My sick and hospitalized daughter served me, and when I was discharged from the hospital, she asked me for a salary of 5,000 yuan
I'm Aunt Liu, and I'm 58 years old this year.
I have two daughters, and when the eldest daughter was born, the family was very poor and had to live in a house that other people didn't use often.
In order to improve our lives, my husband and I decided to go out to work at that time, so we sent our eldest daughter to my mother's house.
The eldest daughter's personality is more rebellious, and my mother can't control her. When she was in junior high school, she began to indulge in chatting and dating with netizens, and her studies began to be abandoned. No matter how hard my husband and I tried to persuade us, it didn't work.
At that time, my youngest daughter had just entered the third grade, and she was also taken care of by my mother. The matter with my eldest daughter was a huge blow to me. Having learned my lesson, I decided to go back to my hometown and take my little daughter personally.
I have been paying attention to my youngest daughter's Xi, and she is relatively obedient. Eventually, she was admitted to a major university and found a good job after graduation.
At this time, the eldest daughter is still facing social pressure. Compared to her sister, she is full of imbalance in her heart, thinking that we are partial to her sister and owe her.
The eldest daughter was married on a blind date, and the son-in-law has a college degree. A year after they got married, they welcomed the birth of their little grandson. According to our local Xi, it is enough for my grandmother to give 10,000 yuan in red envelopes.
I asked my eldest daughter in advance if I could give 10,000 yuan, and at the same time, we also bought gold pendants, clothes, cradles and toy cars for my grandson, which cost about 6,000 yuan in total.
However, the attitude of the eldest daughter has changed drastically. She told us that 10,000 yuan may not be enough, at least 20,000 yuan. She felt that when she was a child, we did not strictly supervise her studies, resulting in her having no academic qualifications, and her in-laws were already a little dismissive of her. Now that she has a child, as a mother's family, we can't let her lose face anymore.
I hesitated for a moment and tried to discuss: Can I give 10,000 yuan first?The remaining 10,000 yuan will be given when the grandson is one year old. After all, her father had just bought a scooter, and the family had no savings.
The eldest daughter did not understand our difficulties at all, and only cared about her own thoughts. She said: If you don't have money, you can borrow it, our family has so many relatives, isn't it easy to borrow 10,000 yuan?
In the end, I tried my best to scrape together 20,000 yuan and gave it to my daughter at my grandson's full moon banquet. However, her expression was so indifferent that one could not see joy, as if we were just paying off our debts.
After the youngest grandson was weaned, the eldest daughter sent him back to his hometown to work with his son-in-law.
gave birth to a second child, and the child under the age of one was also sent back to her hometown by the eldest daughter.
One year, she called me, lamenting the hard work and meager income, and proposed to open a store that sold clothes. It just so happened that there was a transferred clothing store on the street where she lived, ** was 120,000 yuan, and she hoped that I could support the funds.
It's okay to support some funds, but she should have some savings of her own, so she won't be completely dependent on me for $120,000.
However, the eldest daughter said righteously: "My sister has read so many books, I only went to junior high school, and it didn't cost you much money, so I should be compensated by you for the 120,000 yuan." ”
Although I was a little hesitant, in order to avoid a gap with her, I finally gritted my teeth and agreed, after all, I happened to have a deposit on hand.
Based on my years of social experience and knowledge of my eldest daughter, I proposed that she first work in a well-run clothing store for a few months to gain some experience, such as clothing display skills, event planning to attract customers, and understanding which types of clothes are more popular in the market.
However, she was reluctant to accept my suggestion, believing that I was deliberately not giving her money. She also said that if it was her sister, I would definitely support it directly. In the end, she even said that if she needed help in the future, she would not call me again.
In the face of her insistence, I had to compromise, and her store opened as scheduled.
The eldest daughter started with a large collection of clothes and filled the store, but there were few customers. In the first week, I only had a turnover of 500 yuan, and I couldn't even pay the rent and utility bills.
The business of the store was lackluster, and the eldest daughter had to think that she was unlucky, and finally closed the store, and the 120,000 yuan I supported became a loss.
This year I got sick and the hospital found out that it was a kidney stone, and the stone was quite large and needed surgery.
After learning the news, my youngest daughter rushed back quickly, went through the hospitalization procedures for me, and paid a one-time advance of 20,000 yuan for hospitalization.
The doctor advised me to stay in the hospital for about 5 days, when my eldest daughter had just quit her last job and had not yet found a new job. I wanted her to take care of me during this time.
The eldest daughter agreed, but unexpectedly, after being discharged from the hospital, she actually asked me for 5,000 yuan for escort fees.
I was stunned for a moment, thinking I had misheard. I asked her puzzledly, "You are my own daughter, shouldn't you take care of each other?"My sister helped me pay for the medical expenses of 20,000 yuan, do you have to charge for a few days with me?”
The eldest daughter responded in a high voice, and said confidently: "It is natural for my sister to give more, you have spent a lot of time and energy training her to go to college." And I'm different, you keep throwing me to my grandmother just for me to go to junior high school.
So I think you owe me, and it is natural to accompany you for 5 days and 5 nights and give me 5,000 wages. ”
I felt angry and helpless, and the figures of my two grandsons came to mind. So I calmly said to her, "You also leave your children in the care of her grandmother now, right?"In the future, when you are old, will your children also fulfill their responsibility to take care of you?”
The eldest daughter stared at me, the corners of her mouth pursed slightly, and she reluctantly replied after a long time: "I am different from you, I will treat me fairly." You are better for your sister, and I feel wronged. ”
Since consensus cannot be reached, it is not worth the effort. I made up my mind and coldly offered to give her 5,000 yuan, write an agreement to dissolve the paternity, and ask a relative to be a witness. From then on, she was no longer my daughter, and I was no longer her mother.
Finally, I added, "Don't be surprised if your two children follow your example in the future." ”
The eldest daughter saw that I was telling me what I was saying, and left after a few more complaints, never mentioning money again, but also not apologizing for her actions.
I chose to keep my distance and no longer reach out to her, nor would I be swayed by any unreasonable requests from her. Otherwise she'll just think more that I owe her, further escalating.