
At all times, managing oneself well is the highest level of security, and living oneself is the greatest happiness and freedom.
A smart woman is not fighting for skins and men, but for these 3 things.
Deepen your abilities
Yang Lan once said:"The greatest charm of a woman is to have her own financial independence, not to rely on her parents, not to rely on men, and to fight for what she wants. ”
Being independent doesn't mean you don't need companionship or relativity with the world.
But it is clearly aware that long-term happiness depends on one's own hands and minds, not on the charity and gifts of others.
As Melinda, the ex-wife of Microsoft founder Bill Gates.
Before getting married, Melinda spent 5 years earning a double degree in computer science and business administration from Duke University, and then worked her way up from an intern to a product general manager.I remember that there is a saying that says:Although she returned to the family because of her children after marriage, she never became a wealthy man, but after giving birth to her second child, she resolutely returned to the workplace.
Later, when she found out that Gates had a problem, she found a top lawyer and decisively ended her 27-year marriage.
After the divorce, she did not complain or need sympathy, but still focused on her career and became a domineering female president in seconds.
Bill Gates recalls Melinda with praise in and out of his words:
She is a truly equal companion".
A woman must have the ability to live a good life by herself, and things that others can't steal, such as thinking, such as happiness.
No matter what situation you are in, don't ignore your own abilities, don't stop moving forward, every little bit of effort is to accumulate strength and security for the future.
Only by soberly and working hard can you be the master of your own life.
The heart is strong and calm
Carnegie wrote in "Be a Woman with a Strong Heart":
"When a woman has a strong heart, she becomes fearless and full of positive energy;A noble and beautiful soul is one who has a heart that cannot be easily destroyed. It's like the splash in "Mountains and Seas".Only when the heart is strong can a woman be calm and not shocked in life. ”
At the best age, Shui Hua was forced by his father to marry someone he didn't like.
After the marriage, the husband broke his legs in an accident and was unable to work.
Through the screen, you can feel the despair of the splash.
However, instead of complaining and Xiao Chen, Splash began to change.
Despite her husband's objections, she took her husband, children, and all her belongings on a cart and traveled for seven days and seven nights to the resettlement site, where she began to grow mushrooms under the guidance of experts.
After all kinds of difficulties and hardships, her husband changed his prosthetic leg and got rid of his wheelchair, and his life became happier and happier.
The world kisses me with pain, but I repay it with a song.
There is no woman who doesn't want to be a princess, but there are too many helplessness in life, they can only go head-on, to bear, to be strong.
It's like Splash said:
"If you want to be unpitiful, you have to fight for your own strength and run towards hope. ”
Heaven helps those who help themselves, and those who save themselves by fate.
A strong heart is not only the capital to dance with fate, but also the greatest confidence for a woman to live a good life.
The courage to dare to be "selfish".
I've heard this passage:
"The reason why many women suffer in their relationships is because they only know how to blindly cater to each other, cooperate with each other, and live according to what the other person wants. ”
However, the more selfless a woman in her relationship, the easier she is to be ignored, and the more likely she is to suffer bitterness and suffering.
This is the "unspoken rule" in relationships:
The more you give, the less you are cherished.
It's like Melly, the heroine of the TV series "Your Marriage Is Not Your Marriage".
Because of her family, she gave up the opportunity to study abroad and became a housewife.
She thought that as long as she took care of her family, everything would be happy.
But it turned out that this was not the case.
She takes care of her two children by herself, and she is exhausted every day, and not only that, but she also has to take care of her mentally impaired father-in-law and do all kinds of household chores.
When the children are older, she wants to return to the workplace and let her husband share the housework together, but her husband decisively refuses, saying that taking care of the family is her responsibility as a housewife, and accuses her of not being too selfish.
Excessive selflessness is the greatest cruelty to oneself.
reminds me of a dialogue in the movie "Dog Thirteen":
"Look, that girl is so sensible!”Many times, compromises and concessions will only make life more and more aggrieved and difficult.How do you know if she's scared, silent, compromised?”
And those women who are not so sensible in their relationships and dare to be "selfish" often live a chic and free life.
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Wang Xiaobo said: If I can shine, I will not be afraid of the dark, if I am so beautiful, then all fear will disappear. ”
No one is born smooth, but at every crossroads choose to be true to themselves, and gradually become firm.
The most important thing in a woman's life is never who she is with, but no matter what circumstances she faces, she never forgets to cultivate herself, maintain her inner calmness, and the courage to dare to be "selfish".
The paradox is that such a person, no matter who he is with, will be very happy.
May you be such a woman, even in the face of the breakdown of life, still fearless of wind and rain, create infinite possibilities for your destiny, and always walk proudly, contented and progressive, gentle and firm.
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