Since the opening of the second and third children, there have always been some voices on the Internet discussing: What kind of person is suitable for having children?
Some people say that there must be a lot of love, some people say that there must be a lot of money, but no one can **, whether love can be eternal, whether money can last long.
Good is worth looking forward to, but more often than not, most people are often accompanied by pain, just imagine, if your life is destined to be mediocre, then would you be willing to let your descendants continue to live like this?
There is an example that fits perfectly into this situation, and even more extreme, and that is the story of "bird-faced syndrome" mom Wang Xiaoniu and her son.
Osamu Dazai said, "I was born as a human being, I'm sorry", this sentence is also applicable to Wang Xiaoniu in Zhumadian, Henan, some people's misfortunes have begun from the moment they were born.
In 1994, Wang Xiaoniu was born in an ordinary rural family, but her life is not destined to be ordinary, due to the backward ideological concept and medical level, Wang Xiaoniu's mother was superstitious about folk prescriptions during pregnancy, and took medicine indiscriminately, resulting in Wang Xiaoniu being born after her appearance was different from ordinary people.
When Wang Xiaoniu's parents saw Wang Xiaoniu for the first time, their faces were full of shock, she was as delicate as other newborns, and her hair was black and shiny.
But if you look closely at her face, you will see that her eyes are small and slanted, her nose is protruding, and her auricle has only a small sarcoma, which is like a bird.
At first, they thought that it might be that the newborn had not yet grown, and it would be fine when the child was older, but after a year or two, Wang Xiaoniu never got better, and even as she grew older, the bird-faced features in her facial features became more and more obvious.
Now Wang Xiaoniu's parents couldn't sit still, the two had been married for many years, and finally had a child, but because of their bird faces, they were ridiculed by the villagers.
Many people secretly pointed fingers at them, there are only a few families in a village, and Wang Xiaoniu's matter has long been known to everyone.
Someone suggested that they take Wang Xiaoniu to do an examination, I don't know if I don't check, I was shocked when I checked, Wang Xiaoniu's situation belongs to a very rare "bird face syndrome", the probability of getting this disease is about one in a million, it may be inherited from parents, or it may be caused by genetic mutations.
Considering that your family does not seem to have such a genetic history, it is obvious that people with "bird-face syndrome" not only have physical impairment, but may also have obvious symptoms such as deafness and mental retardation.
In those years, how many families were ignorant, took medicine indiscriminately, and finally bore the bitter consequences, only ignorant and ignorant children, some of them died before they grew up, and even if they were lucky to survive, they lived in endless inferiority and cowardice.
Wang Xiaoniu is the latter, since she was a child, she has been ridiculed by the children of the whole village, they laugh at her for being ugly, and even secretly do some pranks to trick her, no one wants to be friends with such an alien as her.
It is said that children are naïve and don't understand anything, but because of this, the harm they bring to others is more direct, Wang Xiaoniu at school is sensitive and inferior, she doesn't understand why fate is so unfair to herself.
Later, Wang Xiaoniu gradually became tired of school, her grades were average, and the teacher never paid attention to this mediocre child, perhaps because life was too depressing, and before she finished junior high school, Wang Xiaoniu decided to drop out of school and go out to work.
But Wang Xiaoni, who has no looks and no education, can go to the **?
She went to set up a stall, but the guests saw her and walked away, only some low-end jobs such as restaurants could barely take her in, and in those years, she had done almost all the jobs she could, but the meager income was only barely enough to make ends meet.
After puberty, Wang Xiaoniu loves to dress up very much, and she once secretly consulted a doctor, and the reply she got was that this "bird-face syndrome" can be obtained, not to mention whether it can return to normal, missing the best ** time and high surgery costs has already discouraged her.
As she grew older, Wang Xiaoniu also complained about why her parents gave birth to her, but looking at her parents' aging faces and the heart she had done for herself over the years, there were some words that she could never say.
I can only pray silently in my heart, if possible, I want to live like a normal person in the next life, and I don't want others to see me like a monster. ”
However, this life is destined to be unchangeable, she can only learn to re-examine her life with a positive and optimistic attitude, maybe life is the best gift her parents give her, as for the rest, give it to the future.
What does the future look like for Wang Xiaoniu?It is enough to have a home of your own, a lover, and a child, not to pursue great wealth and wealth, but to hope for a safe and smooth life.
In fact, she knows that such a future seems simple, but for her, it is difficult, her parents have arranged many blind dates for Wang Xiaoniu, they are too old to take care of Wang Xiaoniu for a lifetime, but when they get married, it is often the man who sees Wang Xiaoniu's face and refuses in a hurry.
Finally, there was a person who was willing to accept Wang Xiaoniu, but he was still forced by his mother's pressure.
In 2012, Wang Xiaoniu and Yuan Dabao, who met on a blind date, entered the palace of marriage, he has good facial features and handsome appearance, the only deficiency is lameness caused by injury.
Wang Xiaoniu herself said that at the beginning, Yuan Dabao thought she was ugly and embarrassed when she went out, and she waited for eight years before waiting for her husband's sincerity.
In the past eight years, she has been filial to her in-laws and housework, even if she is a hard-hearted person, she will be softened by Wang Xiaoniu, although their conditions are not rich, Wang Xiaoniu followed her in-laws and did scrap acquisition business in Wenzhou, but she was already content.
The relationship between husband and wife gradually strengthened, and Wang Xiaoniu also became more and more confident in Yuan Dabao's encouragement, and she often fantasized about how good it would be if she had a child of her own.
But in the same way, Wang Xiaoniu is also hesitating, these years, with the popularity of the Internet, she has a deeper understanding of bird-faced syndrome, this disease, has been carried in her genes, rashly conceived offspring, resulting in a very high probability of inheritance.
The hardships she has endured herself, do she want the next generation to repeat the mistakes of the past?The world is impermanent, no one can be 100% ** future, some people try their best to do things, there is always only one step away, and some people have no intention of planting willows and willows.
At the beginning of 2013, Wang Xiaoniu, who had no birth plan for the time being, found out that she was unexpectedly pregnant.
For Wang Xiaoniu's descendants, the genetic probability of "bird-face syndrome" is very high, and for a while, whether the child should stay or not has become a problem for the whole family.
From an ethical point of view, reproduction has become an instinct, since being able to feel the existence of the child, Wang Xiaoniu seems to have changed a person, she is no longer as big as before, but careful every day, for fear of disturbing the fetus, for her, this child is the continuation of her life, no matter what, as a mother, she can not let go.
But from a social perspective, once a child inherits such a disease, can such a poor family give the child a happy life?
For a while, no one could give a clear answer, they began to actively cooperate with the doctor to do the prenatal check-up work, and each time they came to the conclusion that the fetus was normal, which was like a heart booster, which strengthened the determination of the husband and wife.
For Wang Xiaoniu, who lives and grew up in the countryside, no matter what, she hopes to have a child of her own, and the same is true for Yuan Dabao, who always pays attention to this child, for fear that there will be a little problem.
October pregnancy, all say that motherhood is just, that is because during pregnancy, childbirth, a mother has suffered unimaginable pain, morning sickness, insomnia, inconvenience, these things, often only experienced to experience, maternal love, is undoubtedly the world's most selfless and great emotion.
Wang Xiaoniu does not regret going through these, her only worry is whether the child is healthy, perhaps, the emperor lives up to the painstaking people, in 2013, in the anxious eyes of everyone, Wang Xiaoniu gave birth to a baby boy safely.
His eyes are small, closed like two lines, his round face is chubby and cute, and more importantly, the child's appearance is normal, very similar to Yuan Dabao, and he must be a handsome young man when he grows up.
Wang Xiaoniu couldn't stop crying at the first sight of the child, and at this moment, she felt that all her persistence and all the hardships she had endured were not in vain.
The birth of a new life has brought countless laughter and laughter to the family, and the whole family is immersed in such joy, they have even forgotten about this terrible disease, if the first child is intact, then there must be no problem to have another child, midnight dream, Yuan Dabao has thought about this problem more than once.
He proposed this idea to Wang Xiaoniu, both children and daughters, make up a good word, such a life can be considered complete, he was lucky, but he never thought that good luck would not always favor them.
After the opening of the two-child policy, in 2017, Wang Xiaoniu, who was working outside, found out that she was pregnant again, this time, she was not as nervous as she was when she was pregnant for the first time, and she also thought in her heart that there would be no problem.
They went to the hospital for prenatal check-up as usual, and everything was as usual, but the doctor had warned Wang Xiaoniu more than once that the first child was normal, which did not mean that the second child would not be inherited, and for the sake of Wang Xiaoniu and her family, he did not recommend giving birth.
But at this time, Wang Xiaoniu couldn't listen to it, she was full of eyes full of having another daughter, in 2018, the obstetrics and gynecology department was as lively as usual, Wang Xiaoniu was pushed into the operating room, and when she opened her eyes, a boy who looked exactly like her came into view, Yuan Dabao was full of guilt, and didn't dare to look at Wang Xiaoniu more.
Although it was not explicitly said, Wang Xiaoniu was sure that this was her child, and for a moment, Wang Xiaoniu's mind was blank, and she wanted to take another look and confirm it, but her weak body was no longer able to support it, and there was silence in the ward.
If the first birth can be regarded as maternal love, then the second time can it be called selfishnessFor his own selfish desires, he brought his child into the world, but he never thought about how he would face the world in the future.
It is foreseeable that everything that Wang Xiaoniu has encountered may be repeated in this child, excluded and bullied, even if she is lucky enough to get married and have children, who can guarantee that the next generation will repeat the mistakes of the past.
It seems to be caught in a strange circle, even if you try desperately to live, you will always be in such a cycle, and the price you need to pay to break this life is very affordable.
In 2020, the doctor concluded that the child had certain mental retardation, and there would be language barriers, Wang Xiaoniu looked at the crying child, and felt the feeling of her parents for the first time, she wanted to give the child a better childhood and a brighter future.
Since **, the rise of live streaming has driven a group of people, Wang Xiaoniu, who lives in Wenzhou, has felt the power of the Internet very early, she created a Douyin account, and Yuan Dabao started a live streaming business together.
They mainly deal in agricultural and sideline products from all over the world, growing up in the countryside, Wang Xiaoniu is simply easy to get local products, and she can tell the story behind the fruit of each product.
But the sad thing is that at first, almost no one paid attention to what Wang Xiaoniu said, they were attracted by such a peculiar face, and even questioned whether Wang Xiaoniu chose such special effects for grandstanding.
If she can have a choice, that woman doesn't want to be beautiful in the hearts of the public, Wang Xiaoniu smiled bitterly, she also wants to enjoy the sunshine like a normal person, but she was born with a disease that gave her a chance to choose at all.
Such a deformed face brought her attention and traffic, especially when Wang Xiaoniu appeared in front of the camera with her second child, people questioned why she had a child knowing that she was flawed.
In this regard, Wang Xiaoniu was speechless, she held the child and cried silently, because she was ugly, she would be ridiculed when she went out to play with the child, no one wanted to be friends with them, she wondered if she deserved to be scolded because she was ugly.
The world has never lacked malice, on the contrary, kindness is more precious, and it should be cherished, Yuan Dabao spoke in support of Wang Xiaoniu, saying that she was just sick, and under each of Wang Xiaoniu's **, you can find a speech to encourage her.
The appearance is given by her parents, no matter what, life has to go on, it is such heart-warming words that make Wang Xiaoniu choose to continue to be active in the public eye.
Many of her ** are to record the trivialities of life, and some will bring their children to appear on the camera, although Wang Xiaoniu has been Xi to dissect her pain to the public, but childishness is not good.
Premature ** will only make this child fall into the pain that Wang Xiaoniu experienced earlier, and we don't know if he can have the strength that Wang Xiaoniu is now.
Back to the beginning, more than one person questioned why Wang Xiaoniu took the risk of giving birth to a second child.
Things have come to this point, can not be changed, now Wang Xiaoniu has been able to face the ups and downs of the outside world calmly, I hope that life will be kind to everyone who loves it.