In the complex love stage, we often encounter all kinds of strange emotions, and a contest about confidence and unconfidence is a hot topic on social platforms recently. There was once a variety show called "Your Life is Beautiful", which in its unique form deeply analyzed a pair of "wonderful couples" - Ze Peng and Nana, which attracted wide attention from the audience. Let's work together to ** what kind of psychological code is hidden behind this relationship.
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Zepeng, a self-proclaimed confident man, always boasts about everything about himself triumphantly. However, observing the show, it was found that this self-confidence was just a manifestation of his inner inferiority. He constantly needs the approval of others to fill the emptiness in his heart. And Nana, who is beautiful and has excellent work ability, is mired in inferiority complex and relies on Zepeng all day long, giving up her independence. This asymmetrical relationship has aroused strong doubts from the audience, but it also reflects the lack of clear self-awareness and sufficient self-confidence of both of them.
When analyzing this phenomenon, expert observer Lu Yue pointed out that although the two have very different personalities, they are essentially due to insufficient self-awareness and lack of self-confidence. Zepeng's self-confidence on the surface is just a cover for his inner inferiority, while Nana is lost in the shadow of the other party because of her lack of self-confidence. This complementary relationship begs the question of why anyone would be willing to do so unequally
It is mentioned in the show that many women who lack self-confidence are attracted to men who are overconfident. They think such men are attractive, as if they know everything, and they can be relied on. This also explains why some beautiful girls, even Bai Fumei, fall into emotional traps and even be "deceived" by people who are not as good as them. Behind this phenomenon is that they have not been able to establish a healthy and complete personality in the process of growing up.
The biggest misconception of love is that it makes you think that only sacrifice is the way to make love burn. This view was confirmed in the show. Excessive compromise is not true love, but weakness. True love is when two separate individuals come together, complementing each other rather than sacrificing themselves. Therefore, in a relationship, an equal relationship is crucial. As mentioned in the show, "fighting poison with poison" may be a funny saying, but the truth behind it is worth pondering. In a relationship, the posture of both parties is too low, which can lead to imbalance, so withdrawing in time may be the most correct posture in the face of an inappropriate relationship.
In addition to the problem of self-confidence in love, another hot spot in recent gender relationships, "sister and brother love", has also attracted much attention. "Your Life Looks Good" uses a series of real-life cases, such as "The Next Stop is Happiness", "Rational Life" and "Heartbeat Again" to analyze this phenomenon in depth. Li Weijia pointed out that this is a manifestation of the progress of young people, who are more and more daring to break the shackles of traditional thinking and live their true lives.
However, sibling love also brings a series of problems, especially in the relationship of "strong women and weak men". Experts note that in this case, how should the parties balance their relations?Solutions aren't set in stone, but need to be individualized. Some people choose a "stupid" and indifferent attitude like Zeng Hanjiang mentioned in the show, while a wise sister like Li Feier encourages the other party to find their excellent side. Through the cases of Mao Mao and Xiyang, the play proposes a solution to break the inherent thinking, emphasizing that the main interior is not separated from society, but to create a family atmosphere and improve the quality of life.
The variety show not only involves emotional issues, but also deeply discusses the phenomenon of "social fear" in social and workplace. Social phobia has almost become a common "symptom" of urban people, and it has caused widespread resonance. Lu Yue believes that social phobia is not just a negative word, it can be seen as a sign of a lack of social activity. Society has come to accept this phenomenon and recognize that everyone has different social needs.
However, social fear should not be a fig leaf for low emotional intelligence.