Tens of thousands of people cried don t marry my dad , why is the culture of hating dads becoming m

Mondo Culture Updated on 2024-01-31

If straight men have "original sin", then the father's "original sin" is now more serious, and the father seems to be getting more and more "bad".

The traditional Chinese father figure is hardworking, resolute, silent, and silently giving, and today's father seems to have becomeViolent and cheating on him, drunk, lazy, daddy, irresponsiblesynonymous with .

Hello everyone, I'm Brother Feng, and in this issue, I'll talk to you about how the "Father's Original Sin Theory" came about.

In March of this year, there was a **swiping screen on Douyin, and a blogger posted a neighborhood**, and the host interviewed passers-by and asked them".What do you want to say to your 18-year-old mom?These young people have said something like this in front of the camera:

For a while, the comment area exploded directly, and in tens of thousands of messages, it was full of hatred and criticism for my father, and "Don't marry my dad" became a hot stalk, which quickly spread on the Internet.

Not only on the Internet, but also showing the father as the culprit of the unhappiness of the original family has become a prominent science of contemporary literature and art.

Hello, Li Huanying".Jia Xiaoling attributed all the pain of herself and her mother to the incompetence of her worker, her worker, Jia Wentian.

When he appeared and said that he was just a boiler worker, Jia Xiaoling immediately disdained, and at the same time said disappointedly, "It's the boiler burner!."”

The father's humble status and low status caused the failure of his mother and his own life, so after traveling back to 1981, Jia Xiaoling did not hesitate to abandon her biological father, tried her best to match Li Huanying and the factory director's son to marry, and even risked her own disappearance, trying to rely on a father change to change her life.

Wrapped in a warm coat, there is still such a cold-blooded and cruel side.

When the film was released, the promoter made a topic called "If you talk to your mother when you were young", and almost all women wrote in this topic: ".Don't marry my dad

Some people hope that their mothers will keep their eyes open, some people think that their father is good, but "you deserve better", and some people advise "Mom, pick more".

This is almost no different from the Douyin comment area, it seems that everyone says that the female perspective will usher in a wider world, it is better to change it to another sentence, as long as the father hangs on the wall, all problems will be solved, and life will become infinitely better.

Oh, to correct it, it should be to hang the failed father on the wall.

If Jia Xiaoling's extreme utilitarianism gave birth to a freak who betrays human nature such as "killing his father", thenMore movies are showing fathers and even men as a whole, as the ** of all the disasters of women.

In the movie "My Sister", the men around the heroine are all bad guys, and the father, as a representative of the stench, is a symbol of tyranny and authoritarianism, and his authority is based on the violence of "stir-fried meat with bamboo shoots" (spanking).

The younger brother is a drag oil bottle, not only is Fira unbearable, but also enjoys his father's love alone;Although the boyfriend is not bad, he is useless and is a mother's treasure, and the uncle is even more obscene, and he even peeks at himself taking a bath, and the uncle is a gangster who only knows how to play mahjong all day long.

If you think that movies are spicy enough, then reality is more of a dramatic sublimation.

Under the wave of "awakening", some people not only want to completely stigmatize their fathers, but also try to erase the role of fathers from genes, such as the concept of "biological father", which is very imaginative and creative, and directly breaks through the limits of civilization and ethics.

You may think that this statement is too *** and has no lower limit, but I will tell you that these concepts are all ***, not invented by these extremists.

In the 80s, there was a popular root-seeking literature in China, which is to find one's ancestors, the first of civilization, Mo Yan was a leading figure in this regard, and he put forward a concept called "national superior roots".

What does that mean?Mo Yan thinksThe current national problem is the result of the decay of the healthy national culture in the past, and the mutation from "good roots" to "bad roots".

In Mo Yan's most controversial work, "Breast and Buttocks", this view is deeply reflected.

*, Mo Yan divides his father into two types, the Shangguan father and son as a miscaste, and the Sima family man as a hero.

Shangguan Fulu and Shangguan Shouxi, the two fathers of the bred race, are also a pair of father and sonThey are two dying seedlings in the "experimental field of human race" and must be exterminated.

The Shangguan family has eight daughters and one young son. Their mothers are all Shangguan Lu, but Shangguan Lu is not a person who abides by traditional women's morals, because the males who inseminate him are varied, including bandit spies, Jianghu Langzhong, dog butchers, relatives, monks, defeated soldiers, Swedish missionaries, ......

The eight daughters, as the mothers of the second round, were once again united with new males, including bandits, mutes, Kuomintang, progressives, American pilots, and more.

But as the heir of feudalism and the only only son of the Shangguan family, he died tragically under the bayonets of the Japanese devils without leaving a single child. He is extinct, and in Mo Yan's fable, this is the extinction of feudalism.

Shangguan Lu said, "The people of the Shangguan family, like leeks, die one stubble at a time, one stubble at a time, there is life and death, it is easy to die, it is difficult to live, the more difficult it is, the more you have to live." The more you are not afraid of death, the more you have to struggle to live. I want to see the day when my children and grandchildren come to the water, and you will all fight for me!”

Mo Yan conveyed a point of viewAlthough the women of the Shangguan family are all hard-working people, none of them are of a bad breed, but the men of the Shangguan family are useless, so it is natural to be eliminated.

He himself said, "Actually, I'm a feminist. I feel that women are greater than men, and this is clearly expressed in my writing "Big Breasts and Fat Buttocks". At major historical junctures, women always show that they are stronger than men. Men are destroyers, women are builders.

Good guy, this fist style is too strong and fierce for ordinary people to catch.

But Mo Yan does not despise men in general, he admires the men of the Sima family as heroes, but what are they people, they are not bandits, bullies, and the head of the homecoming regiment, Sima Ting is the chairman of the landlord maintenance, Sima Ku is a reactionary officer of the Kuomintang, this group of people is also very patriotic, they are anti-Japanese pioneers, and they are national righteous soldiers.

The seventh sister begged her brother and said, "There are villains among the poor, and saints among the rich. ”

I don't think Mo Yan should pretend, just change it, the poor are treacherous, and the rich have a long conscience, this is probably what he wants to express.

In fact, Mo Yan and Lu Xun both like to "find their roots", but the way they deal with it is very different.

For characters like Hua Laozhuan, Kong Yiji, and Ah Q, Lu Xun adheres to anthropocentrism from the position of a "psychiatrist", believing that the misbreed is also a human being, which can help and be transformed.

And Mo Yan is more ruthlessWith the position of "heaven and earth are not benevolent", he put people and all things on an equal footing, and the good species will be left behind, and the bad seeds will be eliminated.

From a practical point of view, in the hunt of neoliberalism, it was Lu Xun who lost and Mo Yan who won.

Now the so-called "go to the father and keep the son" and "biological father" are all left over from Mo Yan's play, and it is recommended that extremists read Mo Yan more, maybe they can create a little noun shock for us.

Today, people like to denounce "daddy", the so-called daddy taste is male power and patriarchy, so is this because women are awakened?Of course notDaddy is actually done in the conspiracy of feudalism, capitalism and imperialism.

The improvement of women's status in New China is different from the process of the West, it is not fought for by the feminist movement, but the result of the Chinese revolution, which is arranged by a series of socialist systems.

After the completion of the socialist transformation, a series of public-owned economies were established in urban and rural areas, with the rural areas mainly people's communes and the cities mainly state-owned enterprises, and this unit system protected women's rights and interests.

Even if women do not go through the struggle for "equal rights between men and women" in the Western social sense, they immediately obtain the status of equal pay with male employees for equal work, and even include many benefits, such as maternity leave, marriage leave, menstrual leave, etc.

The unit system does not recognize the natural superiority of men, what men have, women also have, what men can do, women can still work. As a result, the status of women in business and social life has been greatly improved.

With the collapse of the unit system, all these favorable conditions for supporting women's equal status no longer exist.

Women need socialism more than men. Men lose socialism, they can still get capitalism;And women, who have lost socialism, often have only feudalism.

If you don't believe it, you can take a look at the titles of "national husband" and "national father", which can exist in two people for so many years.

In the cooperative relationship, Party A, as the superior, is called Dad, in the capital market, the rich and rich, is called Dad, and in the power relationship, the person who controls life and death is called Dad.

See?They never ask others to call him dad, but there are always people who can't help but lick it, under the logic of the market, they are veritable "dads", but no one has ever said that they have daddy flavor.

So, there is also a layer of hidden logic in daddy, driven by the curtain power, those well-dressed, well-proportioned, and polite social "predators" have nothing to do with daddy, and manual laborers, people who don't pay attention to their speech, and don't look good are the true taste of daddy.

It's like only those who have money are called uncles, and those who don't have money can only be old dicks.

Having rejected the new socialist culture, there are only three paths to take, either feudalism, neoliberalism, or imperialism.

Feudalism has already seen, and what about neoliberalism, it is true that it has destroyed the male-centric social structure that has existed since ancient times, and it is not surprising that feminism has expectations for it.

The female victors of neoliberal reforms, who can be barren and childless, without having to provide for their families, and who are paid the same higher salaries as men. They are elite women in the truest sense of the word.

Although they are envied by many people, this is precisely the father's **, fighting in the law of the jungle, and castrating their own desires and fertility in order to achieve worldly success, and finally it has become a posture of exploiting the inferior.

Professor Dai Jinhua once said that when he was young, it was a common thing to choose not to marry or have children, and there was no need to make such a big show today.

On the contrary, when she and her contemporaries make the choice of marriage and childbearing, they will feel a little embarrassed to explain it to their friends, because it is too "vulgar" and a submission to the world of bourgeois that everyone ridicules.

The modern capitalist society is extremely patriarchal, and since the Western Enlightenment, it has been determined that the rational subject society is the internal structure of the capitalist society, all of which slowly went bankrupt after World War II.

The third point is the "paternal culture" created by imperialism, which was proposed by Bian Qin in "Who is directing the world".

She said that when Western movies tell about China, the role of "father" is always the opposite angle, the good is absent, and the bad is ignorant and bullying.

"Father's death" is a line that cannot be crossed by the "political correctness" of China-related films, and it is consciously observed by every Western artist.

Young people, especially children, who have been infected by the details of "father's death" at the subconscious level for a long time, will breed almost instinctive distrust and even disgust and disgust for their own civilization and their homeland from the depths of their souls, which is very similar to the mental journey of a child who lacks father's love.

Domestic literary and artistic colonists have obviously gone beyond it and made a lot of such "father's death" movies.

In China** and film and television culture, the image of the father is either a non-existent character, or exists as an obscene image, or an imperial power.

In the 80s, in Zhang Yimou's "Red Sorghum", my grandfather "killed Li Datou, who was suffering from leprosy, and this killing was done from two aspects, one was with "my grandmother" in the sorghum field, completing the spiritual killing of the father, and the other was the physical completion of the "killing of the father".

In the new century, he filmed "The City is Full of ** Armor", Thanos's father caused the harem**, and the betrayal of his son, which eventually led to an irreparable tragedy, and the son led the army to prepare to kill his father.

The first part of this year's "Fengshen" continues to stage the drama of killing fathers.

The Chinese civilization respects the father and the mother, and there is no European Oedipus plot, and what will be the consequences of long-term patricide and continuous creation of the father's original sin theory?

Any civilization or country in the world needs a "father", and I am talking about a father in the cultural sense. The father is the authority and protector, but also the sense of security, and more importantly, the father also represents the traditional and mainstream values, and is the soul of the family and society.

A society in which fathers are respected is often a society with more stability and cohesion. Conversely, if the father is not respected, it often means the dawn of a turbulent, revolutionary era.

In mainstream American movies, although there are also homeless fathers who drink and take drugs, the godfather, the father who is the spiritual pillar of the family, is the mainstream.

In the sixties and seventies, young students rose up in the anti-war movement, the feminist movement, the hippie movement, etc., the so-called rebellion against patriarchy and the overthrow of authority, which had a huge impact on American society.

And in the 80s, after Reagan and Margaret Thatcher came to power, neoconservatism arose, and movies began to re-emphasize family values and return to the arms of fathers.

"Forrest Gump", which Chinese audiences are most familiar with,Forrest Gump, the embodiment of conservative values, finally won the position of father, while Jenny, who dared to rebel against mainstream American values and was keen on the anti-war movement and the feminist movement, died of AIDS.

It is impossible for society to be without a father, if you don't recognize your "biological father", you will find a spiritual father, a gold father, a Thanos father, a father who is angry in the bureau, and the "great father" is not respected, so you can only recognize the thief as your father, and the richer you are, the more you can be a father.

I know that many young bourgeoisie who can write beautiful articles and fashionable opinions can change their tricks and use 10,000 methods, using the pen as a knife, or cruel and bloody, or warm and affectionate, to attack "daddy" and "daddy" as useless.

I admit that there are a group of garbage dads in society, even scum dads, and they should also be eliminated by society, but is this really the mainstream?It's not so much that they hate garbage dads, but that they hate "trash dads".

Because their criticism can't avoid a problem, that is, what they dislike is the old father who lives in the countryside, is old and slow, has no pension, has squeezed his life dry, and burned his body to the ground, maybe he has a furrowed face, speaks loudly, is a little rude, and is not decent enough.

What they hate most is that they don't have a father who has a bunch of keys pinned to his waist and can collect rent in a few buildings, he hates that he doesn't have a father who wears gold-rimmed glasses and talks and laughs with social elites, and he hates that he doesn't have an ATM father who can keep gold coins at any time and has no limit.

The vanity and closeness, hypocrisy and snobbery in this bone, no matter how much decency is packaged, also exudes a stench that is difficult to contain.

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